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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

im 13 and dont know what i can do for money
what kind of jods
ADVICE???

You don't need to get a job at a big chain. In fact, most of them don't hire until you're at least 16.

You can do simple jobs like babysitting for friends and family. [You can charge more for more kids the more troublesome they are]
Walk dogs of friends. [The more dogs at once the more money you get! ;)]
Mow lawns in the summer.
Rack leaves in the fall.
Shovel snow in the winter.
All jobs people hate. =]
Get homemade fliers and put them around the neighborhood.
For old people give them the fliers. They are old and can't go far =].


--Jack
(16/m)

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alright so heres the deal me and my bestfriend are both not bad looking girls so we're confused on why no boys are asking us out, all they want to do is hook up, while we're looking for relationships. We've seen girls that arent that pretty even get boyfriends, so we have no idea whats going wrong.... do you have any ideas on how we can get boys to i dont know actually go out with us? haha thanks.

I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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Yesterday I lost my virginity and well of course it hurt like hell!...but also I didn't feel any pleasure out of it!...whats wrong with that...It just hurt...thats all It didn't feel good or nothing! I didnt even last that long after like 5min i had to tell him to stop!...mostly cause i had to pee...but when i went to the bathroom I couldn't pee! I feel Like I never want to do It again! Is this normal!!!!

Generally for girls it doesn't feel very good the first few times, or at least that's what I've gathered from reading peoples' answers on this site.

Yes, it's normal.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I love going down on my gf. Im starting to think im not doing a good job because my gf takes forever to cum. Any advice on things i can do to help get her off.

The fact that she orgasms, in fact, the fact that she even cums means something is happening right. Most girls in their teenage years aren't able to do these things.

--Jack
(16/m)

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this is kindof embarassing, but i have inverted nipples, and sometimes if it's cold, they pop out. i think guys would think that's gross. s it normal? will they ever be normal? what do guys think? anything would be great!

Honestly, is this something that you control? No it's not. And any guy that judges you on something like this that you can't control is not a guy that is worth dating. When you find a guy, you'll know he's right for you if small and irrelevant things like this don't bother him.

Honestly it's not that gross. God made you that way, and really you should just appreciate it. Sorry if that sounds harsh, it wasn't meant to.

Basically, the guys that really matter won't mind. And those who mind don't matter.


--Jack
(16/m)

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I really need babysitting jobs but i don't know anyone who has little kids. how should i get more people to ask me to babysit? i have red cross training. help me please! 14/f

If you live in a neighborhood with a lot of houses, printing fliers with simple information like your phone number is a good idea and you will probably get a lot of calls within a few days if you put them OUTSIDE of people's mailboxes, because I know in some states it is illegal to put fliers and such in the mailbox.

If you live in a town with a newspaper, try getting an ad in the paper [a cheap ad, obviously], or send a letter to the editor about it. Since a lot of people read the newspaper, you'd get some business there.

You could go around to local neighborhoods and pass out your fliers, or you could go door-to-door [if you're comfortable with that- maybe take a friend and have a parent following in the car, just in case] and ask people if they need a babysitter.

Good luck =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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im sacred i popped my cherry masturbating whats the chance i still have it

Likely you did if you started bleeding. If you didn't bleed at least a little [aside from your period], you probably didn't break your hymen.

Even if you did, some people break theirs just by riding a horse or falling down, or for a number of other reasons.

It doesn't make you any less of a woman having your cherry popped, so no need to fret.

--Jack
(16/m)

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well one of my best friends hate me cuz me and her x kissed and i didnt know she still liked him and idk what to do....

She can hate you for whatever, but honestly it's really immature of her to get mad that you kissed her EX- someone she is no longer dating. She has no control over him, and for a simple kiss, getting mad is really stupid.

Like it was mentioned, I would be the bigger person and just talk to her. Let her know that you had no idea she still liked him, and that really, he wasn't "out of bounds", since he was her ex.

If you feel it right, apologize. If you don't, then don't.

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok is it possible for someone to block someone else from texting you? because i have this friend brian and he has a cousin that i started to text and sometimes brian uses his cousins phone when i text his cousin and hes like hey its brian and then he doesnt say anything else and i just texted his cousin and then i realized that my Sent messages still says that i sent 101 messages when i just sent over that so im thinking that maybe brian blocked me on his cousins phone .. ? idk and now i feel bad because i hope he didnt because that would be really mean .. idk maybe brians just jealous? help !

Uhm, I'm not really sure. I know with my sent messages, it hits a certain point, and then it stays there, deleting the oldest of the sent messages.

For my inbox, it tells me when it's full, and I have to delete inbox messages before I can continue to get them.

If he isn't responding, maybe he just doesn't know what to say or he's busy.

I'm not sure whether you can block ONE number or not, though I know you can block ALL numbers from texting.

Thanks for inboxing ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Alright, I have TONS of pictures on my photobucket. I dont feel like deleting any or anything. So to prevent stalkers from stalking me.. please reply to this if youre willing to help, then Ill send you the link to my photobucket. Because I need help picking pictures for myspace. I just want like 5-10 NORMAL looking pictures in other people's opinions. Cause I can never tell. I take weird pictures hah. Thanks!

Maybe you might appreciate a guy's point of view. =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay, so one of my friends, lets call her Jamie, is always making fun of my dislexia (and for those of you who dont know, dislexia is a learning disability that, for me, pervents me from reading and writing well).

She always laughs at me when I miss spell a easy word, or cant read a easy word. I also studder when I talk, which she makes fun of.

When i try to defend myself and bring up the fact that im getting strate A's, she brings up the fact that i can only write at a 4th grade level and have to type everything because my handwriting is unreadable.

Anytime i tell her to stop, she tells me to relax and that its just a joke. What should i do?

13/f

Try talking to her one more time about how it hurts you that she makes fun of you. She may think it's only a joke, but it's become a problem with you. You can't control your dyslexia, and the fact that she's willing to make fun of you for that just shows her immaturity. If after you talk to her, and she still continues her stupid jokes, I wouldn't hesitate to find a new friend, because Jamie isn't acting like a very good friend of yours. Sure, friends pick at each other a bit, but not at things like dyslexia.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Some people at school are taking the mick out me.. e.g the way i dress the way i look the way my hair is the way i act.

Its just annoying!

I dont feel anything but stress! Grrrr

and i was wondering how i would deal with this..People say i should just like ignore them, But obviously its not that simple expecially when they tell me their gonna beat the **** out of me and when their telling me to go kill myself.. They make me feel like no1 cares about me or anything!!!!!!!!!

Someone help?

I know you said ignoring them won't work, but that's all you can do. You can't wave a magic wand and make people stop picking on you. I know sometimes it would be nice to be able to do that, and I know how you feel, because I've been through what you're going through. It's tough and it hurts when it seems like no one cares.

What I learned is that you just need to, whenever someone says something, act like they didn't see it. Walk away and get yourself away from the situation. If you can't, act like it doesn't bother you, even though I know it does.

If you can trust your parents, try talking to them about how you feel. Don't ask that they get involved, because it's your lesson to learn. Parents can really help sometimes.

If you have a really good friend, they can help also. Sometimes just talking out your feelings and having someone reassure you that you're not crazy can really help.

Here's another website that may have some answers to help you.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080705094029AACa08m

--Jack
(16/m)

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I never have anything to talk to my boyfriend about on the phone and he always gets mad can u help me because i get kind of scared when i talk to him on the phone

It takes time to get to know each other so you feel comfortable about telling each other more private thoughts. That's normal. You can talk about music (bands, artists, etc.) and what your favorite movies are. There is also the Summer Olympics coming up and you could try watching a little on TV and discuss that with him. There are also things going on in the world all around you so pick a subject. Listen to him! Find out what he enjoys and talk about them. Guys usually aren't into useless gossip that girlfriends talk about so I wouldn't even go there.

You're probably nervous because he's your boyfriend. If that's the case, just try not to let that distract you. Talk about things you would talk about with your friends [aside from gossip]. Talk about your day or really anything. Don't be afraid to be random.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Well Hi, I was wondering if i should go out with my ex-boyfriend again? I broke up with him for a dumb reason but he still likes me and i feel bad.

Like Laura said, we don't know the reason, and we can't help specifically, but here's my generic advice.

I went through what you're going through. My girlfriend broke up with me for a stupid reason, but it was ME who felt bad about it. I felt SO pressured into asking her back out and I was told how much of a jerk I would be if I didn't date her again, so I fell into peer pressure and asked her back out three days after we had broken up.

It turns out that getting back with your ex never really works out. Getting back with her was just awkward, especially since I asked her out because of guilt.

If that's your reason, don't do it.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have a crush on this HOTTIE! I think he might like me but i'n not sure. What if he doesn't like me? How do i tel him i love him?

Like it's been said, a crush and love are two separate things. Most likely, you're just confusing love with infatuation, which is normal.

Here's how to tell if he likes you:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.





If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!


Here's how to ask him out, according to my friend Laura, if you're interested:

Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:


1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.


I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!


Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...


As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?



--Jack
(16/m)

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ok well i just learned that my best friend has been talking bout me behind my back and i dont know what to do :[

You have two options here.

1. Ignore her. This is probably the hardest to do, since some teenage girls are ruthless and will continue to talk bad about you even if you ignore them.

2. Confront her about it. Next time you see her, tell her that you heard that she's talking about you behind your back, and that you really don't like it. Ask her to stop, and if she refuses, tell her how immature she is. Honestly, people who talk behind others' backs are just lame attention-whores. They aren't worth getting upset about.

--Jack
(16/m)

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i know this sounds stupid, but i don't know how to give a handjob. help meeeeeee

The columnist below is correct. However, I believe we are allowed to give links.

only search advicenators.com


http://www.wikiafterdark.com/index.php/Give_a_Guy_a_Hand_Job


--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm 16 and have never had a job before.
I need a good job, nothing fancy. But something that can work around school. Does anyone have any suggestions? Also i know its kinda a lot to ask but not work really late hours. I think that i need to really help my mom out with the bills. Or just pay for my own stuff myself.
Help!

=]

You don't need to get a job at a big chain. In fact, most of them don't hire until you're at least 16.

You can do simple jobs like babysitting for friends and family. [You can charge more for more kids the more troublesome they are]
Walk dogs of friends. [The more dogs at once the more money you get! ;)]
Mow lawns in the summer.
Rack leaves in the fall.
Shovel snow in the winter.
All jobs people hate. =]
Get homemade fliers and put them around the neighborhood.
For old people give them the fliers. They are old and can't go far =].

Use this search:

only search advicenators.com



And I've used this answer before, and someone said that they were "child jobs", but really, if you're making money, does it matter WHAT you're doing? The jobs above are really simple =].


--Jack
(16/m)

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Hello from Canada, like your website! I got married two years ago, I was 36 and it is the first time I am married. He is 12 years older than me (not an issue) but had been married 23 years before his divorce. So he is used to the married life. Sometimes, I have a hard time with this, not used to having someone around all the time, kinda miss the privacy I used to have and I kinda miss my independence at times. Was used to making all the decisions in my life. I love my husband, but I find marriage kinda boring. We don't have much money right now to go on any exciting trips or anything to relieve the bordom. I wonder if it is normal for me to feel like this?

Yeah I think it's normal, but then again, I'm not married so I wouldn't really have first-hand experience with that.

If you're getting bored of always having him there with you, maybe try taking a girl's weekend out or something. Like get with your girl friends, and go somewhere non-expensive and just spend the weekend away from husbands and whatnot.

If you're feeling like you're bored, talk to your husband- just let him know that it's not HIM that's boring xD. Maybe he feels the same way. And then you guys can brainstorm some ideas on how to make your marriage a little more interesting.

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(16/m)

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Hi my name is Heather and I am (15)-(145 lbs)
I have been struggling with my weight for five years. I need to know HOw to tone down. I use wieghts but the more I use I gain mussle mass. I know it is good. I don't want to become mussle women. I just need to know how to tone down my mussles and still lose weight. I am very athletic I run every day, I eat every four to five hours what am I doing wrong.

Hmm- I'm not sure how much this will help you, but here's an answer my friend had for a question kind of like yours. Sorry that the answer is long ;]

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=522387

Enjoy =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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