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how do i go further
ok well im going out with this girl who i was good friends with before hand...because we went out before then broke up then became really good friends then decided to go out again
but im really confused because im not sure how to go further than kissing with her or what she expects from me. because shes generally the type who likes to go further pretty quickly. shes nineteen by the way.but i dont know how or if she will find it weird because we are friends. or how to break that awkwardness. how do i know if she wants to? when we make out its pretty intense and stuff and she usually puts her leg right up against my crotch but i really dont know. any sugestions? or how i could tell if she even wanted to? because i wouldn want to if she didnt if you get me.
thanks
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The line "What do you want me to do to you?" in the heat of the moment generally gets a positive response.
Outside the moment, talk is always good. If you're making out intensely, it should be ok to ask her what she thinks of sex. Don't ask about a timeline or anything like that, just ask her what she thinks about it, what she likes, what she doesn't like. Being ok with talking about sexual histories can be a good bonding point in a serious relationship.
My girl and I talk about sex all the time. We discuss fantasies, sometimes make plans, talk about things we've done whatever. Its fun to be able to talk about it with people, even more fun when you can talk about it with a girl you're sleeping with.
If you're confused about expectations, don't be afraid to ask outright. The trick is to make yourself open to her responses. When she gets positive responses and active, questioning interest to her ideas about sex she'll put herself out there more. It gets alot easier to figure out what she wants after that.
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I know how you can find out right away if she wants to go further. As soon as you mentioned "...when we make out its pretty intense and stuff..." then it became simple. Now that you two are that far into your relationship, you want to get more serious. So what you do is talk or do what ever it is you do until you start making out. While your making out make sure either she's on top of you or vise versa. Casually move your hand under her shirt so that your skin is touching hers and move it up to her bra strap...provided she's wearing a bra...Now that your here, hand moving upward, start looking for signs of discomfort, a weird face, maybe her hand pushes down on yours or she might even tell you to stop. If you see anything like this stop and pull your hand away because this means "no" or "not yet" However if you don't see this is means "keep going" or "I think your right, lets keep going" and from there you should be set. As a caution: always keep an eye out for discomfort when moving on and it could prolong your relationship (speaking from experience, 3 years and many more to come)
Good luck, sorry that was so long.
Hope this helps o^-^o
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