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getting him alone.
so there is this guy..and he's a few years older than i am. me and him like each other..and we wanna spend time alone..but our parents wouldnt be happy with it cause of the age difference. we dont really even want to do anything bad..just hand out and stuff..so what are some way's that me and him could get alone or something?
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As long as the age gap isn't huge and he's not seen as an adult 18+ and you as a child 0-18 why not be friends? The best way to handle this and show your parents he's no threat is to invite him and his parents to dinner.
Talk about your friendship and that you want to hang out but didn't want anyone upset over the age difference as there's no romantic chemistry whatsoever with each other.
Even if he is 18 and you're 15-17 there's nothing wrong with him being a friend but being more than that... That is so long as nothing physical occurs.
If they see he's an outstanding person, his family are decent people and you're just friends it shouldn't be that big of a deal to anyone. Besides, you can tell your parents the truth that you're not interested in anything physical or sexual with anyone let alone him yet anyways.
But yes if he's 18 and you're still viewed as a kid several years younger it's definitely a problem and you shouldn't be hanging out with him alone. If we're talking two or three years difference and both within the same range than it should be okay as long as your parents know.
If you're afraid they won't like this at all trust your gut instinct and know not to pursue things with this guy as there's got to be a damn good reason for you to know that they would not take this well. Bottom line, don't hide your interest in him, let them know and meet him, his family for any chance at hanging out alone.
If you can't do that and let them know than maybe there's a good reason why you feel that way and why you should back off completely. If it doesn't feel totally right.... But to me, it looks just like a normal friendship that you should fill them in on before pursuing it further.
Also, if something about the whole thing seems awkward, creepy or as if you shouldn't be around him trust that vibe. I'm not saying that's the case but wanted to throw it in there as there's something you don't feel comfortable about the two most important adults in your life knowing.
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