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what should i do about my "best friend"?
So I've been "best friends" with this girl for about like 3 years now. She's SUPER clingy to me. She always needs to know where I am and who I'm with if I'm not hanging out with her. If I tell her I can't hang out with her, she'll ask why, who are you with? Anyways, she and I and another girl are all BFF's. But this girl who's super clingy, let's call her Jane. She's always talking crap about the other girl,(let's call her Sara). Jane always vents to me about Sara and how much she hates her, and yet Jane is so nice, but it's all fake to Sara's face. And Sara and I are closer, so I tell Sara what Jane says about her.
As of right now, I don't want to hang out with Jane anymore. She tells me that she hates all the people in the group that we hang out with and she can't stand any of them. She's ALWAYS fake with them if she sees them, and she's always clinging onto me. I'm so sick of her crap. She brings drama to my life. And she's so dramatic, it's sick. I mean, I don't want to be mean and delete her out of my life. But what should I do?
The thing is, if I sit down and talk to her about it, she'll be like "oh i'm sorry." And then she'll talk behind my back with someone else. Which I know she does.
What should I do?
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Best friend's? No, a best friend doesn't do that! Has she been like that all the 3 years? If not, she's jealous since you've gotten closer to your other friends. You don't need to put up w anything that include's drama or someone who is fake and a hypocrit. Be upfront about it, if she talks crap? Who cares, you shouldn't care what people say about you. You have plenty of best friends, you'll live and if you do really care what she says about you just slowly grow apart from her and then after keep a distance. It might hurt, but it happen's. Then eventually you'll notice how your life would be at ease and relaxing.
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wow. i think if she creates that much drama and you dont like her for it you should slowly back away from it. Its really your choice but do you really want to waste your time on someone who just brings you down all the time? I dont think anyone deserves that.
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WOW,sounds like drama... One, do not go back and tell someone what someone else has said about them. It puts you in the middle of the bull crap. If Jane has something to say to Sarah then tell Jane to keep out of that silly mess and tell Sarah herself. Be real with Jane and let her know that you two are on different pages in life and that she is still off that talking about people stuff and that you aren't with it and want no parts of it. Also, if she talks about her, she will talk about you too but don't sweat all that.. People talked about Jesus so of course they will talk about you and me too for real.
When you sit down with her don't focus on what she has done to make you not want to be friends with her anymore. Focus on the fact that you just don't want to be friends with her based on your own observations, concerns and the person you are. You aren't 2 faced and you don't want to be cool with someone who is fake and 2 faced. Let her know that she is suffocating you and that you are done dealing with it and that you owe her no explanation of who you are kicking it with because it is none of her business and advise her to get some business instead of being in everyone else's business when talking about them. That's real, to the point and that's what up girl..
ALWAYS KEEP IT REAL.. Good Luck
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I was going to tell you to talk to her about it since you guys are best friends but since you've done that already I don't think that she can be one of ur best friends now, I think you should just be somehow far from her, like make her a normal friend, everyone needs their space and she should understand that. So I think you should get far from her somehow, have your space. She'll feel the difference and that might change her but if she didnt then she can still be in your life just not as close as before.
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It isn't mean to delete someone from your life. It's necessary every once in a while. If you're nice to everyone (even when they piss you off), you're going to be carrying around a lot of baggage. It's best just to cut people out of your life (when they truly deserve it) & move on.
Honestly, do you really need someone who's clingy, fake & dramatic in your life? I'm pretty sure you don't so just stop dealing with her. Either tell her to cut the shit or to stop hanging out with you guys. Obviously it's her decision, but she'll probably continue to be fake.
Just stop being her friend. You don't need annoying people in your life. :)
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