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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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First off i'm 23f and i'm engaged to my long time bf (25) we have lived together for two years and the other day we got a big surprise. we are now expecting. My bf and i are happy but i'm really worried about what my family will say. his family is really laid back and i'm psitive they will have no problem with it. i know this cause his mom bugs us about grand kids. lol
but my parents are a little...ummm well the opposite. i'm afraid that i'll get a lecture not the congratz. My bf and i don't make much money but we get by. My bf and i have already looked over fiannces and things and we will be fine but i don't think my paents will see it that way. i'm just really stressed about the whole situation (my bf keeps bugging me to calm down) please any advice would help. (ps my parents and his parents are from kinda differnt worlds...i think my parents resent that i'm okay with living in the area we do and work the jobs we do...sometimes i think my parents think they are better that my bfs parents cause mine have money) i hope all the extra info helps thank you
You need to chill out
You seem to skip out on the fact that you are an adult, You are engaged to the father of this child. You are independent, On your own and pay your own bills. Your parents may have their opinions but they do NOT have say on what you and your fiance decide to do. Again, You are independent and you are the adult. Sometimes spilling the news is shocking for people but I can almost promise you that sooner or later your parents will adjust to the fact that there is a little one on the way. This is NOT a matter of who has more money, That in my opinion is an awful shallow way to think. You are going to marry this man then you need to shape up and except them for who they are not their finances. Again, You are fine. I would say otherwise if you still lived at home and were dependent on your parents and you are not.
If you feel more comfortable you and your fiance could sit down together and spill the news, Better to get it out the way then 5 months down the line where they find out the hard way.
18/f. My boyfriend recently ended our relationship. He was drunk and admitted to me he cheated on me during a different drunk night. He said a lot of really hurtful things to me that night, so I wrote him a letter a few days later saying everything that was on my mind. It was in no way malicious; I basically told him what he did was terrible, but I hope he had a great life.
He never said anything about the letter, so a few days ago I asked him if we could have a talk sometime when he's free. I've sorta changed my mind since then, but in a stunning act of maturity, he texted me today to see if I still wanted to talk. My mom has advised me against doing so, as I've taken the break up extremely hard, and she feels like I shouldn't waste anymore time. What do you think? Should I ask him why he never answered my letter (written about 3 weeks ago) or just forget about the whole thing?
Move on
The guy admitted to cheating on you, What will a letter do to solve it? It won't make it any better, It won't take the fact that he cheated on you away and it won't make things the way they used to be. The letter you wrote may not being anywhere malicious as you've stated but telling someone you hoped they had a nice life is basically trying to get them to sympathize for you. The guy didn't take your feelings into consideration when he cheated he isn't going to take things into consideration now. The letter is only doing no good but showing him that you want to try and crawl back to him, Why? Show him that you are bigger and stronger then being his doormat. Cheaters are cheaters, There is no what, ifs ands or buts about it. You cannot change him, A letter cannot change him. He needs to change on his OWN time. Stop sitting around moping and waiting around for him he is a lost cause. Take your mothers advise for one and meet someone better then that.
i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half he's 20 and i'm 18... well i can't trust him at all he's out drinking with his friends every weekend and as much as i speak to him he doesn't respect that it bothers me.. He refuses to let me see his cellphone and his excuse is "there's a lot of porn on it" and i know this is kind of silly but he keeps adding these really attractive girls on facebook ones that he's never met before it makes me feel insecure and he also doesn't want to change his relatioship status to let people know that he has a girlfriend. What does all of this mean? is he not serious about our relationship?
Dump him
Guys who are ashamed to let everyone know he is in a relationship are generally the ones that end up cheating. The guy is sketchy, He is out drinking and adding chicks to his facebook without even bringing up that he has a girlfriend.
1, He is disrespectful towards you and your feelings
2, He is treating your relationship very carelessly
3, He is a dirt bag, He is not worth your time, All your flags are right there
Relationships are about partnership, communication, trust, honesty and I could go on and on. Your "boyfriend" doesn't respect you and doesn't take your relationship very seriously at all. If you want a real relationship then you need to go out and find a real guy. This one isn't worth shit. I would recommend dumping him and when you do please cut contact, Don't try and remain friends, Don't check his facebook, text, call him etc. He isn't worth it in a relationship he most definitely isn't worth it in a friendship.
I started dating this guy in august of 2011. He's a sweet guy but he's younger then Me. I'am 20 and he is 19. Not a big age difference but I get kind of scared that we wont last long because at times he not the "man' that i want him to be. I want us to be a mature couple and not fight all the time over silly things. He does so many things that annoy me and i want to be able to look over it all. I need advice on what to do and stratergies on how to make us stronger. What should I do?
Girls mature faster then guys. While your boyfriend maybe 19 he probably very well thinks like someone who's 17. I read up somewhere that men tend to think a few years younger then their actual age until they hit the level of maturity. Some men grow out of it and others don't. If you want a more serious relationship then you could try talking to your boyfriend about taking on more responsibility as a couple. The way you can make your relationship stronger is by communicating and working together towards your goals. If you both don't have a job, Then try to go out and get one. Put in applications, Call places etc. Growing up is about taking on responsibility towards independence. If your boyfriend isn't willing to do these things then you know he is not on the same page as you. Sometimes it's about what is best for you, Not what you want. Try talking to him first about upping the responsibility and see how that goes but if he doesn't follow then you got some thinking to do.
So I am going on vacation this year to San Fran or San Diego... havent decided yet. Either way... there will be 4 of us but we cant afford a hotel for 4 of us. So I wanna know how easy or complicated it is to get a 2 person room and sneak 2 more people in. We were thinking we could get a blow up mattress and sneak it out every day... no big deal if we have to do that... but the maid might notice extra luggage... idk. Have any of you done this? Is it pretty easy to get away with?
NO negative comments...
I used to work in a hotel and I do NOT recommend doing this.
Most hotels have security cameras, We keep track of who comes and goes in a hotel. Sneaking people in can lead to arrest as this is fraud and theft. As a guest in a hotel we trust you to treat everything with care and responsibility.
Sneaking in friends because you do not want to cough up the money to pay for more folks will only cost the card holder more money in the long run. They WILL and CAN charge you for each and every individual that is staying in the hotel with you. It is completely dishonest and can lead to a ban from the hotel. If you can't afford to pay for your friends, You can't afford the hotel period.
I have never really been "fat" but I am not skinny. I am 5'2 and 105 lbs. I have been anorexic and got put in the hospital, but call me crazy but we live in a world where looks get you farther than anything. I run and eat healthy, but i hope some of you can give me some healthy dieting advice that won't get me put in the hospital or make me sick....
I want you to look at this chart for a long minute:
http://www.disabled-world.com/img/height-weight-chart.gif
This is the height and weight chart for men and women, According to the chart you are below the low weight for your height. You are NOWHERE near being obese. Going from the chart you are underweight for your height.
I highly suggest you make regular appointments and follow up with a nutritionist who can help you with meal planning and maintain a healthy balanced diet. Anorexia is a mental disorder, It CAN be overcome. Another suggestion is to see a therapist that specializes in eating disorders they can offer you the emotional support and talk to you about how you are feeling etc. That would be your first step too recovery.
I don't remember when, I remember it was within about a month ago, but I went out without gloves one night and I didn't put on lotion. Then, when we've been out for about 2 hours, I was in the car and I noticed that my skin had a bunch of tiny pink cracks and you could see that they were fresh. They stung when I touched them. So, when I went home, I put lotion on to soothe it. Then, a while later when it sunk in, I washed my hands with really hot water that stung (now I know it was a horrible mistake) and after that I noticed that I had burned my hand with the hot water. So, the morning after that I woke up and my hand was still bright red and I was worried so I put a little bit more lotion on it. It stopped hurting, but it was still red. Then in about a week's time, I noticed my hand slowly turning from hot, red and sensitive to warm, covered with tiny scabs, and dry.
So my questions are;
What should I do to get rid of all of the tiny scabs?
Should I just wash my hands with only cold water?
Should I keep putting lotion on it every morning?
Thank You for answering in advance!
When it comes to burns the best medicine is aloe
If you have burnt your hands to the point of scabs then you should get it looked at by a doctor. We can't give you a diagnosis. I wouldn't put lotion on your hands until you know what is causing the breakouts first.
15/m
For quite a long while I have been mopey and unhappy and my head full of suicidal thoughts, and this is making life a sluggish pain for me nowadays and I was wondering if anyone knows of any good tactics to get ones self motivated to do homework and whatnot. Please I do not need a schpeal about "Don't commit suicide it's the wrong way to go" I know this and I guess im lucky that I'm too much of a pussy to do it anyways.
I am a questioner and a heavy thinker (yes thinker not drinker) if that helps any.
You need to keep reminding yourself that you are doing this for yourself, In high school your grades play a huge role on your future. This is the mind set you should have. Everyone has their good days and everyone has their bad ones but we take it a day at a time.
Sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do but in the end dude just do the homework to get it done and over with. Once it's done, It's one less of a hassle to worry about. Hard work pays off
If you are down in the shitter then I would maybe get yourself checked out for depression.
I'm interested in buying a masked rat, I've looked all over line for breeders near my area of Chicago but no one breeds them. For those of you that don't know, they look like this: http://www.fancy-rats.co.uk/information/guides/images/masked.jpg
http://th991.photobucket.com/albums/af32/spacepaw/th_masked_rat.jpg
If you know of any breeders specializing in masked rats, near Illinois please tell me! Or even websites that air mail as well!
Your best bet is to call around and ask if they have any masked rats available.
Here are some links I found in the state of Illinois;
http://www.moonlitwatersrattery.com/
http://pitterpatterrattery.yolasite.com/
Whatever you do, Be careful about air mailing! There are many many scams out there. Your best bet is to go in person and ask if they have a license for breeding.
is there a state or federal age restriction on the purchase of condoms?
There are no age restrictions
If you were talking about going into an Adult Store then yes, You would have to be 18+ and they do ID you at the counter.
As far as just buying condoms at any store, No you don't have to be a certain age. If you feel more comfortable then you could just do self checkout if they have one.
Okay first off I am 20. I have two children. I am a stay at home mother. No smoking drinking or anything.
My pain in my hands are if I am folding laundry my hands hurt so bad like an ache that I cant finish the laundry I have to do it later. I can look at it and feel the pain. If I get cold my wrists, ankles knees hurt so bad. Tonight has been the worse even to the point of my bawling. I can usually can a hot bath and the pain goes away. Most of it has gone away but it still hurts and tonight I had my husband wrap my legs in a blanket and he said my legs wasn't even cold. My legs sometimes jerk a little on their own.
I don't have health insurance nor can I afford a doctor appt. Yes I have tried to get health insurance threw the state they say we make to much. but after our bills we barley have enough for gas. I know you are not doctors but maybe you are someone or know some one with the same symptoms.
We can't give you a diagnosis but it COULD be arthritis.
Even if you don't have health insurance if you were ever in severe pain a hospital will not deny you. I'm not sure what state you are in but some hospitals have a plan where if you are seen their once you can apply for a years insurance but can only be seen at the hospital if you have any medical problems. You would need your source of income and I believe it's good for 1 year, You can find out by calling the hospital and seeing what plans they have.
P.S. You can always call around your area and find a doctor that is willing to let you go on a payment plan.
is their any chance to get pregnency by sucking the disck?
No, You cannot fall pregnant by giving oral sex.
In order to fall pregnant the penis or sperm has to have contact with the vagina.
I would like a cardio workout DVD that will allow me to burn at least 300 calories a workout, preferably in 30-45 min. It CAN'T have any accessories (like weights and stuff) and I would like to spend no more than $25. I also need to be able to buy it online. I don't care what style it is, I am open to all suggestions. Thank you.
I would definitely recommend trying Zumba, I've had some awesome results from it.
http://www.zumba.com/ (Basically a dance exercise)
Check this out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KPv8ZGrb78Y
It's awesome ;)
Hi, I posted a question not too long ago about getting a job babysitting. I followed the amazing advice that was given to me, and I think I might have a job at a day care. Thats what I'm asking about.
I'm 19, and I think I got the job. She said she'd call me back in a week or so after my fingerprints came back and background check; I went to my old work, and my old manager there told me some lady called asking about me, and that she told the lady very good things.
But what I'm really wondering, is how much do people at a daycare get paid in TN? I heard is $5, and I've even heard $9. I'd ask the lady, but to me thats very rude.
I also wanted to know, what goes on at a daycare? What is a daycare for??
The place I might be working at has kids from 12wks to 8 years.
How does that work? Will I watch all of them? Or be divided into a certain age category?
Because what my boyfriend told me is that they might put me with 6-8 year olds since they are the easiest, but I really wanted Toddlers or their 6-10 month age group.
:/
Any tips?
I know she wil answer my question next week, but I'm really anxious and I'm worried.
Hello again!
I'm not sure I can really help you with the pay as every daycare is different in every state, However from experience of working at 2 daycare's in the past well from my personal experience I worked with age group 3-5yrs.
You do not want to jump into infants right of the bat, You will likely find that 6-8yrs are more easy to handle. When I worked at a daycare my duty was to to be the teachers aide. When it came to reading time I would read the books, I would participate in activities such as crafts, Help prepare lunch, Watch out for their safely while they are outside on the playground, Make sure they properly wash their hands if they use the bathroom etc. Not much different from being a babysitter ;) It's fun and entertaining but be glad they didn't throw you in with the little ones.
I get really bad cramps when I'm on my period. I was just wondering if anybody knew any home remedies or tips for when it gets really bad. Thanks in advance for all answers!
Hot tea and a heating pad! Works every time. Avoid taking baths, Water will only make the flow worse. Stick to showers until your period is over.
Ive been staying at work later than usual some nights, drinking with my boss. We've always talked about hooking up but bever did so. Last week, we had a little too much and actually went through with it and had sex. The thing is, I thought I'd feel a lot worse about it than I do. I don't feel guilty or ashamed at all. Is that weird? I'm not sure if something has to be wrong with me to not care that I slept with not only my boss, but a married man at that. I need opinions. I know there will be negative comments towards me, but that's ok. I want your honest opinion on what you think about this situation. So maybe i can understand why I'm ok with this. Thanks
I'm not sure if you are the same person that asked about this awhile back.
However, I'm still going to stick with my answer.
It is wrong to sleep with anyone who has high authority over you, Your boss didn't sleep with you he took advantage of you. Yes, Even if you consented. It's just as bad as a teacher sleeping with a student or even a therapist sleeping with a patient. In this case, You are a coworker.
You just put your job on the line. I'll give you a few reasons you should be feeling pretty shitty about what you did.
1, This man is married, He has a family. How do you think his wife would react if she ever found out? What if this man has kids?.....You don't feel bad at all coming between his marriage. Imagine how the children would feel if somewhere down the line it lead to a divorce. You were both in the wrong but you allowed yourself to be THAT person that came in between a marriage.
2, You are a coworker, As a boss he has say on whether to let you go or not. Sure, Everything may be all peaches and cream right now but sleeping with your boss...You gave him one more reason to hold something over your head vice versa. It was clearly inappropriate and an immoral thing to do.
3, You should of known better then to let your boss take advantage of you, You stated that you don't feel bad or guilty at all which tells me that you took maybe very very little thought into the fact that it was wrong. You knew it was wrong but you went and did it anyway. You've put yourself in a situation where you are the coworker that slept with her boss. If it ever gets around to coworkers again fingers will be pointed at you and your boss. Fire doesn't put out fire, Only water does. In this case you just added more fire to the pit.
If you don't feel guilty and ashamed at all after I pointed this out too you then I'm going to have to say that stupidity has gotten the best of you.
The best thing I would say you could possibly do for yourself now is look for another job....
For the last 9 years my wife and I have been going down a rocky road for our relationship. I was a selfish prick to her and my two daughters. I would go off and go drinking with my buddies, I would refuse to help her in any way shape or form, and I would take full on advantage of her services. I felt that since I was the sole provider then I can do what ever I want. About two years ago she had an affair and it was a huge wake up call for myself. I started to turn myself around, quit drinking, and be there for her more. Then one day, something snapped inside of me. All I could do is think about the affair, every time I looked at her I would get so angry at her I couldn't even stand it so I would go to the bars with my buddies and go drinking to drown out the anger. I did this for six months straight with now break. During this time she was working real hard to make things right but I would simply ignore her. I got so tired of her trying to make our marriage work and I got so tired of being angry that I told her that I want a divorce. Well after I said that I went out of town on business and that gave me time to think about what I said and what I really want in my marriage. I contacted her and I told her that I have been doing some thinking and that I want to make our marriage work and turn our situation around. Well its been almost a year and my wife still is shut off from me and she keeps telling me that if she opens up a little she feels I will go back to my old ways. I have seen the errors of what I have done and I truly love my wife. She is my everything. I would love it if I could get her to open up, but everything that I try gets shut down, she turns me down for dates, she refuses to touch me, she refuses to talk to me. I figured she would just up and leave but she hasn't. Is she punishing me for what I have done? Is she feeling guilt for the affair? How do I get my wife to open up after nearly a year of her being shut down?
I don't blame her, I understand where you are you coming from but I also see where she stands also.
You've burnt her, You have been married for 9 years and you have chosen to put yourself before your wife and your children. Your wife had a lot of time to sit on her own anger and frustration that she took matters into her own hands and began to seek what she wanted through in affair.
If you want to fix things, Then I would sit down with your wife and try to talk to her about seeking help through marriage counseling. If you can't afford this then you could try going to a church that would offer free family/marriage counseling to you and your wife. Second, If you have a drinking problem I would also discuss trying to get yourself into rehab. In order to make this work you and your wife have to come to a mutual understanding and likely your wife needs some serious convincing that you want to make a change in your life. This can happen but it will take time. Talk to her and come with a plan and take it a day at a time.....Anything is possible but you need to communicate.
I'm thirteen and my boyfriend just recently broke up with me. When I asked him why, he said it was because I was too obsessive.
Whenever we're together, we share jokes and tell what's happening in our lives. I text him whenever there's a problem or if something important is going to happen to me. I don't recall buying gifts for him or making his picture my desktop background, while he buys me gifts and makes my picture his desktop background. I treat him like a best friend except that I really like him, while he treats me like he loves me.
Am I obsessive? What will I do for everything to be okay again?
Am I obsessive?
Doesn't sound like it however you are thirteen years old. Maybe the kid wasn't ready for a relationship. Yes, believe it or not this is a possibility.
Being obsessive doesn't describe what you've written above, Someone who is obsessed can't stop talking, calling, seeing the person and sometimes being obsessed with someone can lead to stalking and controlling them. This doesn't sound like you at all, In the meantime if he isn't ready to date maybe you should just move on and find someone else that is. If you tried to beg him to take you back, Kept trying to contact him etc. Then yes maybe I would then say you were being a bit needy...
I am now 18 and my gf is 16.
Now it;s been 5 months since we started dating.And we've been really close and we ARE going good.But now there's something in my mind which has been a big problem for me.My gf used to have a FB account.But last December she deactivated it due to some issues with her parents.But she had recently activated it and it took like 1 week for her tell me what she did.But actually I have her password but she doesn't know that.And I've been checking her messages.She does have a lot of contacts with guys'not like me.It's not that I dont trust her but those guys they ve been like flirting with her.I know that she loves me alot too.Then recently she has given her mobile number to this guy who likes her and all.And then she told me that this guy has been texting with her.But she lied to me telling that she didnt give her number to him but somehow he has found it,But she did give him her number.I know that.Actually we are so in love.And we are crazy about each other.But still I have these problems too.I cant ask her about them too.But I ve told her once before about something else which came up before.sometimes I feel like she is totally different from the person who is with me when she is not with me'or when she is on the phone with me.Now I can't talk to her in the way I used to do with all these doubts.And when I see her messages I kinda get angry + jealous.So I need advice!.I mean how to react on this issue.(I dont think that I ll be able to talk to her about this)
You technically violated her privacy and considering that she is lying to you your relationship is not "going good"
Now, I'm not going to bash you out on the fact that you've been reading her messages as I do not know if she gave you a valid reason to suspect any cheating activity. Now, Has she been flirting back with this guy? Did she let them know that she is in a relationship with you?
Honestly dude it sounds like she is being sketchy, If she can't tell you the truth then you don't have stability in your relationship. I can see why you would have issues trusting her but if she can't be honest with you and faithful then she just isn't worth it. I know maybe you have strong feelings for her but in order for a relationship to be successful both of you need to be on the same page. Your girlfriend is being sneaky, She never even acknowledge to the other men that she is in a relationship with you. Why is she so afraid to tell them?.....Is she ashamed?...These are all things that would be crossing my mind. Maybe she likes the attention these men give her but at the same time doesn't want you to know about them. I have no idea but you do have every right to be pissed and it's either A, Talk to her about it and make it crystal clear of where you to stand or B, Tell her straight out you've caught her ass lying on several occasions and move on
this is embarrassing but i had diarrhea and while cleaning myself i saw a clear gooey substance that looked like mucus on the paper i cleaned myself with i know it came out of my bottom and im pretty sure its not vaginal discharge but once by diarrhea stopped i never saw it again so what is this substance?
This might sound a bit gross but when you have bowel movements, There sometimes is mucus that comes out of our back end. It's normal it discharge caused from our digestive tract. If you are concerned you can always schedule an appointment with your doctor.