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first boyfriends
14/f
Ok, so around next week this guy who i know and like is going to ask me out. We've been crushing on each other since spring break. he's not allowed to date untill he's in highschool, but i know for a fact that he used to screw around with other girls before we met each other. So pretty soon we're going to start dating and he'll be my first boyfriend and i'm really nervous. Just a little while ago i learned that he's fingered a girl and gotten hand and blow jobs before. I'm worried that since he'd be my first boyfriend that i won't be able to...well, that he'd expect me to do things more experinced girls he knows do. I really like him but am afraid that he as soon as we get together he'll be all disappointed that i'm not as experienced. please,could you give me some advice?
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It's highly possible that the girl you mentioned is subject of rumors and he knows about it. She could also be lying herself about what did or didn't transpire to appear cool. It's highly unusual that someone her age would have that kind of experience nor be talking about it. There's a reason he's not with her.
Even if this did occur they may have been seeing each other secretly for ages, friends and or totally comfortable and felt ready (or so they thought) for that. At either rate it's all in the past and you can't judge him for it. People make mistakes.
If concerned tell him straight up that you would love to date him but it's your first relationship and that you heard about so and so and him or her yacking about it. Let him explain himself and tell him that anything sexual is not part of the equation. If he loves you he'll respect you and that decision.
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I find the greatest pleasure in a relationship, physically and mentally, comes from learning. Sure you've heard from other people....or maybe even him that he's got a little bit of experience, so what? This is nothing to be concerned of, just pay attention to what he likes, facial expressions are most common. But don't forget to notice what he doesnt like and move on. If he looks bored or in pain try something new...unless he likes pain, lol. But for the most part, relax, this is a learning experience, you'll both enjoy it.
Hope this helps o^-^o
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