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This is pretty sad, but im more experienced with guys who date sluts. im not a slut.. but still haha. i take them and change them and make them want me. anyway, so finally im dating a normal guy. its like our fourth date and hes gonna kiss me next time. he said "a kiss" so i guess just one peck lol. whatever, im willing to go slow. but how's he gonna do it? he seems kinda shy. is he probably gonna turn his head and go in for a long peck? or keep his head straight and do a quick peck? gah i donno, any shy guys here..what would yall do? also. if he doesnt kiss me by the end of the night,should i just kiss him. (link)
He is probably nervous like none other, and are you more experienced than him when it comes to kissing and such? If yes, thats probably extreeemely intimidating to him!
I cant tell you how hes going to try to kiss you, because that is up to him. Id say youd probably know when it would happen, like you make eye contact and theres no talking/standing close, all that kinda stuff.
So if he doesnt kiss you by the end of the night, youve gotta. Just do it! Theres no fear of rejection; you already know he wants to
Good luck & have fun ;)


i JUST ate at least 500 calories worth of food
i had field hockey practice about 2 hours ago for 3 hours..so that's about 2,000 calories burned.

what will happen to the 500 calories i just ate? will they end up as fat? (god forbid) (link)
Wow dont even worry about it.
I play field hockey too ( :D ) and I probably eat about 4000-5000 calories a day during seasons. Now this coulddd be because my team is extremely good and were really intense, but still.
Eating 2000 calories is not that much for an entire day, even for people that don't excersize. An athlete should EASILY be eating about 3000, and thats as a minimum .
Those 500 calories will be burned. You are always constantly burning calories, even during your sleep.
So dont worry about a small 500 calories, especially if your active.


i want my haircut like this,
http://i280.photobucket.com/albums/kk167/alyssaweil/yo-2.png
http://i280.photobucket.com/albums/kk167/alyssaweil/yo1.jpg

what do you call that?
i want to find better pictures so i can show my hairdresser exactly what i want, but i don't know what to search for.
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Tell your hair dresser you want long layers with a 90 degree angle, starting at the bottom of your side swept bangs.


What you should just do is print out those 2 pics and show them it, so that he/she will know exactly what you want

Its a cute hair style:)


what does it mean when people say "thats what she said" (link)
its something that could have a sexual meaning. normally like what a girl would say while in bed.


example:
you see a large cricket (haha idkk) and said "oh my god, thats so big!" someone would then say thats what she said. sexual innuendo, you know?
a classic example: when someones trying to get something into something else and they say "it wont fit its too small/its too big to fit in there", a very common thats what she said scenario.

do you understand it now? if not i could probably come up with some more laaame examples haha


Thanks a lot for your advice, it makes me feel a bit less nervous, and I would NEVER cake makeup, I've seen the aftermath-NOT pretty. But, my question is, I bought acne-healing foundation (I have pretty mild acne), mascara, eyeliner, and lip gloss. If I wore all that very, very lightly with maybe a bit of eyeshadow, would that be too much to start out with, or would that be good? I know I'm a really pretty girl, and I just would like to sort of make it come through... does that sound to dramatic? (link)
ok I like a lot that you said you know your a pretty girl, and you would like it to come through. Thats good because make up shouldnt be to be making someone pretty, just high light their features like i said before.
The foundation is fine, I normally would suggest against it for such a young age, but if you have acne, then thats acceptable. Just be sureee not to use too much.
Mascara and eyeliner are fine, and lipgloss is always fine for all ages, unless like its bright red or something. If it looks pretty natural, like shiny and that it, itll be good. Dont wear lipstick, its a little too strong for a middleschooler.
And finally eyeshadow; this could make it all a little too strong. Im not sure what shade your tryna use, but no green purple blue any of that. Maybe like a golden tone, or light pink... thats what I use. Honestly, I wouldnt start out school like that, just begin with the others. Wait a little while, like 1-2 months into school, and then start using the eyeshadow. I dont know but for me, eyeshadow is kind of too much for 8th graders. But it depends on how it looks on you!
But no, all of it doesnt sound dramatic (except for maybe the eyeshadow). I'm sure you look great :)


how would you clean your vagina like u would the rest of your body or you dont im not sure female! (link)
Well do you mean the inside, or the outside?
If you mean the inside, dont worry about cleaning it - the vag is a self-cleaning organ.
If you mean the outside, while in the shower, use a soap. Its a sensitive area, so if you are prone to allergic reactions, use an odorless, and dyeless soap.



how do i delete all my itunes songs at once? (link)
Click the top song on your itunes. then scroll all the way to the bottom, press "Shift", and then click the bottom song. Every song should be highlighted. Then just press "delete".


Earlier tonight, my boyfriend and I had protected sex with a spermicidal condom. When he was about to c**, he pulled out. But the condom was still in me and there were a few sperm inside the condom. He said that the sperm leaked out onto the bed. I don't know if the sperm was near my vagina or not. But i quickly went into the restroom and cleaned inside.

My question is there a possibility I can be pregnat? (link)
There is a possibility if the sperm leaked out. Fyi, having sex always leaves a possibility. So protection is cruuucial! since it was spermicidal, they have the chances of being killed or whatever, but you should still go get a pregnancy test. The probability is low, but the possibility is sitll there.


what does the saying 'you don't get out much do you?' mean?

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It means like you dont get outside of your house much. So like you stay in, and your not really aware of whats goin on. Like your not "in the loop" in a way haha.


How likely is pregnancy from precum? (link)
Its likely. Not as likely of course as full on when he busts, but you can certainly still get pregnant. And you dont really know its there, because its only a little amount but it happens at any point. Like a guy can precum since right after his hardon up to his ejac.


what are good foods to eat if you want to stay healthy and take fat off your body? (link)
Produce.


Fruits & Vegetable should be like 40% of your daily intake. If your athletic, it should be 50, and also drinking about 15 cups (not 8) of water a day (thats what I do during sport seasons).


Many like celery, cauliflower, lettuce and spinach, brocolli, (none of them cookeddd) have "negative calories" because you burn more calories from eating and digesting them than they have themselves initially.


when you curl your eyelashes do you curl before mascara, after, or both? (link)
I used to curl them, and I did before putting on mascara. That way the mascara could lift my eyelashes even more. (I have reallyyy naturally long eyelashes, and barely need it so I stopped curling). But for people with short lashes, you should do both. The reason you would do it after applying mascara is because then the mascara dries so that the eyelashes dont lose the height from the curling throughout the day.
Everyones eyes are different, so see what works best for you. Try doing it before mascara one day, then after the second, and then both. See which one looked the best at the end of the day.


Is it bad to have sex everytime you're with your boyfriend? I'm 17 and he's 18. We've been dating for almost 1 year now and people say it's bad becuase they think that's all we do, But is it really so terrible? (link)
I can see where its coming from.
If you just have sex every single time, it looks like thats all your relationship is about. Do you go on dates and actually TALK, or is that part of the relationship unsparked, and now its only about sex.
Nothing wrong with having sex, but you should just make sure your relationship is meaningful and thats not its all about.


So i had sex with my boyfriend, we couldn't kiss because he had a cold sore and we didnt want to risk the chances of me getting a cold sore. I went onto the interent and then it says cold sores are actually a type of herpes, like herpes simplex or something!! and we had sex but with a condom, i hear stories that i could get herpes even though he got a cold sore on his mouth and we didnt kiss. apparently herpes can be passed to another person just by the gentials touching! but he had no sores there on his penis! so am i infected? (link)
Nope, you should be fine, because the herpes/cold sore on the mouth doesnt come with genital herpes.

BUUUTTTT: This is a HUGE thing right here: If he gave you oral sex, then you will have herpes.
Giving oral while having a coldsore transfers the herpes virus down there. Herpes for the rest of your life.
So if you just had sex, then your alright. If he ate you out, you really should go get checked as soon as possible.

I hope I helped you, and I hope your not infectedddd! If your not, then just keep that in mind, and tell people maybe even, because thats a real serious huge fact that not a lot of people know.


I am new to Facebook and just received a lot of friend requests from people I know, but didn't expect to add me. Did they manually choose me or did a request just get sent to me because we went to the same high school? thanks! (link)
They manually add you.
Sometimes, on the News Feed it has something like "____ just joined facebook and doesnt have a lot of friends." Stuff like that. Also, on the side there is a panel that has "People You May Know". Your name could have come up there.


Facebook cant just request friends, so no just because you go to the same highschool, it wont send out a request.
If you need some more fb help, just ask in my inbox im an expert!


Hi, I'm 13 and... 5/6s? I'm turning 14 in November, and I'm going into 8th grade. My problem is, I've never liked wearing makeup or nice clothes before 7th grade. But in the middle of 7th grade, my attitude sort of changed drastically about how I care about how I look, and I started to look and feel a lot better. I always look back at pictures and think, "I must have been a really weird kid!" And, I'm not being judgmental about myself, I really was a weird kid. So, anyways, a couple days ago, I asked my mom if I could start wearing makeup. She said it was fine with her, as long as I didn't wear a lot, and she helped me pick out some stuff. So, I tried it on today, and it made me feel really, well, beautiful, and good. But, I'm starting to get nervous when I go back to school. I'll look and be so different... I don't want my friends to think I'm becoming a prep and dumping them, and I don't know how people will react. I KNOW I shouldn't care, but I'm naturally shy, and I'm just nervous and I don't like change. So, should I wait another year like my BFFs mom is making her do, or should I just man up (wrong word choice) and be brave? I don't know what to do! Please help! (link)
The person below me is right: you reallllyyyyy don't want to wear too much make up, especially starting out.

If you do, in five years, you will look back and say "wow, I was such an awkward middle schooler."


Also, people will judge you if you just start to use too much make up all of a sudden. Think about it, if someone comes in looking like a completely new person, its kind of shocking. So ease yourself into wearing more, and start out almost all natural, just wearing a little.


Now Im sure you looked great, but just keep in mind not to wear a lot. You don't need to wait another year, just don't wear too much. (And this means like maybe wearing a little blush and eyeliner. You do NOTTTTT want to start caking your face with pounds of make up! -- Wear make up that compliments and brings out your features.)
Man up! haha but for real, you can, especially if you feel good about yourself.
Hope I helped you and if you ever have more to this question, ask me at my inbox :)


do you like da brand "covergirl" for makeup? (link)
yess maam
its cheap, and its pretty good overall
i also like maybelline - my make up is half covergirl and half maybelline


wat are some good shark movies (link)
jaws


dark waters


and a lighter movie:
a shark tale



http://www.elasmodiver.com/Sharks%20on%20film.htm


is it okay to wear a cute dress [not the fancy formal ones] to school?




how about heels? (link)
yeah casual dresses, of course. they look good.
and also, it isss a little fancier, like a bit too formal for school, you can tone it down by wearing cut off spandex under it.

now heels, i wouldnt say so. now i dont know how it is in YOUR school. however in mine, if someone wore heels, even the small one inch kinds, people say "oh my god why would she wear that" and like "whats she tryna pull off" that kinda stuff. but i dont know how it is where YOU live. soooo if in your school the students do that, then go ahead and wear the heels.

but dont wear heels with the dress. thats a little to over the top


I want to get my cartilage done but my mom is extremly against it since there is a high risk of infection. I'm willing to pay for the piering, take the time to clean it and get a small silver ball so it's not highly visable. I would get it done at a doctors office so theres a less chance of infection but I'm not sure if they do cartilage piercings. I don't know if its that she thinks this piercing will lead to other ones, it looks trashy or she thinks it will get infected. I want to convince her its not for any of those reasons and that there are ways to have your cartilage done and have it not look trashy. (Like by wearing small studs) I have two piercings on each side and don't intend on having anything more done than my cartilage. I just need help convincing her about this. I'm 15/f btw. (link)
hi,
Im 14/f and I got my cartilidge done when I was like 12 and at first my mom was fine with it but I had to do a lot of convincing for my belly button so here's some things that may work. go online and find good pictures of cartilidge piercings that don't look trashy, although im not sure how they'd look trashy in the first place haha, anyway then show those to your mom. I have my upper cartilidge done on one side and like the middle cartilidge on the other side and honestly I didn't clean them everyday and I changed them within the first week I got them and they're doing great. ah I hope I helped




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