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unsure of my sexuality?
16/f.
I've always liked guys, since I was a little kid. But ever since I was quite young I've also liked the idea of sex with girls. I never really thought about it though, it was one of those things I accepted. It didn't seem weird or anything.
You might just say I'm bisexual, but I don't think I am. I mean, I've never actually had romantic feelings towards a girl, whereas I have with guys - fallen in love and everything. Y'know, I've gone crazy over guys. But I fantasize sexually probably equally over guys and girls. The idea of sex with both genders really turns me on. Although I've never been with a girl & felt like just jumping on them like I have with guys.
I know it probably doesn't need a label, & I never worried about it before. But when sexuality comes up in conversation and people ask questions, I just don't know what to say. It's kind of annoying not having a specific sexuality.
What would you say this means? Would I be classed as bisexual?
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Honey i would say that your bisexual which is nothing to be ashame of im heterosexual but ive had fantisies of bein with a gurl bt if u have them more than a hanful of times you are bisexual
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
At your present age I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At this age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as a Lesbian or even bi-curious would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at this age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed, particularly females.
I have known women that have been bi all through college, then gone straight heterosexual afterwards. Reason it was easier and sex was more available if you were bi; it was also safer.
My advice: Don’t put a label on your sexuality at this time. Just enjoy learning about who you are sexually. When you are more adult if you still want to put a label on your sexuality then do so, but for now just enjoy being you.
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You would be labelled bi-curious if you chose to be labelled, because you haven't actually had sex with a woman and decided you enjoy it but you like the idea of it.
It's not necessarily that you wouldn't be attracted to a girl enough to have a relationship. You may just be extraordinarily picky when it comes to girls. I know I've only met 1 girl I would date, but I've dated a lot more guys.
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Heyy, don't worry. I think this is something sort of common today that people get confused about. Many people would probably have different opinions but hears how I feel about this. sexuality is tough, especially on young people with hormones flying everywhereeee.
I myself am straight, I have always loved guys however I will also admit that sometimes thinking about girls can turn me on. Now, I have absolutely no interest in dating girls or being with a girl romantically and I don't actually want to have sex with a girl, sometimes just thinking about it when your in the mood is good. I don't know if maybe its because I'm a teenager so basically anything sexual will on me on but that's my guess.
Seeing as you aren't really interested in girls except in fantasy I would say you are straight, but its really only you who can decide that. Like I said, sexual orientation is a tricky thing and I think a problem with young kids today is that because there are so many straight/gay/bi people kids constantly question what they are and as soon as they feel something they think wait, what am I? This may not necessarily be you but I think just becasue you think about something sexual with the same sex doesn't make you gay or bi.
so good luck, I really hope I helped!
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