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alright so heres the deal me and my bestfriend are both not bad looking girls so we're confused on why no boys are asking us out, all they want to do is hook up, while we're looking for relationships. We've seen girls that arent that pretty even get boyfriends, so we have no idea whats going wrong.... do you have any ideas on how we can get boys to i dont know actually go out with us? haha thanks.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.
Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.
I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.
Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].
--Jack
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This exact problem has been driving me crazy lately as well! I think I've come to a conclusion.
If you give the boys the option of a hook up, that's all they're going to want.
Think about it: Making out, sex, or whatever you do with him, WITHOUT having to worry about your feelings or without commitment. Its practically a guy's dream, especially if you're in high school.
It really sucks, its really hard to wait for a guy that actually wants a relationship, but you have to do it to an extent. When you talk to guys, be flirty and be sweet. But if they ask to hook up just be like "Nah, I'm not into that." You can keep flirting with them if you're still interested, and eventually if the guy really likes your personality and you, he'll ask you to be his girlfriend. He'll have so much more respect for you, trust me.
Let me know if you need anything else!
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Think about what sort of guy you want to get into a relationship with. Is he a bookworm? is he a sports nut? Then go to those events where you would meet those kinds of guys. Poetry reading or a local ball game. Guys can be shy, so introduce yourself. Be friendly, amicable.
Don't be so concerned about getting into a relationship. When it's meant to happen, it'll happen. Sometimes, the answer is right under your nose!
cheers,
stargirl
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