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So, i just started freshmen year about three weeks ago and i yet to make one single friend. I see alot of cool looking people who seem to look like they're interesting in the same music as me by their style but i haven't worked up the courage to talk to anyone yet. I'm like, afraid they'll think i'm some sort of weirdo, hah-ha.I don't know, i guess i'm just being a bit self-consious.. eh, any tips on being a bit more social please?
Oh! & any REALLY cheap sites where i could buy band shirts and bags and such? Lol. :P (link)
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First of all are you a freshmen in HS or in college?? In college it is EXTREMELY hard to make new friends.. I went through the same thing last year. But you have to just have the self confidence that there are tons of people around you that will like you if they get to know you..
You've probably heard this a million times but the best way to meet friends is by joining some kind of group. Weather you want to play vollyball, be a cheerleader, be in SGA or even on the math team! Everyone meets people much much more easily when they're in a smaller group of people that share a common interest. So pick something that you think fits you best and you'll most likely be surrounded by people that you'll get along great with. If you're in college you should definately consider joining a Sorority or Fratenity. It's probably too late for rush but you can do it next year or even in spring. I am soo not the typical sorority girl but I rushed and even though I didn't end up joining anything, I met a LOT of girls that weren't anything like what I thought they'd be and now I hang out with a few and meet all of their friends! In highschool I met a lot of people through SGA and I cheered for one semester but it got me a lot closer to a group of girls had lived in my neighborhood but never hung out with and we ended up really close and I still visit them in their various colleges. Even if you do out of school activities like a youth group, gymnastics, football/cheerleading, even getting a job whatever, you're bound to become really close with the people you are doing those things with all the time.
It may seem awkward at first but if you just strike up a conversation about anything it gets a lot easier. From just making small talk you'll get to having conversations and from there you'll become closer with lots of people and eventually find your group you belong with..
Wow sorry I think I wrote a lot..
Well best of luck! No matter what, enjoy the year!
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well. my parents simply dont trust me. i hardly do anything that would make them not trust me. but they cant seem to let me do anything i want. and if they do, it takes some serious interigating in order for me to do it. ive proven myself trustworthy, what should i do to make them actually benifit from that trust??? (link)
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I went through the same thing... first you need to realize how tough it is for them to let go. It's not that they don't trust you, it's that they're afraid of the things they don't know about where you are or who you're with. Introduce any new friends to your parents and ask to have friends over for things like movie-nights in. If your parents are comfortable with what they see in their home they may be more willing to let you go out with them. You also need to calmly tell them how feel and tell them what you think you should be allowed to do and ask if they can compremise anything.
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My boyfriend from last year broke up with me for his ex girlfriend. We were only going out for about a month, but now him and his ex just broke up again and now he wants to go back out with me. I'm not sure yet, I mean i really do like him but when he broke up with me i just felt like dying, i didn't know what to do with myself. i kind of want to go back out with him just to get back at him, but i know i'll end up falling for him again. (link)
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It's great to give second chances.. but don't just forgive and forget. Maybe he did realize he was wrong and wants you back, but maybe things just didn't work out between him and her and, not wanting to be alone, he came to you. If your heart says go for it, then go for it, but you need to sit him down first and explain that you won't be his "back-up". In order to be happy in a relationship you both need to know you're #1 to the other.
Honestly.. this guy sounds confused and indecisive. He also can't seem to commit.. he's been paddeling between the two of you! Wouldn't you say the other girl gave him a second chance and it didn't work out?
If you're still unsure of your feelings tell him you jsut need some time to figure out if you really want to be with him after how he hurt you. He should respect that and if he waits for you it will show his willingness to commit this time and your heart can guide you from there..
Good Luck!
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