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I'm Mary. I'm a sophomore in college and I love helping people. If you ever need advice or someone to talk to I'm here for you! Never hesitate to ask or message me. Hope I can help!
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Hi! I was just wondering how old you are. Also, where do you get all the info? is there a website that could help me?
Hey! I'm 19 and my parents are both great athletes and my mother is sort of a health nut. She reads a ton about this kind of stuff. I'm not sure about a website, but I'll see what I can find. Pretty much all the tips I gave though aren't anything out of the ordinary and are widely accepted ways to get healthy. I'll look into a website for ya though!
I need to lose weight really badly. I am 13 years old, and I weigh about 145-147 ish pounds. please tell me what to do. I sometmes get up and go walking in the morning, and i am eating a lot better, but i am not losing the weight. please help!!!
Hey there! It's hard to tell without your weight whether or not you really "need" to lose weight, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to get healthy and lose a few pounds! I myself have always wanted to lose weight coming from a very healthy and athletic family and this year I've really started to better my self by changing a few habits and have found how simple losing weight can be!
The most important thing to remember is that the only right way to lose weight is the healthy way, which can take time, but it totally worth it! Not only will you lose weight you'll feel better in every aspect of your life! What you really need to focus on is exercise and eating habits. It's hard for me to tell you where to star with exercise as I don't know how active you are, but you should try to start working out at least 20 minutes 3 times a week. I find that running or jogging gives me the best and fastest results, but any exercise like walking uphill, swimming, hiking, biking are all great! Start with whichever you like best and try to do at least 20 minutes as many times a week as you can. As it starts to get easier over time try and do it for longer and longer intervals and you'll be surprised how fit you will get!
The other important aspect of weightloss is eating habits. You don't have to go crazy and stop eating all "bad" foods, but it is amazing the results you'll see if you cut back on breads and starches as these things all turn to sugar. You don't cut them out completely, but definitely try to eat more protein and vegetables than you do grains and stuff. If you do eat grains you should try your best not to eat processed, white ones. Go for multigrain! Of course try to cut back on fatty foods, but again to feel satisfied you can always treat yourself and of course you need some healthy fats in your diet so cutting something completely from your diet will never benefit you! Another thing I've found to be helpful is to simply eat a little less at every meal. Eat slower and don't eat until you're completely stuffed. Portion control can be helpful. Also something I've found helpful is not eating late at night or right before you go to bed. Try not to eat a couple hours before you go to sleep!
Don't be discouraged if this all seems hard, once you change a few habits it becomes easy and while it may take a little time to see results like losing a ton of weight once you start to lose it it will be worth it. I know from experience!
I hope I helped! And if you have any questions don't hesitate to send me a message!!! I'd be happy to help. Good luck :)
I'm 13 years old. Nobody understands me. I hate life for many reasons, and think of how I could end it the most painless way. I can not help but think that death is the only way to get out of my situations. I feel as though if I don't care what's happening in my life than no one else should. I think about what I would say if I were to follow through with ending everything. I just hate the lies I hear every day. I hate the harassment and judgement I have to bare with every day. The only true reason why I don't kill myself is because I couldn't do that to my family. My dad told me that if I was to ever need to do anything he'd want to just think I ran away with a friend and I'm safe and not have to identify my corpse and have a funeral for his child he couldn't image that. I almost feel that is selfish. My mom offered me counseling but I didn't want it and now I just want help and she won't listen. I am the ugliest girl at my school and spends the weekends by myself. I must sound as though I through a pity party for myself to others but they just don't know what I go though. I don't know what to do to just be happy, can anyone help me? I tried actually socializing but I felt fake for I had to put on an act as though I'm having fun, when in all actuality I am in misery. Someone please help me.
Suicide is never the answer to a problem. I know it's hard to believe someone when they say they know how you feel, but I really do! When I was your age I wanted desperately to kill myself. I was depressed and lonely and my parents fought and I fantasized about how I would end my life painlessly to make it all go away. It seemed like such an easy peaceful solution, but it isn't! Just like you I realized how selfish of an act it was and how it could hurt the people who really care about you. Now I'm 19 and I'm going to be a sophomore in college and let me tell you.. things get so much better!
I know that right now things seem hard, but life is always hard especially at that age. Making friends can be so damn tough. I know it may feel like you're being fake at first, but I promise the more you get to know those people the more comfortable you'll start to feel with them. Soon it won't feel fake at all! The best advice I can give about making friends is be friendly to everyone. You are beautiful and if you show it with your personality and are welcoming you'll find nice people who will accept you for exactly who you are.
As far as being sad and depressed, a lot of people go through that and there is NO shame in that. I went throguh it and am now stronger for it. But the most importnant thing that you can do for yourself is to tell someone, your parents if you can. Your parents love you, and if your mom has offered counseling before that means she is open to getting you talk to someone who can help you work through some of your problems which is so amazing. Telling your parents how you feel can be so helpful, because with their support you will start to feel better. There's no need to go through this alone!
I hope you read this with an open mind and decide to choose a happy life. If you have any questions or need to talk please do not hesitate to send me a message, but please talk to someone you know and trust (like a parents)! You are beautiful and strong and you will get through this! Don't give up!
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
hey I hope I can help but I'm a little confused. I know you may not want to share but for me to give you good advice I sorta need to know what sort of things were n the facebook thing. For example, If he were reaching out to friends asking them how to make your relationship better maybe he was just trying to fix your relationship or something but was just going about it the wrong way. However, If he was posting intimate details about your sex life or something thats a different sorry. No matter what he was posting, he should not have lied to you. You should tell him you know about the group and that it really hurt you. Tell him he needs to admit it ad talk about it if he wants to stay with you because relationships are based on trust. I would like to help you further, if you would not mind giving me more details about what he posted. Unless you think I already helped enough. Hope I did! Let me now how it goes :)
i hit my head how long should i wait to go to sleep
If you just bumped your head, I'm sure you're fine. if you hit you're head hard enough to think you may be in any danger you should call your doctor! Most of us on andvicenators are not doctor and if you need actually medical attention it would be a good idea to get it :) hope I helped.
I know that cold water makes hair shiny but I don't know why it works? Do you know? should I even care as long as it keeps working? LOL!
I guess what I wanna know most is does it hurt your hair?
take a look at this website: http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2008/04/4-reasons-why-you-need-to-take-cold-showers/
Cold water makes your hair look healthier and shinier. As a matter of fact, cool air makes your hair shinier too (that’s why there is a cool air button on your hair dryer). What the cold water does is that it closes the cuticle which makes the hair stronger and prevents dirt from easily accumulating within your scalp. Basically, the same principle with how it closes the pores of your skin as mentioned above. Stronger hair, of course, prevents hair from being easily pulled out when you are combing, and it helps in slowing down overall hair loss.
Hope i helped!
I know most people might say no, men shouldn't hit a woman back. But I think that if a woman thinks shes big enough to hit a man she should be hit back. I think that a man should only hit a woman in self defense. There are women out there that hit men when they get mad over something stupid and expect not to get hit back and sometimes they try to fight the man, while they expect him to do nothing but walk away. Im a woman and I think that if a woman hits a man she should be hit back. Just like if a man hits a woman for no reason she should hit him back. Im not saying that a woman should be beaten by a man though. Ive seen women hit men, bite scratch,threaten with a knife and chunk stuff at them. The man is supposed to sit there and take that? Most women arent as weak as people think they are.
Just wondering to see people's opinions...
If a man doesnt hit a woman back after she hits him, the next time they argue, she will try to fight and hit him, some women are vicious catty fighters..Im not saying she she get beaten
If a woman doesnt want to get hit by a man like Mike tyson, then she shouldnt hit him because shes mad, or over something stupid.
I'm a woman lol, just asking.
My cousin used to hit her ex. and he would never hit her back. the one time he did though, she never hit him again after that. Shes Grown up since then. If I was a man, I would treat her the same way as I would treat a man who comes up to me and hits me, I do not practice gender discrimination. but the point is everyone deserves to learn that lesson if theyre askin for it. Im not saying men should beat women, Im just saying she should get hit back.everyone who believes in genuine equality and responsibility should agree..
Men: if she comes up to you and hits you multiple times are you going to hit her back? cause that would be self-defense right? for someone strong like her
Women: Do you think if that woman attacked a man he has the right to hit her back?
Well, just this summer my brother (who is pretty tough, but kind) was in Ireland studying abroad. Him and his friend were out one night when a gay guy started hitting on his friend. Since neither of them were gey they politely rejected the guy. Later when coming out of the bar the guy and his gay friends started harassing my brothers who just walked away. Then all of a sudden some drunk Irish woman came out of nowhere and punched my brother in the face, when his friend tried to grab her ad hold her back she ounched him in the face. She had a ring on and my brothers face was black and blue andd cut. (She wasn't a part of the fight she just hated Americans and came outta no where). Anywayyyy My brother was afraid to hit her back and didn't wanna start anything/get in trouble, so they ran away and she chased them until some local guy finally called the cops (they didn't have phones on them). Now I know you're talking more about people in relationships and domestic abuse i guess? But in this situation I think my brother should have just hit the bitch back haha. I mean she was going crazy and wouldn't stop, if he rocked her in the face that would stopped her. I mean if she's gonna get drunk and attack two guys minding their own business she deserves to get punched in the face... Idk, but on a regular basis guys shouldn't hit girls, if the girl hits the guy in a playful way he could hit her back in a playful way, but guy have to remember their strength cause in some cases they are much stronger and if there's physical fighting they could both get pretty hurt.
ive been friend with Rachel for 4 years (since freshman year of highschool) she use to be a quiet nerdy kinda of girl and i took her in and she started to smoke weed and become her own person.
senior year we smoekd every day tofetehr and left school so much i smoked literlly evry day and it was so fun. we had the best adventures and obviously the worst of time sometimes.
our weed-phase leaked into the summer and we were smoking a lot but arguing more and getting on each others nrerve more and more.
we got into a fight and next thing i know rachel is ending our friedship. her therapist told her im no good for her (since ims ure she painted the most horriable picture of me to ehr therapist) and she wanst to meet IN PERSON to talk and basically end our frendship.
my therpist told me that wen she tells mer her side of it and tells me she feels im no good i shud say im sorry u feel tht way and end it to. we are going on the same program next year together adn i have so many friends going on it adn she has little to none so i have the upper hand but it just sucks that i look foolish if i try to fight for our frendship. i love her so much but just because her therapist says im bad she totaly flips and nees to give me a pseech in persont elling me we cant be firends.
is my therapist right in telling me that i should come out wit some pride and agreee to not be friends?
i feel so weird already agrreing to somethign that i dont agree with!
i wan tto be friends but celarly she has such a bad picture of me and htinks such awful things of me that im not fighitng a lso tbattle.
wut shud i do?
I know it may be hard that you've lost a riend, but maybe she and her therapist are right. You smoked weed, you took her in, then she started smoking weed. She didn't become her own person she started to become who you wanted her to be or at lease you influenced her, and not in a good way. You may not be able to see it but smoking pot is not a good thing, and it has obviously done a lot of damage. If you want your friend back you have to change. And even if you don't want to change to get her back, you should change to get your life back. Stop smoking and go to class. It doesn't seem like fun now but if you keep blowing shit off and doing whatever you want its gonna bite you in the ass later, trust me. Only you can decide what to do. Hope i gave you something to think about and I hope it helped.
so ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 2 weeks now and i really like him hes amazing! but just a couple days after we started going out i cheated on him (had sex with my best friend..) and i feel terrible. it was such a mistake we were both wasted and i guess weve both had hidden feelings for eachother for awhile but i cant pursue that now cause of my boyfriend! but i dont know what to do cause i have such guilt whenever im with him i think about it :( i dont know what to do but i know if i tell him he will probably break up with me.
Well the first thing you need to do is stop and think about which one you actually like. You feel guilty about cheating on your boyfriend because it was wrong. Now, I'm not excusing it but hey, it happened. The only way to right it is to think about your relationship with your friend and boyfriend. If you have feelings for your friend and you feel like you can't peruse him because of your boyfriend... that may mean that you don't truly like your boyfriend and you really want to peruse your friend.
I don't know if that's the case but if it is, it isn't fair to your boyfriend. And in that case you should tell him the truth and break up with him. You obviously don't want to hurt him but if you'd rather be with someone else it's the relationship is basically a lie, and I know you just be figuring out your feelings but please don't lead him on! If it really was a mistake and you do really like your boyfriend then you need to figure that out and tell him the truth. It might be hard and he may break up with you but it is notttt a good idea to start or continue a relationship with this inside you. It will eat you up and eventually effect your relationship so you might as well deal with it now. But only you can decide what to do! I hope I helped! Lemme know how it goes :)
16/f.
I've always liked guys, since I was a little kid. But ever since I was quite young I've also liked the idea of sex with girls. I never really thought about it though, it was one of those things I accepted. It didn't seem weird or anything.
You might just say I'm bisexual, but I don't think I am. I mean, I've never actually had romantic feelings towards a girl, whereas I have with guys - fallen in love and everything. Y'know, I've gone crazy over guys. But I fantasize sexually probably equally over guys and girls. The idea of sex with both genders really turns me on. Although I've never been with a girl & felt like just jumping on them like I have with guys.
I know it probably doesn't need a label, & I never worried about it before. But when sexuality comes up in conversation and people ask questions, I just don't know what to say. It's kind of annoying not having a specific sexuality.
What would you say this means? Would I be classed as bisexual?
Heyy, don't worry. I think this is something sort of common today that people get confused about. Many people would probably have different opinions but hears how I feel about this. sexuality is tough, especially on young people with hormones flying everywhereeee.
I myself am straight, I have always loved guys however I will also admit that sometimes thinking about girls can turn me on. Now, I have absolutely no interest in dating girls or being with a girl romantically and I don't actually want to have sex with a girl, sometimes just thinking about it when your in the mood is good. I don't know if maybe its because I'm a teenager so basically anything sexual will on me on but that's my guess.
Seeing as you aren't really interested in girls except in fantasy I would say you are straight, but its really only you who can decide that. Like I said, sexual orientation is a tricky thing and I think a problem with young kids today is that because there are so many straight/gay/bi people kids constantly question what they are and as soon as they feel something they think wait, what am I? This may not necessarily be you but I think just becasue you think about something sexual with the same sex doesn't make you gay or bi.
so good luck, I really hope I helped!
alrighty so, i'm 95% sure i'm bi. & i've thought this for about 3 years, i'm only fourteen but i'm sexually active, actually i'm quite the sex fiend. i have a boyfriend so i'm not interested in anyone else, but i do like girls too. the problem is, my mom. She is so open like you have no idea. but i was telling her about her about how some of my friends are bi & she says "How can girls your age know if you like boys or girls?" honestly its because people are having sex at younger ages. times have changed. she know everything about my sex life & doesn't mind as long as i'm safe. i just don't know how to tell her :/
Okay, first of all it's good that you're being safe but 14 is a very young age to be having sex. Just because times have changed and more and more kids are having sex younger does not make it right. Sex is something for people who are mature and you should really consider the consequences. Sorry but i had to say it... now on to your acual question haha
You said you are 95% sure you are bi. I know you think you are completely mature and old enough to know your sexual orientation but that probably isn't true. I'm not saying you aren't bi i'm just saying at 14 years old it is hard to know your definite sexual orientation. With hormones flying around you can't always tell and thats not just my opinion but plenty of doctors across the country.
So in a way, your mom is right about kids not being able to know so young. Now even if your not sure and you still want to talk to your mom about it which is a good idea to be open with your mom. It seems like you have a good relationship since she knows you are having sex. You should just go to her and say mom i need to talk to you, I think I may be bi. You should tell her how you feel and that you aren't 100% sure and maybe she can help you figure things out.
Sorry if some of the stuff i said sin't what you wanted to hear but I hope I helped!
Okay, I am 15, virgin. I would like to finger myself but I'm not sure how to even do it. How do I break my hymen? Am I to young? I don't know what to do, I want to try it so I know what actual sex will be like, of course when I'm married. However, I'm scared. How do I calm down and just do it? Will it be painful? Just tell me anything, please. I appreciate it.
Fingering you're self isn't a hard thing to do. It's great you want to wait til marrige for sex, its a very mature thing to do tthat a lot of people don't apprecoate the imortance of anymore. But its normal to feel nervous about sex.
To finger yourself you really just put your finger in (same hole you put a tampon in case you didn't know). Sometimes its hard to break or you may not even feel your hymen. You may break it without knowing, you may bleed a little but it shouldn't hurt. Basically just put your finger in and move it around until it feels comfortable in there haha. If you want you can use more than one finger after you get comfortable with the first because a guys penis is thicker than just one finger.
I hope this helped! Message me if you have any more questions and good luck!
At school I really don't have any good friends or people that I feel comfortable talking to. I never have anybody over for sleepovers and that sort of thing either. But, last year I had the most wonderful teacher that I wish was my age so that we could do all the fun "B.F.F." type things like sleepovers, the mall, etc. The thing is she moved away last June. ;( We write letters all the time and chat online, but I am just sad. It seems like my best friend moved away. I think the reason why I am so attached is because my mother and I have no relationship whatsoever and I have no siblings. How should I handle this situation? It is almost like the Matilda-Miss Honey ordeal, if you have seen the movie.
I understand how attached you must be to your teacher. It is hard to not have many friends and to not have a close relationship to your mom. I also agree that no one is too old to be your friend.
However there are some times when this kind of relationship can be appropriate. Now I know this probably isn't the case but if your teacher ever made you uncomfortable or took advantage of you physically or anything like that, that type of relationship is not okay and you should tell someone.
If it really is a Matilda-Miss Honey situation then you are very lucky that you and your teacher have such a good relationship. I think its great that keep in contact with her. Sometimes teachers can be very special and you can form long lasting relationships with them and that's completely okay and I know it must be hard to lose someone so close to you, but maybe you can visit her.
In the meantime i think it is very important that you try and make friends with kids your age. While your frienship with your teacher is wonderful, relationships with people close in age are important through life and I know how hard it is to make friends but always look for new opportunitys. Maybe tell your teacher how you feel, how much you miss her and ask for her advice.
I hope I helped and if you have any questions don't hesitate to e-mail me.
I have a really hard time keeping focused when I'm doing homework...I always end up on the computer doing whatever and then I'm cramming in homework late at night. Any method to keep focused??
Ohh god, i have the same problem. I ALWAYS end up on my computer either facebook or hulu or something way more fun than homework. When you sit down to do your homework, set a time. Say okay I have about an hours worth of homework so for this next hour I will not go on the internet... if you still can't keep focused try doing your homework in another room. i Know its hard because you probably want to do it at your desk but it really will keep you focused when you're computer isn't right there. Believe me.
Good luck, I hope I helped :)
I'm a thirteen year old girl.Ever since grade three, the boys keep making fun of me. Whether its my skin color or how I am. I never told on them and I don't want to. If my parents hear this, they will be really sad. Before, When I was seven, my parents and I stayed in a house with an old lady who was really grumpy. She hated me. Pushed me in the hallways, frowns at me, and put a smoking matchstick on my leg :(. Okay, that was old, but now, In school....people make fun of me. Everyone except few who have kind hearts. Whenever some guys see me, they keep saying "HOLY _____!" my name :(
I really want this to stop. It has been three years, and they can't leave me alone and live my frigging life. I feel like running away. Telling my parents to go to our home country. But they wont go there...because my dad needs to work in a country like this where people in my school teases me. I really don't want to tell on them. But I wish my life would be better. Is there anyways I could get my parents to make me move to my home country? I really want to go! :( And, don't just tell me to ignore them. Because this is what I have been doing for the last 2 and a half years. I can't talk to them either, because they start to make more fun of me and diss me. :( PLEASE HELP! I WILL BE REALLY THANKFUL TO YOUR HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS.
its hard to be made fun of or pushed around or made to feel like your worth less than you are. guys are assholes, and i'm not just saying that. People are mean, you're not the first or last person to be made fun of but i know its hard. Also that old woman who was mean to you did something illegal, she was an adult and you were young and she hurt you in a way that is completely inappropriate.
Like the other person said, you are beautiful and i'm not just saying that either. Everyone has something to offer and i'm sure you're a great girl :) But you do need to tell someone. I understand how it may feel to tell your parents, you may be embarrassed or think you may make them upset but you need to tell them. If you really cant bring yourself to do that you should at least tell a guidance counselor or teacher or something and if they think you are overreacting just tell them how you feel until they understand how fed up you are.
Remember that you are beautiful and you do not deserve to be treated this way, please for your sake tell someone. it will be hard but it willl be worth it. Message me with any questions :) hope i helped.
So my husband and i have had so many problems last year....infidelities, anger, insecurities, unsolved problems, stress etc...and i can see it taking its toll on his part of the marriage.
I still struggle as well, we both are. But despite all our problems we are still trying very hard for the marriage because our feelings for each other are still going strong. So everyday we are fine with each other, we do talk about our problems sometimes but when we get in a fight, he cant seem to control his anger....
There were several times last year where hed leave me with a ugly bruise or two on my arm or marks on my wrists from being grabbed....i never thought id be in this sort of situation but at the same time i didnt find it too serious. I got more accustomed to it.
Lately its been getting worse & i believe the entire time i knew how worse it would most likely get was just being in denial. Hes choked me once before, and again just last night which was the worse of the two...everything has been leaving me so confused about my feelings towards him & he says hes not proud of himself for it. Hes told me that i should leave the house for a little while because he doesnt want to hurt me in any physical way anymore than he has, but i have problems with staying with other people, my friends & family are nowhere near where we live.
At the same time i dont even think this is too serious right now, i actually think that its probably my fault because of how angery he is & all the things he was made to put up with. He says he cant control it, am i just being blind?
How can i deal with this while not leaving for a while? Or deal with it at all....?? Please help i dont know what to make of this...
I cannot stress to you how serious this is. I know you obviously love your husband and i'm sure he loves you, but he does have a problem. It may have started out just a grab that was a little too hard but it is way more serious now.
I also know it is hard for you because you don't have anyone to support you who lives close to you and you feel like you have no where to go but you are in danger. Your husband may not mean to hurt you but he has seriosus anger issues that at anytime could escalate and you uld be seriosuly hurt. Some people develop these issues and even he knows that he may hurt you badly because he told you himself. He needs to work out his issues and you need to look out for yourself.
You need to tell a close friend or family member and go stay with him for a while while you too figure this out from a distance, your husband is right. It is in no way your fault. Just because a couple fights does not give him the right to hurt you physically in any way. So please i know it will be hard but you need to find some place to go. If you love your husband you will do this because if he does end up hurting you he will probably not be ale to live with himself and he may not be able to stop himself in the moment.
If you have anyyyyy questions or concerns at alll message me :/ I hope I helped!
Hi. I am the girl who had a question about dating an older guy online. I guess I never considered the possiblities of what could happen until now. Anyways, I want to end it because he keeps asking me to send him 'personal' pictures of myself. He seems normal, but I just don't know if I should trust him. The thing is, I don't know how to end it. I'm afraid he might get mad or something, or that I wont know what to do or say.
Heyy! Yeah, figuring out how to end it is hard when he's a stranger or even if you know the guy. And its good you haven't sent him any pictures of yourself cause that could be dangerous. You just just tell him that you don't really know him and don't feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone met online.
He'll probably try to convince you that he's a good guy or that you have a connection but you just need to stand your ground. You can just politely say it makes you uncomfortable and if you are a good guy you wouldn't want me to do something i'm not comfortable with and thank him for understanding. Hopefully he will understand and he'll stop e-mailing you.
If you have any more problems let me know!:)
15/f sorry if this is in the wrong category..
Okay, so I met this guy on Deviantart (a site where you post artwork and such). We talk a lot, and I think he may be interested in me. I would be fine with this, but he is an adult. He knows I am only 15, but he keeps flirting with me and e-mailing and calls me by all of these cute nicknames. Is that bad? Should I stop talking to him? I dont know what to do. I feel guilty, like I'm doing something bad. But at the same time, I see all of these girls that date older guys. Someone please tell me what to do!
Yes yes yes this is absolutely bad, haha. I know that this guy may seem normal, or you two may connect or you may think he's cool but you really have no idea who he is. Sometimes guys online are fine and they really are normal but there are plenty of creeps who go online who are not who they say they are, and I am nottt being paranoid.
Even if he is interested in you and he is normal, the fact that he's older should tell you something. You are only 15 and an older guy trying to get with you online makes him seem kinda desperate doesnt it?
And one more thing. Alwaysss trust your instincts, you feel guilty like you're doing something wrong because even you can tell that the situstion is a little weird. Sorry to seem so paraniod but it's something i'm relly passionate about. I've heard to many stories of young people who have met people online and gotten into really bad situations. I'm 16 and it really creeps me out. Better safe than sorry.
Anyway, sorry for the rant and I hope I helped! If you wanna talk feel free to message me!
17/f i'm really shy & have trouble talking to boys, well this one boy that i thought was really cute last year, was a senior & i was a junior. we never talked though. he didn't have any friends, because he just came here, i always tried to get up the courage to talk to him, but i couldn't. well anyway, i found his myspace. & i'm debating.. do i send him a friend request? or would that look so creepy? because i feel like he remembers me from last year, because we exchanged eye contact quite alot. but i don't know. & i was thinking i would just comment on his art. he is really shy like me & it still doesn't look like he has many friends. so i can't even ask anyone to introduce me or anything..
what should i do?
do i think that will look really weird if i asked to be his friend?
I am just like you, sometimes i get really nervous around guys so I know how you feel.
I don't think it would be weird at all if you sent him a friend request. Even though you were shy and didn't really talk to each other, it does seem like he'd remember you. He'll probably be flattered you remembered him. You should definitely go for it, and you never know, you may start talking to him online and get another chance ;)
hope i helped!
Does running actually help to lose weight in my thighs? And if if i run everyday by the 11th day will the weight go down?
yes, running is a great way to loose weight in your thighs. running targets many different
parts of your body but every one is different. it is a good idea to build a routine and try to run every day but you may not necessarily loose all the weight you want to by the 11th. another way to tone your body is to build muscle. so in addition to running you could do some thigh strengthening exercises (squat thrusts, lunges, etc.) to help loose thigh weight and tone your legs.
one thing i've noticed is that people start working out and its tough in the beginning and they don't see results right away so they stop, but running is very good for you and your body and you WILL loose weight IF you keep to the routine, so keep it up!
i hope i helped and your happy with the results, good luck!=]