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i cant live without my bestfriend/lover?!
hi there,
okay well..iv'e had this guy friend. "bestfriend" for about two years now, and he's great. He's actually more then great he's the best! he makes me laugh like no one else, im comfortable around him, and we just get eachother. we've never been more then "bestfriends" even though it always ran through my mind & some people would request it. i don't think nor do i believe there's anyone else out there that can make me happier then him. PROBLEMS.. hah number ONE he says he "hates me" i guess it goes with his mean humor i know he doesnt mean it. and he says it a lot. i know he's joking, we used to fight a lot about this "joking" that would upset me because it would go to far.. anyways i feel like when he says he hates me its like his code, like he's covering up for i love you because were "bestfriends"..problem TW0! were going to different highschools next yr because i moved and im afraid im gonna lose the one person who makes me feel best.. i dont know what to do, he's not one to let go ..even though im not sure how he feels. sorry if this was confusing, i just need help ASAP :( thanks!
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I just recently went through the same thing. Your guy isn't the only one using a code. I can pretty much garentee he likes you. So, now for the advice.
#1 f you like him back then great, because he likes you. If you think it's worth a try then take a risk. Unless your highschools are super far away then it really shouldn't stop you. Even if they are, if you guys are as great as friends as it sounds (or could be more) then you guys should find a way to work it out
#2 WARNING: relationships often ruin friendships. I'm not saying if you two were to go for it that it wouldn't work, but keep in mind your idea of a boyfriend. Does he fit? Although he might be a great best friend he may not be that way as a boyfriend. Also he may not know how to handle actually BEING in a relationship with YOU.
#3 if you do go for it: make sure you discuss how things would work if you broke up. Can he handle it? If you don't think he can then having an awesome frienship is better then a short relationship and losing him.
So my advice to you is tell him how you feel, and make sure you guys stay as close friends as you are now when/if you ever ARE in a relationship
#4 good luck!
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Hey, it's kittzen,
Listen i think your right you may lose him, but if you tell him how you feel about him you may push him anyway pluse if he feels t he same than the long distance relationship will kill. what you need to do is simply you need to visit, chat, text, email, and even hang out. don't lose your special friend just because your far away and than when you move back or get older and con be around him more than if you still feel the same tell than he will know than your around if he wants you or feels the same.
Best of luck,
Kittzen
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Hey hon.
I normally don't give relationship/romance advice, but I have been in a similar situation so I'll try to help.
First of all, I agree about the whole 'I hate you thing'. I'm sure he's just playing and it's entirely possible that he uses that phrase to mask deeper feelings. At the very least, he cares about you enough to be your best friend, which is a lot!
Secondly, I really think that if you're going to pursue him for a relationship, now is the time. Even if he rejects you (which I think is unlikely - I'll get to that in a second), next year you will have the space you need to get over him, since you are going to different highschools. Adversely, if you don't tell him and he IS interested in you, you might grow apart and lose your chance.
Honestly, if you think he likes you, he probably does. I assume you know him very well, and a girls instincts are generally right about this sort of thing. I know it's a big risk and that there's a lot to lose, but I'm happy to say I took the same risk once and I've been with the boy involved for three years now. :) Things really can work out, and if you have faith they probably will.
Anyways I don't know how helpful it was, but it's just what sprung to mind. I'm typing to you at nearly 3 in the morning where I am, so my thoughts are a little fuzzy!
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if he loved you, he wouldn't want to let you go, so you wouldn't have a problem. i think after you move, you should continue to stay friends but check out other people so you can have more options just because there's a chance you might find someone better.
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