Gender: Female
Location: vancouver, canada
Age: 14
Member Since: July 5, 2008
Answers: 17
Last Update: August 17, 2008
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i'm 15 and me and this guy are boyfriend and girlfriend for a week now. he's truely amazing and i do love him. the problem is that we have never been on a date before. we've seen each other because he goes to my school and we had classes together last year, and i see him when i have sports practice. so its not like we haven't seen each other for a long time. its just that we are both so busy that we can never really hang out just the 2 of us. so i need advice on what to do about this. is he really my boyfriend if we have never been on a date before? even when we see each other, we give each other hugs but thats it. no kiss, no holding hands or anything. and the reason for that is because we are always with other friends and we have never done that together before and it would be really akward. we would do it if we were alone but since we are not its kind of weird. help!!! (link)
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Uhm well the obvious answer is kind of just to hang out alone. Doesn't have to be special. But the point is if you consider yourselves a couple then you're a couple. You don't need to rush into the private stuff. However if you guys don't do anything as a couple then it probably just feels like you two just like eachother. There's a difference between liking someone and dating them. Make sure that's clear with you too. Btw using the word love for him when you've only been "dating" a week is a little fast. I mean, love him as a friend i guess, but (now, i'm not saying there's a time limit on how long you have to know someone to fall in love, and i'm not saying anythings too fast) but at our age (i'm 15 too) love is a stronger word then most teenagers can grasp- this includes myself. Plus, guys scare easy. I wouldn't get TOO serious with him.
Anyway hope i helped. Good luck.
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I know I want to do something in art when I go to university next year but I don't know what to study.
I feel like I can't really make much money from doing something in the art industry but.
What makes a lot of money in art as a career?
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I am actually in the same dillema, although i'm a few years behind you. Keep in mind that working in a field of art you're most passionate about/are best at will almost always get you the most money, but with that in mind the best art paying jobs are graphic and logo design. Depending on how much other work you wish to do, interior, or architectural design can also land you some good money. Being a regular artist is very hard to do. Although it depends what style of art. You are more likely to get more money in modern art then you are doing traditional painting/sculpture. Also graduating from the right school will of course make life way easier eg. l.a. arts will land you much better jobs then a school like san fransisco art centre, although it gives generally the same schooling.
Hope this helps.
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I woke up with stomach pains yesterday, and when I went to the doctor, he told me we'd have to wait a day and that if it persisted, he would check for appendicitis. It still hurts today, but not as much. I told my mom I'd rather kill myself than have someone carve into me with a knife, and I meant it. I saw how they performed an appendectomy on Lost, and I know it's not gonna feel good but, I don't wanna go through that! I asked my friend, who had it done, and ALL she told me was : "all I know is I was crying like a bitch!", and then she laughed, which wasn't much help. Do you feel them digging in to you, or do you only feel it after the operation? Does it really hurt that much? What the heck do we have that crap in our body for in the first place?! Thanks in advance guys. (link)
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Ok, you should really know it's not at all like that. Btw i speak from experiance as i have had an appendectomy. Firstly, i doubt you have appendicitis because normally you don't feel better until it's removed. Appendicitis is EXTREMELY painful and it's almost unbearable, but i assume your friend was talking about the actual appendicitis, not the appendectomy because #1 you are asleep for the surgery and you don't feel it, and #2 you automatically feel a TON better when you wake up from the surgery because the pain from your appendix is gone. As well, lost is a t.v. show.. they're bound to dramatize. The actual procedure is done by three small incisions of lines about --- so big. they take out your appendix while you are asleep and medicated. When you wake up you would be on pain killers and would (although you wouldn't feel WELL) you'd feel MUCH better. Hope this helps.
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ok, so im going to a private high school this year and i dont know anyone else whos going.
people keep telling me that everyones in the same situation and that ill make new friends but i dont know. im really nervous that i wont and that people will hate me :[
any advice? (: (link)
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Having changed schools in the middle of the year, i know the fear. In my experiance at private school, i find people are cliquier, so it is a little harder, but relax. Have a little confidence. There's no reason for anyone to "hate you." There are two good ways to make friends. Either start with a bang (like, be really outgoing, and confident, and totally be yourself) which is the great way, but it only works for some people. Or when you meet people, ease them into your personality (for example, start off generally neutral, and the more you get to know them the more of your personality will show). That way they won't be overwhelmed by anything. Just try to make sure you make friends with the people you want to be friends with the first time. Because if you discover you don't like the people you're friends with, it's hard to intergrate your way in or out of a group once they're made. It can be done, it's just harder. Anyway, the point is, you'll be fine. You'll make friends- everyone does. So just relax, and good luck!
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i'm 16. female. 118 pounds.
i run alot..and bicycle..and elliptical..and arm weights..and do different ab exercises. altogether it takes me about 2 hours a night.
how many calories should i be eating a day to lose a little pudge in my lower stomach and upper thighs?
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Are you ok? 118 pounds is a GOOD WEIGHT. Relax. Please. You really don't need to lose weight. Believe me counting calories is a BAD way to live. The best way to lose weight (if you insist) is (obviously eat on the healthy side) but the MINUTE you start to get full stop. Even if you haven't finished. When you get full stop. Also snacking a lot rather then eating big meals helps.
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okay so im a girl and im not a lesbian or anything i just want to experiment i geuss but i mean how would i ask one of friends to mess around with me you know like not so noticeable way where i dont say gay i want to makeout and deel each others boobs and stuff again just experimenting but please just help me with a reall unoticeable way to ask or bring it up and start doing it with them (link)
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Best way to do it is just start a game of truth or dare. Have a few friends over (guys and girls if you want to avoid suspicion) and start a game. Dare a girl to kiss a girl, and chances are someone will dare you.
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I feel stupid. All the time. Embarrassed, unworthy. You name it. I have such low self esteem. And all my friends are just so perfect. They have perfect hair, perfect bodies, perfect social life, perfect boyfriends. In fact, I don't even know why they are friends with me at all. And I'm not jealous of them. That's so not a part of any of this. This has to do with me. I'm just saying that being surrounded by them just seems to make my life seem even worse.
I can't seem to do anything right. I mess up every friendship I have. My parents told me it's because I always drop everything if there's a friend in need. I support my friends to the extreme. They always take priority. This is because I don't want them to think I'm not a very good friend because I don't want them dumping me again and again and again. But, they never reciprocate the level of support that I give them. I just, can't seem to...do anything. I'm so stupid for even having friends. So so stupid. I shouldn't have any, because I'm selfish for expecting them to show their support for anything that I do. I feel as though I don't deserve their support, but I have to keep giving mine to them because I feel like they deserve it. I don't deserve it. I don't know why I would. They've made it pretty clear that I don't deserve anything from them.
Sorry if this is confusing. It's late, and I'm tired. But this all made sense in my head. It's just harder to get it out on paper...well, computer screen. Whatever. (link)
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Ok, i realize i don't know you so i don't really have the right to do this but i'm gonna be a yell at you for your own good. Listen to the whole thing. You really think you're THAT stupid?? I don't even know you and i know you're not. JUST because you screw up-probably not that often-
doesn't mean you can't do anything right. Everyone makes mistakes, everybody does things wrong. ALL THE TIME. You really think your friends lives are PERFECT? They're not. They have JUST as much trouble as you. They do as many things wrong as you. The only difference is they don't think the world is ending because they don't get an A, or they fight with their friend. Look, nobody's perfect. But just because you're not perfect doesn't mean you're a reck. Everyone has flaws and everyone makes mistakes. And let me tell you something that is the most important thing i've learned: Everyone gets a second chance. It doesn't matter how badly you screw up. I'm not saying if you DELIBERATLY do something badly you can do it over. But you may not know it, or see it, but everyone is forgiven at least once for things. Twice is kind of pushing it :P And you may not think you're "worthy of it" but to deny yourself a second chance is insulting to everyone else, and it just makes you as dumb THINK you are. You were having a bad day when you wrote this. Go out for lunch with your friends. Tell them how much you love them, and appreciate how they have their lives together. Ask them how they do it. You'll be surprised how much they have to compliment you on!
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i'm 15/f.
i'm really sad about mostly everything in my life. i can't feel happy ever it's like nothing makes me happy. i'm so depressed i'm about to sleep with a guy i've only dated once which i know is bad but there's nothing else i can do. i feel like i have to give in to the pressure of just having relationships for sex because no one wants me for anything else. I need to stop being depressed all the time but i can't. I've felt this way for like 4 years. If i had the balls to end my life right now i would. but i don't. so i'm pretty much stuck here.
i've been on meds and seen shrinks and stuff but nothing works for me. please give me some advice that wont make me feel worse.
i am tired of people calling me ugly and insulting my body. how do you handle that kind of treatment all the time.
i have no friends. i cant keep a relationship for more than 2 months. i hate life. (link)
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Wow, i am really sorry you feel this way. I have been there before, and i know how hard it is. You have to believe me when i say everything you said up there can change. The honest truth is there is always something you won't like about your body, there are always going to be people who don't like you, and there are always going to be relationships that just don't work. The best way to make yourself happy is to change what makes you unhappy. So make some major changes.
If you have no friends at your school- go to after school activities, parties, anything. I promise you'll find some friends. Worst comes to worst, tell you parents how unhappy you are and ask them to consider letting you change schools.
You can't depend on a relationship to make you happy. I'm not telling you not to date. But i think it's REALLY important to date only who you really like. NOT because they like you. NOT because you want a boyfriend. I HIGHLY suggest that you don't hook up with anyone for a long time. Being desperate doesn't help with getting a boyfriend. And even if you do like a guy a lot, don't date him if he only wants to date you because he's horny. Find a guy YOU really like and who REALLY likes you back. And you'll have to wait. Maybe a long time. But it really is worth it.
Lastly, the way you look really just doesn't matter. Think about it. You know that people who are "better looking then you" aren't better then you. They might have it made for them, they might be luckier, but you and i both KNOW they're not any better then you. Anybody who judges you by that just isn't worth your time. It's the ones who think you're beautiful EXACTLY the way you are that you want to have in your life.
You're so negative. Just think about what's going right in your life. It may not be much, but there's got to be something. You got an A, you finished writing something, or perfected a song on an instrument. Take your life day by day. Don't think about the whole week. Just think about the day. What do you have to do TODAY to get through and be happy. Not for tomorrow, not for the next year just TODAY. If it doesn't hurt anyone (this includes yourself) and it makes you happy- do it. You'll get by.
Good luck
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I really love my boyfriend weve been going out for over a year now and he never stops telling me he loves me, his friends tell him hes whipped all the time and they make fun of him because he never even looks at other girls anymore.the problem is, like many other boys he is really horny and yeah i like it sometimes when im in the mood for it but he always wants to do something like sometimes i dont even wanna make out i just want to lay with him.I dont no how to tell him this with out him getting upset because he gets upset easily and i dont wnt to insult him but idk how to say i dont always like him being that way. can some one please help me out
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One of the best ways to tell a guy who's sensitive about one of their downfalls is to tell them you love it when they do the opposite. So, if you're boyfriend is really horny try saying something like "i love just laying with you" or "it's so great that we can just hang out without needing to do stuff" and then give a great reason why. An alternative to that would be to tell him that for every time he does something you'd like him to do (like take you on a date without anything afterwards, or just hang out as friends etc.) you will do something that HE wants you to do. So, one day is just hanging out- the next is steamy make out session. You get the idea. Good luck!
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HEY,
well okay i have an awsome boyfriend. I love him to death, im really happy with him. I seriously have strong feelings for him, but here is the thing an old love has returned to town and i kind of been thinking about him. I dont want to mess up my relationship of 2 years with my boyfriend. Is it wrong what i feel, should i pay any attention to this feelings. Should i tell my boyfriend anything???? HELP. (link)
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It's not at all wrong to still have feelings about your ex, or to think about him. However it is wrong to follow through with those feelings. The thing about relationships is you have to give up feelings for guys so you can be with JUST one guy. My advice to you would be to #1 just relax because it's normal. #2 try and think about why you broke up, and why it's better with your current boyfriend and how much you love him. #3 Unless you're actually considering leaving your current boyfriend (which it sounds like you're not which is good) don't tell him about these feelings. It's fine to have feelings for your ex but there are some things your boyfriend just doesnt need to know. He probably doesn't WANT to know about your ex boyfriend thoughts either. So just lay low and remember how much you love your boyfriend.
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Why do people cheat?
If you are someone who has ever cheated on a partner, why did you do it?
Not passing judgments here, I just want some insight. (link)
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Usually you just love the attention. You feel like you're irresistable. At first. Most people (not all, believe me) feel ridiculously bad afterward. But the thing is usually that you're so insecure that you need the attention of more then one person. Of course there is the rare case when you're dating someone (like in the movies) and then you find someone else that you fall in love with.
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Hey guys,
So I have been writing lyrics for a little while. I like to write based on life experiences and my music reflects who I am. I am not good with writing music to go with it, but I have an idea of how I want the song to sound. I have always wanted to make a demo, but I am not quite sure how to go about. Does anyone have any ideas?
Thank you so much in advance. Writing lyrics is my dream. I love it!! (link)
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Well, i find the easiest way to get started on lyrics is to find just what you want it to be about. Figure out what you want to base the song on (whether it be your love life, or randomness) and once you've done that, stop with the lyrics for a little bit. Start on the tune. Figure out what you want the songs beat, tune, or key (i mean, minor/major) to be (btw i find it easiest to start with the beggining, then go to the chorus and then the middle etc. and after fill in the transitions). Once you have to tune in just try and fit some good words into the tune. Good luck!
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Im 15 and I have been going out with a guy on and off for 2 months now, and I really care about him and he really cares about me, he tells me he loves me and I think I love him, but he has some major mental problems from his past childhood, and me and him have some issues. So I just found out that my best friend Davids friend Likes me and hes a sweet guy and he doesnt haven mental problems, My problem is that My current bf the one with the problems is thinking about moving back to Maine with his mother, and the other guy livs in MA and I live in NH so either way if I went out with either one of them it would be a long distance relationship. Im not sure what to do at all! I really need someone to tell me which one of these guys to go for!! im just a confused women! (link)
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Hey,
Who you want to date is up to you. You really have to pick who you like/can see yourself with most. But, if you like them evenly then stick with the guy you're with. That's the thing about relationships- you have to pass up some perfectly good guys. You're in a commitment. However if this guy you're with's mental issues are a problem or they bother you then i would break if off. I've dated some really nice guys with really not nice issues, and trust me unless you're really serious it's not worth it. Regarding a long distance relationship: i am currently in one and let me tell you- it is NOT easy. Lucky for me we're pretty serious about each other and we can both trust each other. If you're not serious with either of them, or you can't trust them then a long distance relationship is gonna be too hard.
Anyway, just remember that these guys are here for you, so just figure out which makes you happiest. Good luck!
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So, my boyfriend wants to finger me but i'm afraid.. I mean I want to!.. but i'm scared it's going to hurt, i've never been fingered before, or fingered myself or wear tampons... is this going to hurt????!
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Mhm, i would deffinitly practice some yourself before you have him do it. It takes a while to get used to and the first time you do this you'll have absolutly no idea why anyone would VOLUNTARILY do this. It will hurt the first couple of times, but you get used to it. It gets better. Once you're comfortable then go for it.
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i tried on a condom the other day due to curiosity and found that the bottom of it was very tight around my penis and the condom was on very tight is this a problem (link)
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Although condoms should fit nice and snug, they shouldn't be too tight. If it hurts or is cutting off circulation then it's too small. But good news, condoms do come in different sizes. If you need one then find out what size the one you tried on was and get a larger size. The best news yet is: haha, at least you didn't need a SMALLER size :P
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i have a big problem here. im going into highschool this year and i havent had a girlfriend in such a long time. the last time i had a girlfriend was back in december and it was a girl in a lower grade then me. and i have lots of friends and everything and i guess im popular. ive mad friends with pretty much all the attractive girls. and if i would ask any of them out they all say "were too good of friends" and dont even give me a chance. it makes me so frustrated. i think they are lying to me and just saying that as an excuse. ive tried changing myself so they will like me but it doesnt work. i think its because im fat. i think im fat. i just want to know why none of my friends will date me?? it makes me so sad and it makes me want to give up (link)
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Hey,
don't be so hard on yourself. Sometimes we just don't think of you that way. Maybe the problem is just simply that you're a good friend. Sometimes we feel the boundary between friend and boyfriend needs to not be crossed.
Think about your personality- are you the type of person who is a "good friend" or are you a "good boyfriend." I mean, do you think people think of you as "boyfriend material"? If so then just keep searching. If not then what makes you not? if it's just that you seem like a "just friend" type of person then you just have to wait it out until you find someone who likes that. If it's because you're too immature around girls maybe(or something like that)then try and change- but don't change your personality for a girl. I guarentee there's a girl out there for you. You just have to wait until you find her.
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hi there,
okay well..iv'e had this guy friend. "bestfriend" for about two years now, and he's great. He's actually more then great he's the best! he makes me laugh like no one else, im comfortable around him, and we just get eachother. we've never been more then "bestfriends" even though it always ran through my mind & some people would request it. i don't think nor do i believe there's anyone else out there that can make me happier then him. PROBLEMS.. hah number ONE he says he "hates me" i guess it goes with his mean humor i know he doesnt mean it. and he says it a lot. i know he's joking, we used to fight a lot about this "joking" that would upset me because it would go to far.. anyways i feel like when he says he hates me its like his code, like he's covering up for i love you because were "bestfriends"..problem TW0! were going to different highschools next yr because i moved and im afraid im gonna lose the one person who makes me feel best.. i dont know what to do, he's not one to let go ..even though im not sure how he feels. sorry if this was confusing, i just need help ASAP :( thanks! (link)
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I just recently went through the same thing. Your guy isn't the only one using a code. I can pretty much garentee he likes you. So, now for the advice.
#1 f you like him back then great, because he likes you. If you think it's worth a try then take a risk. Unless your highschools are super far away then it really shouldn't stop you. Even if they are, if you guys are as great as friends as it sounds (or could be more) then you guys should find a way to work it out
#2 WARNING: relationships often ruin friendships. I'm not saying if you two were to go for it that it wouldn't work, but keep in mind your idea of a boyfriend. Does he fit? Although he might be a great best friend he may not be that way as a boyfriend. Also he may not know how to handle actually BEING in a relationship with YOU.
#3 if you do go for it: make sure you discuss how things would work if you broke up. Can he handle it? If you don't think he can then having an awesome frienship is better then a short relationship and losing him.
So my advice to you is tell him how you feel, and make sure you guys stay as close friends as you are now when/if you ever ARE in a relationship
#4 good luck!
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