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ok, so im going to a private high school this year and i dont know anyone else whos going.
people keep telling me that everyones in the same situation and that ill make new friends but i dont know. im really nervous that i wont and that people will hate me :[
any advice? (:
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Everybody IS in the same situation as you, and you WILL make new friends.
Just don't be nervous, because everything will be ok. Why would people hate you when they don't even know you? If you're worried about making friends, don't be. Just start a conversation with somebody new and let things go from there. Chances are, there are other people just as if not MORE nervous than you. So just stay calm, and you'll be ok.
Good Luck!
-Laura. (16-f)
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Three years ago, I was exactly like that. I was also going to a private school and I didn't know anybody in my year who was going. I was really nervous about meeting people whom I've never heard of before and having to live with them (it's a boarding/day school). I first thought that I wouldn't make any friends at first because of being new and I was scared...really scared of being rejected by the group. To my dismay, I found that some people had come with their old friends, so I thought that that would be it, I wouldn't make friends.
But three years on, I've got a nice group of friends whom I can rely upon. What did I do? Well, at first I was closed up and un-willing to mix with the others. But about a year ago (give or take a year and yes, it is a long time before doing anything), I began to sit with them and I talked to them and with them and very quickly, I settled into the group and I made friends in a short space of time.
So my adive to you is: is to take a huge leap of faith and talk to the others. I found that hard. And if they ask questions about you, be honest and tell them about yourself. Ask about whom they are as well. But be sure that you don't do what your friends do just to fit in and be 'cool'. Just be yourself.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Having changed schools in the middle of the year, i know the fear. In my experiance at private school, i find people are cliquier, so it is a little harder, but relax. Have a little confidence. There's no reason for anyone to "hate you." There are two good ways to make friends. Either start with a bang (like, be really outgoing, and confident, and totally be yourself) which is the great way, but it only works for some people. Or when you meet people, ease them into your personality (for example, start off generally neutral, and the more you get to know them the more of your personality will show). That way they won't be overwhelmed by anything. Just try to make sure you make friends with the people you want to be friends with the first time. Because if you discover you don't like the people you're friends with, it's hard to intergrate your way in or out of a group once they're made. It can be done, it's just harder. Anyway, the point is, you'll be fine. You'll make friends- everyone does. So just relax, and good luck!
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