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bisexual?
alrighty so, i'm 95% sure i'm bi. & i've thought this for about 3 years, i'm only fourteen but i'm sexually active, actually i'm quite the sex fiend. i have a boyfriend so i'm not interested in anyone else, but i do like girls too. the problem is, my mom. She is so open like you have no idea. but i was telling her about her about how some of my friends are bi & she says "How can girls your age know if you like boys or girls?" honestly its because people are having sex at younger ages. times have changed. she know everything about my sex life & doesn't mind as long as i'm safe. i just don't know how to tell her :/
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Your mum is right about you not actually knowing if you like boys or girls, even if you don't agree.
At the age of fourteen your hormones are going crazy. You could be 100% sure you are straight at the age of 14 and then get to the age of 21 and realise you are a lesbian.
Just because the times are changing that doesn't mean that teenagers these days understand their sexuality better than teenagers in the past. Nearly all Teenagers naturally think they know everything (I am also a teenager lol), and they were the same in the 70's and 60's and have always been the same. Teenagers through many generations have always thought they know everything, your mum probably though that too ;)
I am also bi-curious so I know what you are feeling, and I don't feel comfortable telling my mum, but I do know how you should say it.
Say something like "Mum I need to talk to you about something important and I really hope you don't judge me or get mad at me." and then tell her you think you MIGHT be bisexual (even if you are 95% sure, just say you 'think' and that you 'might' be, because it makes it easier for her)
It can be hard to tell your parents things like that but just remember your mum loves you no matter what (at least I hope she does, I dont really know your mother personally)
Hope this helped and good luck with finding your sexuality.
PS. Remember to use protection when having sex! ;)
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Okay, first of all it's good that you're being safe but 14 is a very young age to be having sex. Just because times have changed and more and more kids are having sex younger does not make it right. Sex is something for people who are mature and you should really consider the consequences. Sorry but i had to say it... now on to your acual question haha
You said you are 95% sure you are bi. I know you think you are completely mature and old enough to know your sexual orientation but that probably isn't true. I'm not saying you aren't bi i'm just saying at 14 years old it is hard to know your definite sexual orientation. With hormones flying around you can't always tell and thats not just my opinion but plenty of doctors across the country.
So in a way, your mom is right about kids not being able to know so young. Now even if your not sure and you still want to talk to your mom about it which is a good idea to be open with your mom. It seems like you have a good relationship since she knows you are having sex. You should just go to her and say mom i need to talk to you, I think I may be bi. You should tell her how you feel and that you aren't 100% sure and maybe she can help you figure things out.
Sorry if some of the stuff i said sin't what you wanted to hear but I hope I helped!
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