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Marriage blues
Hello from Canada, like your website! I got married two years ago, I was 36 and it is the first time I am married. He is 12 years older than me (not an issue) but had been married 23 years before his divorce. So he is used to the married life. Sometimes, I have a hard time with this, not used to having someone around all the time, kinda miss the privacy I used to have and I kinda miss my independence at times. Was used to making all the decisions in my life. I love my husband, but I find marriage kinda boring. We don't have much money right now to go on any exciting trips or anything to relieve the bordom. I wonder if it is normal for me to feel like this?
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I have never been married before, However I believe what you are feeling is very normal. It's new to you, and it takes some time to adjust (even 2 years later) If the marriage seems "boring" try to spice it up! Try planning fun things to do with your husband. (Walk in the park, Dinner at the beach etc) Because you don't have much money doesn't mean you can't go out and enjoy yourselves. Try spending a few hours to yourself if you miss your privacy. Do what you used to love doing. Go out with friends etc. You may be stressed out and that might be what is causing you too drain out.
Your feelings are perfectly normal
Just try and relax!
-BahaiMa22
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Yeah I think it's normal, but then again, I'm not married so I wouldn't really have first-hand experience with that.
If you're getting bored of always having him there with you, maybe try taking a girl's weekend out or something. Like get with your girl friends, and go somewhere non-expensive and just spend the weekend away from husbands and whatnot.
If you're feeling like you're bored, talk to your husband- just let him know that it's not HIM that's boring xD. Maybe he feels the same way. And then you guys can brainstorm some ideas on how to make your marriage a little more interesting.
--Jack
(16/m)
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