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bisexual?
14 female;
so i'm bisexual & i don't know how to tell my mom. She's so open. i have a boyfriend & were sexually active & she knows & shes okay with it, as long as we use condoms. & i have my boyfriend so i dont want a girlfriend but i need to tell her. i told her about some of my bi friends & she says "how do girls your age know if theyre bi or not?" because people have having sex at younger ages. so how do i tell her?
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i think that you should wait awhile before you tell her. reason being your mind could change..this could be a phase that your going thru so it could just be a moment and then its over so before you tell your mom think about wether you wanna be a bisexual or not because i can tell you from experiance that its something that you need to be sure you are and that your not playing games because if you thought that boys were horriable and rude when it comes to dating then you havent dated a female...
think wisely,
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I would say you can probably tell her when there is a girl that you like, not that you cannot be sure about this(I'm 14 too~), but there doesn't seem to be a need to tell her. If you really want to tell her, tell her indirectly would be easier, when you tell her through writing(text message, e-mail, note etc.), you can better organize your thought and express it well, she would probably understand that it is not a subject to be talked face to face easily, so don't have to be nervous about it. Well, I can't say this will fit your situation since my mum has stronger opinion about things, so my methods are always indirect and kinda cowardice... ^_^"
Also, as you're mum is so open and you're already dating a guy, she would not care so much even if you tell her. She might just think "she'll find out if she is or not when she grow up", that's one of the reasons I've never told my mum about me being bi/les.
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I would be very hesitant to identify yourself as bi-sexual at age 14. The fact of the matter is that your hormones and neurological things are still ironing out.
Believe it or not they can make you feel on and off attraction to both sexes in some people until your orientation is firmly set one way or the other. I would relax and say nothing until such times as that it's solid and consistent and no grey area. Be a kid for now and let time dictate what happens with your sexual identity. Too early at 14 to know conclusively.
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It will be hard to find the words to tell her but the best that you can do is sit her down and come right out. If she is open chances are she will accept it. After all she is your mother and she does love you. Umm.. How about "Mom, I know you have questioned how can a young person know their sexual orientation. Well, (I don't know how you figured out you were Bisexual but you tell her that and thenn) that's how I know I am bi. But I love my boyfriend and that doesn't mean I will be getting girlfriends it's just the way I am. Maybe it's a stage I don't know but let me figure it out and please don't judge me." You can word it your way if you like I just hope i have helped a little bit. You're not the only one inthat situation so don't ever feel that you're alone. it's hard to tell parents because their reactions are so unpredictable. good luck. :)
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