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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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What is leukemia? Is leukemia cancer? Does having leukemia mean you're going to die?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leukemia

It's a type of cancer. It doesn't mean you're going to die, but it's possible that death will occur if the given treatment fails.

Ok, so I have been having some stressful days ever since 7th grade. I am in 10 next school year. I have built up this negative energy in my room and now whenever i go in there, i get this stressful feeling. One time when i went to bed when everyone else was at the bowling alley, I saw a boy around 17 black hair blue eyes staring at me. He had this look of anger, depression, and stress on his face. After i rubbed my eyes he was gone.

Is it a ghost or a poltergeist?

PS: i heard from TAPS on an episode that a ghost is different from a poltergeist. A poltergeist is human generated for some sort of pshychological need and a ghost is a spirit who either doesnt want to cross over or doesnt know they are dead.

Did i see a poltergeist that I created, or was it a ghost?

I am scared...so answer quickly please!!

To me, it sounds like a ghost, but obviously I'm not a professional on the paranormal.

I've heard poltergeists are pretty active. I'm also pretty sure it means "loud ghost" or something like that in German. I honestly think it's a ghost, but I'm not sure.

You could call a paranormal expert on this & see what they say. Or you can do a little research online. I don't think you should be scared though. Ghosts are usually not harmful, and if all he did is looked at you & you haven't seen him since, I'm pretty sure there isn't much to be afraid of. He could just need help, or he just appeared out of the blue. Who knows why ghosts do the things they do?

Just do a little research online. I'm sure you'll find all the answers you need. And lastly, Ghost Hunters is an awesome show so props for watching it. :)

how much does a belly button piercing hurt? i really want one but i'm scared it will hurt too much.

Pain feels different for everybody. It could tickle to me but hurt for you, and vice versa.

I'm honestly not sure how you'd handle the pain of one or if it'd even hurt for you. I can honestly tell you though, that if you're relaxed calm while getting it done, it hurts a lot less.

I got my lip done last year & for me, it hurt because I have a low pain tolerance, AND I was nervous & scared and shaky. My experience could completely differ from yours.

Also, make sure you get it done some place clean. If they don't open anything in front of you, leave.

I've seen some clips of movies from the 1930s and 1940s where "Pussy" is used like any other English word. At time, obviously used referring to a cat.

When did it become a vulgar word?

I looked it up on wikipedia, and only skimmed. I'm not sure if it says anything about when it became vulgar, but it does have information pertaining to the different meanings people have given it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pussy

I hope that helps. If not, just Google it a little. I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for.

I am 16, I turn 17 this summer(August) and my boyfriend is 19, he turns 20 in october. We live in New York, is it legal for us to have sex?

Not saying i'm going to, just would like to know.

Right now, yes it is illegal to have sex. I'm from NY, and age of consent is 17.

So, it's illegal to have sex anytime before August. Sorry. :(

In your opinion (or learning from personal experience), what are the pros and cons of a open relationship?

I honestly think an open relationship is pretty stupid.

Cons:

Jealousy.
Greedy.
Tension.
Dirty.
Classless.

Pros:

Single.

If you want to see more than one person, be single. If you want one person all to yourself, then be in a relationship. Do not waste someone's time so you can act like you're single. :| It's just set up for heartbreak, and it's just not even classy.

I'm 16, female.
My boyfriend of 2 years recently cheated on me. he was at a party and had sex with a senior from my school.i broke up with him. he now says he regrets everything and wants me back.He told me he loves me and only me. So, my question is should i believe him and take him back? i mean i love him and everything, i just don't wanna get screwed over.
thanks in advance :]!

I wouldn't take him back.

Cheating hurts, and only brings along drama. Don't take him back. He made a mistake, and now he needs to deal with the consequence. Taking him back will make you look stupid, and if you take him back, your lesson will never be learned. Don't take him back.

SO i suspected there was something going on with my supposed best friend and my boy friend. and i just found out there realy was. she expected me to be completely fine with her getting with him. how could she think that? he even thought i would just let them go off and be the perfect little couple. we all got into a fight. i guess im friends with the girl again but. the boy. i cant deal with. i dont know what to do. hes friends with all my friends and i know ill have to see him. my supposed best friend said she was just doing it to make me want him more and take another step in the relationship? are you serious. she told me she was in love with him. so she said she backed off. which i doubt she really did. now things with me and him are even worse. please help me. i dont know what to do..

If I were you, I wouldn't forgive her. She isn't your best friend.

She's a slut, a backstabber, and a liar. Your boyfriend is a manwhore, a cheater, and an asshole. Those are not the type of people you need in your life.

If she honestly thought you'd just get over it, she's nuts. Tell her to go fuck herself. Tell him to go fuck himself, and stay single for a while.

Also, don't be quick to trust people anymore because when you do, things like this can happen. Make people earn your trust. If they do anything to lose your trust, then that's it.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Girls suck, and guys are assholes.

I just got an ipod nano and I dont know how to put it on shuffle.
Can someone help me?
Thank you :)

Press Menu until you get to the Menu with the title iPod. Go down to Settings, and press the middle button. When you get into Settings, you'll see a list of things to do.

You'll see:

About
Main Menu
Shuffle
Repeat
Volume Limit
Backlight Timer

and then so on.

When you get to shuffle, just click the middle button until you get to the choice of Songs. Then just go with that and the songs will be shuffled. :)

ok so i wasnt on my period before all this happen ive had multiple little periods this whole month of may because i was on birthcontrol so a couple days ago i was like i dont want to be on it any more im done i hate HATE having my period and im not having it anymore so i got off it after a while month of being on it so it was two days i havnt been on it and i had sex with my boyfriend with a condom!!!! so ya im good. but hey right before he comes we hear a snap ya and then he cumed oh ya right after the snap now we are the people who go people who say condoms break are a load of bull we use a certain kind all the time but he was out so we used his friends where he got at a local clinic and there crap becuase we always like stretch condoms and they NEVER break like so when it broke we were like oh my god no it didnt we laughed actually i cant beleive it broke and i just JUST got off the birthcontrol now we tried getting the abortion pilll but mind you its a friday like 5 and planed parenthood was free but by the time we got there it was closed and they are closed on weekends so great we are trying to get the pill on monday hopingly. but any way later that night i started bleeding and it just ended now he might have knicked something but it could be because i just got off the pill idont know but i was just wondering if theres a chance of me still getting prego. any thing will help just answer!!!!!

It isn't the abortion pill. It's the morning after pill. Do not call it the abortion pill. That's annoying.

The pill works best when taken soon after. It is no longer effective after 72 hours of sex. So, it's possible that by Monday, you won't need the pill anymore because it won't work since it'll already have been 72 hours.

If you didn't like the birth control you were on, why didn't you tell an adult so that you could see a doctor? I'm sure the doctor would've had no problem switching you to a different medicine that you were comfortable with and that you liked. If you had just started using the birth control, spotting is normal and then periods either go away for a few months or return every month depending on the medicine you chose.

So yes, there is definitely a chance of you getting pregnant. The morning after pill possibly won't work. If you miss your period, take a test and if it's positive, I suggest you sit your parents down and discuss your options because if you try to hide a pregnancy, it surely will not work out well.

hi i have a big issue not to long a go i had givin head for the first time an im so scared my friends are saying that i can get pregnant from swolling his cum im so scared can u help me ohh an im 13 aN MY NAME IS KALYN

You cannot get pregnant from oral sex. It just cannot happen.

should i go to my best friends birthday party where almost everyone hates me?

Yes, you should go. If you don't go, it'll show them that they got to you, and you cannot let people intimidate you because you'll regret it later.

Trust me. I deal with a lot of things from high school every day of my life. You need to go to that party. It's your best friend, and I'm sure she'd be upset if you missed it.

What keeps you goin evryday? why do you wake up and do the things you do? making coffee,makin love? is life worth it?

I wake up for my future.

If I had done some of the things I've wanted to do a few years ago, I'd have been dead for a while now. I got help, and am still getting help. I kept going. My future is what I'm excited about. I want to have a career, and have children. I want to get married, and live my life to the fullest ability. Had I commited suicide, I obviously wouldn't be able to do the things I'm doing.

Life is most definitely worth it. It may seem horrible now, but I promise if you stick around, things will change. You just need to be willing to help yourself and change. See a therapist, talk to people. Life can get better if you make it that way.

See... well I have a problem. I went to this boy that I am friends with house a few days ago. I thought we were just friends and we would watch a movie. Well instead he made me have sex. He did not have a condom but he promised he would not ejeculate. I didnt think he did..I am scared that i am pregnant. I missed my period.

I know you will help me! hope to hear from you soon.

-Unsure

He made you have sex? If you didn't want to have sex with him, that's rape. You should not let anybody do anything that makes you uncomfortable. You need to tell your parents and you need to call the police.

Rape is illegal, immoral and disgusting. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You said you missed your period so you MUST buy a pregnancy test. I've seen some for around $10 or less depending on the kind you buy. They can get pretty pricey the more sophisticated they get.

So take a test, tell your parents, and get these things straightened out. If you need anymore help, feel free to inbox me or e-mail me, but I can assure that if you call the cops, they will give you all the help you need. Good luck sweetheart!

what is good or bad about masturbating

I don't really find anything bad with masturbating. It's healthy and normal. It doesn't cause pregnancy, or STDs since it's done with yourself.

Ok I am in the 7th grade and all of my friends have boyfriends, I can get boyfriends but they arent my age.. I usually go out with older boys as in 9th graders. My friends think that it is gross, do you think it is gross?

No. Boys in 9th grade are 14-15. In seventh grade, you're about 13. It's not too much of a difference. I wouldn't worry about it.

Besides, your friends don't have to date them.

i cant tell you how many pairs of panties i go through just from vaginal discharge!!

is there any way i could make it cease?

thanks!

Wear a pantyliner. They're pretty much like beginner pads? They're thin, and small so it should work out fine for you. :)

is it good to put the toilet seat lid cover down after using it? or let it stay up for ventilation?

My boyfriend usually puts it down, but I leave it up.

Either works really. I don't think there is a good/bad way.

What is the best pain killer for hangovers?

Thanks! :)

You're 16 and shouldn't be drinking anyways.

I think you should suffer from your hangover as a lesson! :)

ok this is going to sound completely and totally psycho but whatever. so 1st of all, im so in love with my boyfriend. but he really cant deal with life anymore.

hes bipolar, hears voices, has depression and a bunch of other problems. but you would never know any of this because he is the class clown and captain of the football team. he always acts really animated and pretends to be the happiest guy in the world. but hes not.

i really love him so much but he wants to commit suicide so bad. ive talked to him about it and stopped him countless times. but now hes at the point where hes at peace with dying and is ready to go. i would be devastated if he did this and i would probably take my own life. i cry about this every night and i cant stand to think about it. but this is what he wants to do and i know it is.

the only reasons hes not doing it because he doesnt want to hurt me, and hes afraid of going to hell. but heres the thing, i had this completely psycho thought of killing him. out of love, but still. i was gonna go over one day and give him a hug and kiss him, then hold a gun to his back and shoot him. i know it soundsss completely crazy, but then it would save him from going to hell, and i would go instead. and he would not worry about me being sad, because i was the one to do it and i would just put the gun to my head next anyway. i dont know if i could bring myself to kill the love of my life, but the thought that he would finally be happy and in a better place than he is at now, makes me wanna do it. but i still think i sound completely psycho so can someone help me out with this. i dont wanna kill my boy. thankssssssss

No. Do not kill your boyfriend, and do not kill yourself.

You both need to get help. Tell your parents, tell his parents, tell an authority, admit him to the hospital, SOMETHING.

By not telling anyone about how he's feeling you're making matters worse and the guilt will be more on yourself if you keep it in and he kills himself. He could potentially be mad at you for telling, but in the end he'll thank you for saving his life.

Tell his parents immediately. You cannot keep quiet about this.

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