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Is this bad?
15/f sorry if this is in the wrong category..
Okay, so I met this guy on Deviantart (a site where you post artwork and such). We talk a lot, and I think he may be interested in me. I would be fine with this, but he is an adult. He knows I am only 15, but he keeps flirting with me and e-mailing and calls me by all of these cute nicknames. Is that bad? Should I stop talking to him? I dont know what to do. I feel guilty, like I'm doing something bad. But at the same time, I see all of these girls that date older guys. Someone please tell me what to do!
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The only POSSIBLE way this could work out is if by "adult" you mean this guy is, like, somewhere between 18 and 21, AND you're willing to be pen pals for at least a YEAR or whatever amount of time will get you to the age of consent in your state. However, during that time that you're pen pals and you're underage, your chats have to be strictly G-rated, or this guy could get in a LOT of trouble.
Do you see how unlikely and difficult all of the above is? Hey, he could be a nice guy, but it's really not worth it. Find someone under 18 to chat with (but be careful with them too!) They're out there!
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'I feel guilty, like I'm doing something bad.'
While you're not doing anything bad or wrong... This situation sounds, quite honestly, a bit suspicious. And I think you're just as suspicious as I am. If you weren't, you wouldn't ask.
My advice: learn to protect yourself while you're online. NEVER tell ANYONE where you live, where you go to school, or how to contact you via any other method except the internet. If you have a Myspace or Facebook, information regarding your location and how to contact you should be private, private, private, or deleted all together. Never let anyone, except your parents, have access to any of your online accounts or passwords. (Your account could be hacked and personal information disclosed.)
If this guy says anything, anything at all, to cause you the slightest discomfort... Don't talk to him anymore, and tell your parents. (And if you're afraid of talking to your parents or don't know what to say, write me and I'll talk you through it.) Last, but definitely NOT least, never arrange to meet him in person. Period.
I know I may sound super strict and possibly paranoid... But you and I have got to be. Most people are decent and would never hurt you intentionally. But there are other people out there, people that are mentally ill and can do you a lot of harm. Play it safe and smart... When you're online, you don't know who you're talking to.
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hey there
well seeing that your only 15 and hes an adult you might wanna stop talking to him...he has no business flirting with a minor such as yourself. you see these news stories on tv about older men picking up minors (females & males) online, its wrong and 100% illegal.
Hes calling you cute names & flirting w/ you now, next thing you know hes gonna try to come & see you or ask to hang out somewhere.
yes girls dat older guys but charges can be put the men if they are dealing with minors & if sex is involved.
im not trying to scare you im sorry if i come off too stong but im just lettin you know for your own safety. i'm glad you realized something was kinda wrong about this enough to ask so yeah dont talk to the guy.
hope i helped.
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Yes yes yes this is absolutely bad, haha. I know that this guy may seem normal, or you two may connect or you may think he's cool but you really have no idea who he is. Sometimes guys online are fine and they really are normal but there are plenty of creeps who go online who are not who they say they are, and I am nottt being paranoid.
Even if he is interested in you and he is normal, the fact that he's older should tell you something. You are only 15 and an older guy trying to get with you online makes him seem kinda desperate doesnt it?
And one more thing. Alwaysss trust your instincts, you feel guilty like you're doing something wrong because even you can tell that the situstion is a little weird. Sorry to seem so paraniod but it's something i'm relly passionate about. I've heard to many stories of young people who have met people online and gotten into really bad situations. I'm 16 and it really creeps me out. Better safe than sorry.
Anyway, sorry for the rant and I hope I helped! If you wanna talk feel free to message me!
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