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my supposed best friend and my boyfriend.
SO i suspected there was something going on with my supposed best friend and my boy friend. and i just found out there realy was. she expected me to be completely fine with her getting with him. how could she think that? he even thought i would just let them go off and be the perfect little couple. we all got into a fight. i guess im friends with the girl again but. the boy. i cant deal with. i dont know what to do. hes friends with all my friends and i know ill have to see him. my supposed best friend said she was just doing it to make me want him more and take another step in the relationship? are you serious. she told me she was in love with him. so she said she backed off. which i doubt she really did. now things with me and him are even worse. please help me. i dont know what to do..
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If I were you, I wouldn't forgive her. She isn't your best friend.
She's a slut, a backstabber, and a liar. Your boyfriend is a manwhore, a cheater, and an asshole. Those are not the type of people you need in your life.
If she honestly thought you'd just get over it, she's nuts. Tell her to go fuck herself. Tell him to go fuck himself, and stay single for a while.
Also, don't be quick to trust people anymore because when you do, things like this can happen. Make people earn your trust. If they do anything to lose your trust, then that's it.
I'm sorry this happened to you. Girls suck, and guys are assholes.
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To put this as simply as I can, people are selfish. They want what they want, and in the end, the "sisters before misters" clause holds no power. If a girl wants a guy, she's gonna go after him. The fact that she was supposed to be your best friend should've stopped her from doing something so destructive. The fact that it DIDN'T stop her should tell YOU something: she doesn't care enough about you to consider your feelings.
"I did it to make you want him more and take another step in the relationship" is a complete and total cop-out. Don't believe it for a second.
As for your boyfriend, the suffix "ex" should be in front of that. It's possible that he just isn't capable of settling down with a girlfriend just yet - I wish you had included your ages, but I can assume you're all decently young. Late middle school or early high school?
Anyway, age aside, you need to talk to him and help him understand what you're feeling, since you have every right to be confused and upset. He needs to get it through his head that he did something very wrong. Even if it was your friend who came onto him, he didn't stop her. That's still wrong. If you decide to let him go, you need to have a discussion with him and come to an agreement that says he'll stay away from you for awhile.
Are the friends who are friends with him initially your friends? If that's the case, then he can find another friend group to rip apart, and your friends should have no problem with losing him.
Your friend should lose some of your trust for awhile, and she shouldn't expect forgiveness. Forgiveness takes time and healing. That said, you shouldn't expect yourself to be able to forgive her right now. She did something pretty unspeakable. But, time heals all wounds.
Eventually, when this all blows over, you'll be able to move on. Good things will happen, you'll find a new guy who appreciates you and won't go off with your so-called best friend, and you'll be good with her again.
Try writing about it. Do some journaling - write out the situation, write out your feelings about it, and take a step back. Understand that your feelings are completely valid, and try to decide what to do about the source of the problem.
Be strong - be selfish. Do what's right for YOU. It's only right at this point. Do what makes you happy.
Cheer up. =)
Siren
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