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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end. I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.
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I'm going to be a sophomore this year. Ok this is gonna be alot. I'm just sick and tired of everything. Last year my life was so hard for me. I couldn't handle it. I have been cutting since 8th grade. I haven't cut in a month though. I know its a really bad habit and I want to do it so bad but then I just can't cover it no more since its summer. My life was breaking down and I needed help so bad. I knew it. I blew off guys, like I didn't like any boy. I always have liked a guy but then last year it didn't happen. I kept wondering why. I had one boyfriend last year and he was the only guy I liked. I don't like him anymore. I got over it REALLY quickly...
I don't know but I cried so much. Then at times I didn't know why I cried.
My friends noticed it and my teacher. I always say I'm fine and that's the normal thing to do. I never talk about my problems. I can't. It's too hard.
One of my friends tried to help me. She had depression and thought she could help. I gave up on myself. I didn't want the help. I know I needed it but I didn't want it.
Most of this was that I was never happy. I feel like somethings wrong with me and I don't know what to do. I act like everything's fine and smiled. Then I get home and cry.
Ok so I sound like a stupid 14 year old girl who can't control her emotions complaining. Yeah apparently that's what I do and that's what I'm doing. I don't know why and I don't know who to turn to.
The last time I was cutting. I cut so much. So many all over my legs and arms. No one noticed, except a couple of my friends. I never got help.
I've grown up in church all my life. A really good church too. I ended up liking another guy there. I met him last year as a freshman. He was a junior. Now I'm gonna be a sophomore and he is gonna be a senior. We are pretty good friends. I never started liking him till a couple months ago. He was cool. I didn't tell anyone but one friend. The thing is for these past couple weeks I just didn't talk to him as much. I was pushing him away. Only cause I know he wouldn't like me and I didn't want to like him. I still don't. The most I say is hi and that's it.
So at my church I made some decisions. Since its summer I thought I would be fine and be all happy like I'm supposed to be. It hit me again. I know when I start school again its gonna come back and I'm gonna be cutting and crying. I don't know what to do.
I don't have a clue what's going on with me. How can I just fake this in front of everybody and just...be ok with it until I'm alone. So far I've realized I have a problem but I don't know what and how to deal with it.
This guy was my world. The only thing I felt that was good. Until I just stopped talking to him it felt worse. I know my unhappiness isn't caused by him.
Then I just think the worst of things. Like my friends aren't really good friends even though I know they are the best. But I felt like people talk about me. I don't think they do but I felt like it. They are good people. I just think I'm not good enough for them.
I was so stressed out from school too. I am horrible and math and thought I was gonna fail and take summer school. I actually passed with a D. I was so happy I started crying. That was wonderful for me.
So when I decided to fight myself I wanted to think positive all the time. I tried so hard but then if I just stop for one time. Just one time I feel so hurt and like a big empty spot inside of me.
Why is this happening to me when I'm 14. I'm going to be 15 soon and this isn't how I wanted to be. I feel too young for this.
What should I do. I would talk to someone but I don't know who...and I don't really feel like I want to, need to, or ready to talk to someone. The best person I know is from church but I feel if I say anything that might parents will find out or I will get hurt.
Sorry for wasting your time. I just don't know what to do.
You sound like you're suffering from depression. People who are depressed sometimes (not always) cover it up when they're around other people. You need to see a therapist. You need the help whether you want it or not and you need to take it. If someone wants to help you get help, don't refuse it. They're saving your life.
I would talk to your parents. I know you don't want them to find out, but they love you and want the best for you. Your parents can get you the help if you just open up a little.
Therapy will really save your life because if you keep going at the rate you're going at, something bad will happen.
So I've been "best friends" with this girl for about like 3 years now. She's SUPER clingy to me. She always needs to know where I am and who I'm with if I'm not hanging out with her. If I tell her I can't hang out with her, she'll ask why, who are you with? Anyways, she and I and another girl are all BFF's. But this girl who's super clingy, let's call her Jane. She's always talking crap about the other girl,(let's call her Sara). Jane always vents to me about Sara and how much she hates her, and yet Jane is so nice, but it's all fake to Sara's face. And Sara and I are closer, so I tell Sara what Jane says about her.
As of right now, I don't want to hang out with Jane anymore. She tells me that she hates all the people in the group that we hang out with and she can't stand any of them. She's ALWAYS fake with them if she sees them, and she's always clinging onto me. I'm so sick of her crap. She brings drama to my life. And she's so dramatic, it's sick. I mean, I don't want to be mean and delete her out of my life. But what should I do?
The thing is, if I sit down and talk to her about it, she'll be like "oh i'm sorry." And then she'll talk behind my back with someone else. Which I know she does.
What should I do?
It isn't mean to delete someone from your life. It's necessary every once in a while. If you're nice to everyone (even when they piss you off), you're going to be carrying around a lot of baggage. It's best just to cut people out of your life (when they truly deserve it) & move on.
Honestly, do you really need someone who's clingy, fake & dramatic in your life? I'm pretty sure you don't so just stop dealing with her. Either tell her to cut the shit or to stop hanging out with you guys. Obviously it's her decision, but she'll probably continue to be fake.
Just stop being her friend. You don't need annoying people in your life. :)
Okay, so my birthday is Tuesday, and my dad is going to be out of town. I'm going to be 15, and I realize things happen. So my parents gave my my presents today (Sunday) so that he would be here and I wouldn't have to wait. Well, I got one of those mini-laptops. I don't like it. My mom knows this and I said thank you, because it is the thought that counts. I said I like the idea, its just way to small for me, I don't like the key bored. She said she understood and would return it and i could get something I liked. Now, my question, What should I get? I have a cell phone, ipod, and camera, all good. No new ones needed. I'm looking for something electronic, I can't get a big lap top, and I have a TV, ideas?
So let me get this right?
You don't want a big laptop, but when your mom got you a small laptop, you refused it? You seem pretty picky to me, and if people are going to be picky they can just get nothing. :)
Well, since you pretty much ruled out everything besides video games, I'm gonna say that you could get a video game console if you're into that. If you're not into video games, I suggest you just take the money and buy something for yourself when you see something that you like.
I've liked my supervisor for a few months now. We started hanging out, and it was a lot of fun. All of my friends kept insisting that he liked me, and we finally admitted it to each other that we did. He went to prom with me, and told my best friend he was getting frustrated cause I kept getting distracted and wandering off from him. Then today we went out, and afterward he walked me to my door and leaned in for the kiss. I was shocked at first, and stepped back, and then tried to lean back in. I don't know what happened... but it didn't work out. I feel soo stupid, I really hate my life right now. What should I do?
Just explain why you pulled back. Let him know how much you really like him & that you're sorry for messing up your first kiss with each other.
Ask to go out again & this time, kiss him. Haha. :)
okay, so i've been wanting the Blackberry PEARL.
and i'm withverizon.
but i'm wondering do I HAVE to buy internet with it?
cause my friend has altell and she has the same phone.
yet her interent was freee.
I'm pretty sure you would have to.
If your current package with Verizon doesn't have unlimited internet included, then you would need to add it on. Adding it on just basically makes it so you get the internet, but then it adds on like $20 extra bucks to your plan a month. If you get it for the whole family then that works too, but if it's just for your number it's added on to you & nobody else.
You should probably ask your parents if it's okay to add this on because I'm not sure if they'd be willing to dish out the extra money just so you can have internet so be sure that it's okay. Other than that, just go into your local Verizon store & see what they say.
how do i make my own website for singing and comedy
Well, if you're looking to make videos of yourself singing & being funny, the obvious site is YouTube.
If you're just looking to write it down or present audio, then you should get a blog. So try:
www.youtube.com
www.livejournal.com
im looking for one of those sites that has all of those couples graphics
like the ones with close ups of hands holding and stuff like that
if anyone could send me some sites itd be appreciated!
I usually just use tinypic.com
The URL is smaller, and there's a lot of pictures. Just search "Couples" and what you're looking for should come up.
How long do you have to give one head for him to cum? I mean like, i've given my bf head, but only for like 5 minutes, I feel like he doesn't even feel good. I mean I know what i'm doing, and everything, but idk. & he always gets mad when I stop. So should this mean that he likes it ? Or..
Thanks in advancee !
5 minutes isn't really too long to get a guy to cum unless he's a quick one, but other than that, it takes a lot more than 5 minutes.
When it comes to cumming though, it varies. No guy is the same. Also, when he gets mad when you stop, that means that he's enjoying it & that you should keep going.
why do (did) those like thin jelly bracelts mean sex? please answer this
http://urbanlegends.about.com/library/bl_jelly_bracelets.htm
It was pretty long so I didn't read all of it, but there's a lot of information that could be helpful about this.
Well I was with this guy for a few months. We then just stopped talking in around January? And I had a feeling that he wanted to break up with me. See what I don't get it that he didn't say anything. He started avoiding me and going opposite directions I was going. If I was talking to one of his friends he would walk away quickly. Cover his face, etc. So then one day, me and my friend started talking about how he is kinda too "emotional" (This was before she knew we kinda broke up) and then we kinda were talking to him about how he should kinda tough up and stuff. But I doubt he took it seriously. So a month or two later, I apologized (Even though I did nothing and I hate holding grudges though I was never mad at him and I don't want anyone hating on me...)and he didn't even apologize... And when I apologized I meant if we could be friends. But then I didn't say anything more. After that, I figured maybe we could start talking just like regular friends. But nope, he still avoids me , etc. So then maybe a month later, I said if we could just be friends and stuff... And he was just like "sure...". BUT he still avoids me and everything. And I really dont get it. I don't want this to happen for like years. He's been doing this to me for like what. Half a year? And I'm sick of always apologizing because he doesn't even. It's like as if I was supposed to apologize to him. So any advice how this whole avoiding this could stop? Cause I never do avoid or anything like that. Much thanks !
I would talk to him and see whats up. Ask him why he's been acting so weird with you for the past 6 months. If he doesn't have a response or he goes "No, I haven't," call him out on his shit. If he still can't justify his behavior, stop dealing with him. There's no reason for you to keep apologizing and trying to be his friend if he isn't even interested in doing the same. Why put in the effort if you're not going to get the same? Friendship is a 2-way street and if he isn't willing to put in the time and effort and he's going to be childish and avoid you, then obviously that's his choice & that should be it for you. Just stop wasting your time if nothing changes. Don't dwell on it either. There's not much you can do to change him from being a jerk. :(
18/f. Hey everyone.
A few months ago "one of my supposedly best friends" and my other "really good friends" all started these nasty rumors about me and were calling me names such as; slut, whore, skank, waste of time, waste of breath, never important, etc. I mean I was getting restricted phone calls, instant messages, text messages, messages on facebook/myspace from all these different people. I was getting verbally harassed for about 2 weeks. I'm not getting into the rumors because thats besides the point and they weren't true no matter how many times I told them, they didn't believe me. I do nothing to them, I ignore them. I don't spread rumors about them. I want NOTHING to do with them anymore. They are totally out of my life, for good.
Anyways, my current best friend (whom I have been friends with since 1st grade) stuck up for me and was telling the girls that it wasn't true. (Like a best friend should do.) But she still talks to those girls and she still hangs out with them. I can't tell her who she can and can not talk to because thats not fair to her. You know? But she says she doesn't like to hang out with them because they are immature and full of drama. Yet, last weekend she went to a party with them. There was drinking involved and you never know what was said at that party about me. Because even though it's been around 8 months, the girls still talk about me and how the rumors are true. I hear about it every so often. And you never know what was being said about me because alcohol brings out truth and whatnot, you know? You don't know who said what or what was said, etc.
Anyway, now my current best friend is leaving these girls comments on their facebooks saying how they all need to hang out again, it was so much fun, etc. She knows I can't stand these girls for what they did to me and yet she still talks to them. It hurts my feelings how she does still hang out with them. I wouldn't do that to her, even if they did nothing to me, that's just how I am. If someone messes with my friend, they have to deal with me. I tried telling her that it hurts my feelings that she still hangs out with them and talks to them, but she doesn't do anything about it. I don't know what else to do.
I don't even know what question I'm asking you guys, that's how confused I am. Haha. I guess basically, what I am asking is for some advice about what to do with my current best friend. How to handle this situation in a mature, adult manner.
While I see why you're upset that your friend is hanging out with them, I kind of think you need to get over it. You said you wanted to handle this in a mature manner? Whining about this isn't very mature of you.
You're not your best friend's only friend. She can hang out with whoever she wants & that includes those other girls. You cannot give her an ultimatum or a choice. If she wants to hang out with them, that's her own business. If you can hang out with whoever you want, then the same should go for her.
Whether these girls hurt your feelings or not, it's not your decision who they associate with, and it's not your decision who your friend associates with. I think you should either talk to her or mind your own business because I really don't see much being done about this.
well we were havinq problems with our jet ski , so we sent them into the shop. it ' s been weeks since. they told us to come in &_ pick up our jet ski. when we qet there they had our jet ski taken apart &_ not fixed what so ever. my question is ;is this even leqal ? can they make us pay for all these parts &_ not even fix it ?
I'm pretty sure that's illegal.
I would ask them why they haven't fixed your jet skis and if they don't have a reason, I would contact a lawyer.
16/f So Ive been in my relationship for 9 Months and we have Not had sex, we plan to wait for a while. So We were making out the other day and I am the one who kinda started the making out, But then when we started to make out I just stopeed and smiled and didnt continue... So He looked at me and called me a tease, now Im not positive what a tease is and is it a good thing or bad?!
Being called a tease usually isn't a good thing. He basically means that you started something & didn't intend to finish it.
Im a 19 year old female and have not had sex yet. I had a boyfriend for a couple months but he we never tried to have sex. I really want to experience it before i turn 20. Is it worth it? And is it ok for it to be someone i really dont want to be with? I dont know what to do!!!
I personally don't think it's okay to have sex with someone who you don't really want to be with. Sex is a really emotional thing, and can drain you if you're not ready for it. Trust me when I say that if you have sex with someone you don't really can't see yourself with, or care for, you're going to regret it.
You should wait until you're with someone you truly love. If you just have any random hook-up, it's just regret that's going to build up & you won't be able to change what's already been done. Losing your virginity is supposed to be special. How special can it possibly be if it's with someone you don't care for?
Just wait. Sex is too much for someone to handle when they're not ready. Clearly, you're not.
Yo i'm Deebs 13/m really short for my age. But do know any places to go shopping for a guy that girls like and think is hott. Any websites would really help (need websites). I rate high
-Deebs
My boyfriend shops at Anchor Blue sometimes. You could also try American Eagle or Zumies or something.
http://www.anchorblue.com/
http://www.zumiez.com/
http://www.ae.com/web/index.jsp
I too really like my best friend, and we went out, and broke up but somehow I still cannot get over him. after the breakup things bounced back to normal you could say, and I wasn't as heartbroken as I am now. Lately things have been different. He hasn't made any effort to try to talk to me at all. What do you think I should do? I really need your help. This hurts both from a liking point, and loosing a best friend point.
I think you should move on. If he isn't making any effort to be your friend, why should you make the effort to be his? Friendship is a two way street. If he isn't willing to try, then you shouldn't either.
Send him a message seeing what's up and see if things change. If not, let the friendship fizzle out because it isn't worth the energy if you're not getting back what you're putting in.
im doing a class project and have to find out how many people die a second. anybody know?
From what I found on Google, about 1.8 persons die per second making it around 100-110 deaths per minute. If you want to get more technical, that's about 6500 deaths an hour. It's not exact, I'm just rounding, but that's an estimate. I hope this helps.
what are similar stores like forever 21, charlotte ruse, mandee, etc
The only 2 similar stores I know of are H&M and Wet Seal.
ok this is a little wierd for me so please be open minded about this, i have a 13 year old daughter and well i need to know the age that girls start have periods i'm her father and only parent and i just don't know these things about girls, and also she said that she wanted to know what sex felt like and that someone told her that it would hurt at 13 years old, but i told her that she shouldn't think about things like that that she should wait until she got married but still she asked and it deserves an answer so i kinda need a womans advice on this because i'm clueless on either part, so please help, thanks
The age to get your period can range. Some girls start as young as 9, and some as old as 16. Sometimes even older, but that's a rare case. She'll probably be starting her period soon, and she'll let you know when. There's no need to be scared or worried. Just buy her some tampons or pads, & she should be fine. :) If you have any more questions about puberty for girls, you can go to www.beinggirl.com It'll give you all the information you need.
As for sex? It'll hurt no matter what age you lose your virginity at. Whether you're 13, 25, or 40. It's going to hurt. I think you gave her the right answer, BUT you're also right when you say she deserves to know. Just tell her it'll hurt no matter what age she's at, and that you suggest she waits a long time before she ever does it.
Your daughter is just curious & there's nothing wrong with that. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, you just have a different anatomy so these things are new. :)
is it true that if you can tie a cherry stem in your mouth your a good kisser? or is that just a myth? can you still be a good kisser if you cant tie one? how can i be able to tie them? please help thankyou!
It's a myth. I can't do it but my boyfriend still thinks I'm a good kisser, and none of my previous boyfriends have complained either.
It's not something you should worry about. You're fine whether you can do it or not. It's a cool talent, but it doesn't mean anything.