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What should I do?
I am now 18 and my gf is 16.
Now it;s been 5 months since we started dating.And we've been really close and we ARE going good.But now there's something in my mind which has been a big problem for me.My gf used to have a FB account.But last December she deactivated it due to some issues with her parents.But she had recently activated it and it took like 1 week for her tell me what she did.But actually I have her password but she doesn't know that.And I've been checking her messages.She does have a lot of contacts with guys'not like me.It's not that I dont trust her but those guys they ve been like flirting with her.I know that she loves me alot too.Then recently she has given her mobile number to this guy who likes her and all.And then she told me that this guy has been texting with her.But she lied to me telling that she didnt give her number to him but somehow he has found it,But she did give him her number.I know that.Actually we are so in love.And we are crazy about each other.But still I have these problems too.I cant ask her about them too.But I ve told her once before about something else which came up before.sometimes I feel like she is totally different from the person who is with me when she is not with me'or when she is on the phone with me.Now I can't talk to her in the way I used to do with all these doubts.And when I see her messages I kinda get angry + jealous.So I need advice!.I mean how to react on this issue.(I dont think that I ll be able to talk to her about this)
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You DEFINATELY need to talk to her about this.
If you don't talk to her, this is the part where the relationship drops. So, sit down with her and talk to her. Tell her you saw what you saw.
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I totally understand where you coming from. What I don't understand is why is she texting this guy if she knew that he was flirting with her and they probably text on the low. I don't think is fair to you cause you want to trust her and not seem obssesive but you don't want to get played and hurt. If she really loves youshe wouldn't hurt you talk to her about. It see how she reacts .
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Well by not talking you're not going to get anything fixed. So basically what you are saying is that you have a problem but you don't want to fix it. By saying that you aren't helping yourself, her, or this relationship.
From what you described it sounds very shady what she is doing. And you need to confront her on it. A relationship is also suppose to be about communication and about trust. If your girlfriend is talking to a guy in a friendly way then I wouldn't worry about it too much. If the guy is talking to her in a flirty sort of way then I see a huge problem with that. You NEED to talk to her. Whenever I have a problem with my boyfriend I talk to him. And whenever he has a problem with me he talks to me about it.
Although another thing I find not 'trusting' is you having her password and logging on and looking at her stuff. Does she know you have it? That's a little shady and I think you should come clean with that as well.
Relationship = Trust + Communication
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You technically violated her privacy and considering that she is lying to you your relationship is not "going good"
Now, I'm not going to bash you out on the fact that you've been reading her messages as I do not know if she gave you a valid reason to suspect any cheating activity. Now, Has she been flirting back with this guy? Did she let them know that she is in a relationship with you?
Honestly dude it sounds like she is being sketchy, If she can't tell you the truth then you don't have stability in your relationship. I can see why you would have issues trusting her but if she can't be honest with you and faithful then she just isn't worth it. I know maybe you have strong feelings for her but in order for a relationship to be successful both of you need to be on the same page. Your girlfriend is being sneaky, She never even acknowledge to the other men that she is in a relationship with you. Why is she so afraid to tell them?.....Is she ashamed?...These are all things that would be crossing my mind. Maybe she likes the attention these men give her but at the same time doesn't want you to know about them. I have no idea but you do have every right to be pissed and it's either A, Talk to her about it and make it crystal clear of where you to stand or B, Tell her straight out you've caught her ass lying on several occasions and move on
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