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loosing a best friend
ive been friend with Rachel for 4 years (since freshman year of highschool) she use to be a quiet nerdy kinda of girl and i took her in and she started to smoke weed and become her own person.
senior year we smoekd every day tofetehr and left school so much i smoked literlly evry day and it was so fun. we had the best adventures and obviously the worst of time sometimes.
our weed-phase leaked into the summer and we were smoking a lot but arguing more and getting on each others nrerve more and more.
we got into a fight and next thing i know rachel is ending our friedship. her therapist told her im no good for her (since ims ure she painted the most horriable picture of me to ehr therapist) and she wanst to meet IN PERSON to talk and basically end our frendship.
my therpist told me that wen she tells mer her side of it and tells me she feels im no good i shud say im sorry u feel tht way and end it to. we are going on the same program next year together adn i have so many friends going on it adn she has little to none so i have the upper hand but it just sucks that i look foolish if i try to fight for our frendship. i love her so much but just because her therapist says im bad she totaly flips and nees to give me a pseech in persont elling me we cant be firends.
is my therapist right in telling me that i should come out wit some pride and agreee to not be friends?
i feel so weird already agrreing to somethign that i dont agree with!
i wan tto be friends but celarly she has such a bad picture of me and htinks such awful things of me that im not fighitng a lso tbattle.
wut shud i do?
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I know it may be hard that you've lost a riend, but maybe she and her therapist are right. You smoked weed, you took her in, then she started smoking weed. She didn't become her own person she started to become who you wanted her to be or at lease you influenced her, and not in a good way. You may not be able to see it but smoking pot is not a good thing, and it has obviously done a lot of damage. If you want your friend back you have to change. And even if you don't want to change to get her back, you should change to get your life back. Stop smoking and go to class. It doesn't seem like fun now but if you keep blowing shit off and doing whatever you want its gonna bite you in the ass later, trust me. Only you can decide what to do. Hope i gave you something to think about and I hope it helped.
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Stop smoking weed, it's obviously done enough damage.
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