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I am in a complicated relationship.
I slept with my flat mate and two years later we are still together... fight, fight, love. fight, fight, love etc. I moved out too ease the strain, but its still the same pattern.

He treats me like shit. Lies, talks down too me, cancells plans, and contradicts everything he says. His friends and family have all said he is lucky to have me, which just makes things worse.

I am confident, bubbly and a happy young lass, but he just makes me feel sad.

any advice??

Please leave him... go on to better things! You will look back if you do this & see how much happier you are........... or you will stay with him, look back & be sorry you never found out how you SHOULD be treated. How you deserve
to be treated.
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lastnight was the first time giving my man a blow job and stuff and we went deeeep to the point were i started gagging. after that, we smoked weed and now it sounds like i have a sore throat. Is this because the smoke or deep throating? Is there any quick ways to get rid of it? :p

Both will cause a soar throat. Simply try maybe one or the other ~ but I suggest stopping at least the weed 1st.

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I want to know that how can I keep my vagina clean.???? Its really hairy and smelly.. At the sex time I feel embarrass...

Keep it trimmed short & take showers instead of baths. Do not douche. This is only something that will make the odor worse & can be unhealthy. Women need a GOOD BACTERIA that we all have in the inside of the vagina as well as our intestines. Douching, soaking in a bath, swimming, taking certain antibiotics & other things may take the good bacteria from the vagina &/or intestines & cause a yeast infection. Then the problem is worse, of course. Go to your doctor if not done so already & make sure you are tested for any type of infection. All women are different - but some odors, especially accompanied by certain discharge, are signs of infection. Start with your doctor ...
Thank you...
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I'm an eighteen year old female. I was just at the Neurologist (ADHD) and they need me to be working out 30 minutes everyday. I have not been doing that. I used to swim competitively year round but I developed a hip injury and haven't been back for 4 years.
I have very low self-esteem when it comes to working out. I used to be bullied for my weight. I am 160 lbs and 5'8. Another reason to be working out. Anyways, all of my friends from high school (I'm a senior) work at our local YMCA. So I can't go there, even though it has a pool and fully equipped workout room. I would take some sort of dance Zumba class, but I have no one to take it with me (my dad is annoying and my mom is sooo over weight & all my friends are crazy busy). I get bored with workout videos, Wii games, Zumba on YouTube. I also used to do this program called "Couch to 5k" running around my neighborhood with my dad.. but we both got lazy and I got whistled at and hollered at so much that I don't want to put myself out there like that again...
What do I do?

Try working out to music or a dvd at home. It is very much effective, inexpensive & no one else to bother you as you do it. I have ADHD also and needing to do the same thing. I am on medication but exercise is the best thing to add to any condition having to do with stress as your doctor will give you the final word on...
Great luck to you...
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18/f. My boyfriend recently ended our relationship. He was drunk and admitted to me he cheated on me during a different drunk night. He said a lot of really hurtful things to me that night, so I wrote him a letter a few days later saying everything that was on my mind. It was in no way malicious; I basically told him what he did was terrible, but I hope he had a great life.

He never said anything about the letter, so a few days ago I asked him if we could have a talk sometime when he's free. I've sorta changed my mind since then, but in a stunning act of maturity, he texted me today to see if I still wanted to talk. My mom has advised me against doing so, as I've taken the break up extremely hard, and she feels like I shouldn't waste anymore time. What do you think? Should I ask him why he never answered my letter (written about 3 weeks ago) or just forget about the whole thing?

You are very young & have so much time to hurt over him, possibly find other friends or distractions & definitely you need to know that for a fact that you deserve better. You will hurt, yes. Time will help & even heal you. Seems that he is 3 strikes & he's out, to me! You have so much time to figure out how to replace that time you spent with him. Having 2nd thoughts is normal when you feel for someone but you must not give him the option ~ not now. Live your life now. Think of anything that will make your life better in the near future without him. Many things are awaiting you around corners that you can't see just yet but will come. If you stop this relationship, you will look back & find that you feel much better that you left it. Maybe even wonder why you held on as long as you did. The hurt at the beginning is so much easier to go through that keeping all the torment of having someone you care for cheating on you. What's next? Ask yourself now... What is best for you...
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