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i'm scared this is gonna put me in hot water.
this is gonna get long, sorry.
my ex and i dated for a almost 17 months and we were amazing together. understood each other, never once fought in all that time, just completely compatible. but we broke up in november for complicated reasons. i started dating another guy in january/february who i had been sort of crushing on since august. things went way down hill and we started fighting alottt, mainly because of his jealous, obsessive ways. we're currently on a break/broken up but still kinda together. basically, we just dont have the title right now but we act the same and are hoping things will get fixed. my ex has not dated anyone else. we still love each other, and we know it. we were each others first loves, talked about getting married, everything. and i dont doubt that we still will end up married. we still talk, he tells me he loves me, and i resist from saying it because of my current guy. my mom and i were talking tonight and even she told me how great my ex and i were together. i wanna tell him soo bad that i will always have feelings for him, and that i hope one day we will end up back together, possibly forever. just everything ive been keeping in since the breakup. the only thing that's holding me back is the current sorta-boyfriend. i love him alot, but i know it's not gonna be forever. when we're not fighting, we're great together and he's so much fun, and we've wanted to be together ever since we met. but i feel like i just really need to get this off my chest to my ex. last night he said he loved me, i was playing around and said 'naww you dont'. he said 'yeah i do, i know you dont love me anymore, but i still do'. that almost killed me. and i wanted to say all this then soo bad! but i feel as if that wouldnt be loyal to the sorta-boyfriend. i would never cheat on him, especially with my ex. but ARGH! they dont like each other, so they dont talk, so im not worried about word getting around if i talk to my ex. i just dont know if it's the right thing to do. i want him to know im still here, ya know? i figure technically im single, so i dont know what it would really hurt, but a part of me is saying it would be wrong. like i said, i love my sorta-boyfriend, and it would break my heart if we broke up for good, so it's not like i would immediately go running back to my ex, but in the future, i can totally see it happening. and i know he would give anything to have me back. gosh i just need someone to help me.
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i would break up with your current boyfriend because, like you said, you fight all the time, hes jealous and obsessive, and you and your ex are a match made in heaven basically, if you guys never fought and loved each other, etc. your ex is probaly the right one for you so dont waste that chance on someone whos not.
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In almost any case you'd care to name, honesty is the best policy. For you, this means two things:
1) Tell your ex what your feelings are for him, if any. Not only will it get it off your chest, but I'm sure it will help with getting you two back together, which seems like something you both want.
2) Tell your current sort-of boyfriend where your relationship stands. He has a right to know.
Granted, these things are easier said than done, but the right thing to do usually is.
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Heyy. From what i read i think you still have very strong feelings for your ex, and theres nothing wrong with that. I also think that the relationshio with your current guy isn't really a healthy, you may still like him but it seems like you are only still with him because you feel loyal, but i don't think thats fair to you or him. You say you fight a lot and you currently aren't even together. I really think you should tell your current guy that you have feelings for him but it isn't working. It may be hard but i feel like youlike the idea of your relationship with him instead of him. If you can't see your relationship lasting, whats the point in being in it?
I also think you should definitely tell your ex how you feel. Its not fair to him to say i love you and for him to think you don't have feeings for him when you clearly do, haha.
I think you should tell him that right now isn't the time but you do love him but you do see yourself with him again.
Sorry my answers long but i really hope i helped. Lemme know what you decide to do! <3 =]
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