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I wrote my boyfriend a letter and he never answered!
18/f. My boyfriend recently ended our relationship. He was drunk and admitted to me he cheated on me during a different drunk night. He said a lot of really hurtful things to me that night, so I wrote him a letter a few days later saying everything that was on my mind. It was in no way malicious; I basically told him what he did was terrible, but I hope he had a great life.
He never said anything about the letter, so a few days ago I asked him if we could have a talk sometime when he's free. I've sorta changed my mind since then, but in a stunning act of maturity, he texted me today to see if I still wanted to talk. My mom has advised me against doing so, as I've taken the break up extremely hard, and she feels like I shouldn't waste anymore time. What do you think? Should I ask him why he never answered my letter (written about 3 weeks ago) or just forget about the whole thing?
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I'm going to have to agree with your mother on this one. Why do you want to talk to him? What do you want to get out of this? If I were you I wouldn't even bother him because he cheated. Cheating to me is like the worst thing you could do to someone else. If you care enough about that person than you care enough either to say I'm sorry this isn't working out for me and I want to see other people or the person stays faithful. This guy sounds immature and confused about what he wants. I would stay away from him and move o to someone who is going to treat you right. Listen to your mother, mothers know best! :)
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You are very young & have so much time to hurt over him, possibly find other friends or distractions & definitely you need to know that for a fact that you deserve better. You will hurt, yes. Time will help & even heal you. Seems that he is 3 strikes & he's out, to me! You have so much time to figure out how to replace that time you spent with him. Having 2nd thoughts is normal when you feel for someone but you must not give him the option ~ not now. Live your life now. Think of anything that will make your life better in the near future without him. Many things are awaiting you around corners that you can't see just yet but will come. If you stop this relationship, you will look back & find that you feel much better that you left it. Maybe even wonder why you held on as long as you did. The hurt at the beginning is so much easier to go through that keeping all the torment of having someone you care for cheating on you. What's next? Ask yourself now... What is best for you...
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Move on
The guy admitted to cheating on you, What will a letter do to solve it? It won't make it any better, It won't take the fact that he cheated on you away and it won't make things the way they used to be. The letter you wrote may not being anywhere malicious as you've stated but telling someone you hoped they had a nice life is basically trying to get them to sympathize for you. The guy didn't take your feelings into consideration when he cheated he isn't going to take things into consideration now. The letter is only doing no good but showing him that you want to try and crawl back to him, Why? Show him that you are bigger and stronger then being his doormat. Cheaters are cheaters, There is no what, ifs ands or buts about it. You cannot change him, A letter cannot change him. He needs to change on his OWN time. Stop sitting around moping and waiting around for him he is a lost cause. Take your mothers advise for one and meet someone better then that.
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