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Is it just me? Or is he just mean...
Well I was with this guy for a few months. We then just stopped talking in around January? And I had a feeling that he wanted to break up with me. See what I don't get it that he didn't say anything. He started avoiding me and going opposite directions I was going. If I was talking to one of his friends he would walk away quickly. Cover his face, etc. So then one day, me and my friend started talking about how he is kinda too "emotional" (This was before she knew we kinda broke up) and then we kinda were talking to him about how he should kinda tough up and stuff. But I doubt he took it seriously. So a month or two later, I apologized (Even though I did nothing and I hate holding grudges though I was never mad at him and I don't want anyone hating on me...)and he didn't even apologize... And when I apologized I meant if we could be friends. But then I didn't say anything more. After that, I figured maybe we could start talking just like regular friends. But nope, he still avoids me , etc. So then maybe a month later, I said if we could just be friends and stuff... And he was just like "sure...". BUT he still avoids me and everything. And I really dont get it. I don't want this to happen for like years. He's been doing this to me for like what. Half a year? And I'm sick of always apologizing because he doesn't even. It's like as if I was supposed to apologize to him. So any advice how this whole avoiding this could stop? Cause I never do avoid or anything like that. Much thanks !
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Honestly, I think you should stop apoligizing. Act like he is acting towards you, yeah it might be hard for you. But I can garuntee that after he sees that you are avodiding him, he will probably come and talk to you. He's trying to act like he can be without talking to you, & all of that. Well make it seem like you can be without him, and make him feel like crap. There is no reason he should be avoiding you, you did nothing wrong. So as a come back, do the exact same back. I highly suggest you don't keep trying to apolize, b/c then he's going to think that he has some control over you..
Good Luck !
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Leave him alone. He is avoiding you and ignoring you and playing you like you are simple minded. You have no reason to apologize to him. You can't apologize for his actions towards you, but do apologize to yourself for continuing to stretch your hand out as he smacks it! No, I don't think he's mean, I think he is a coward for not saying what's up and really going on. Cancel that!!
After 6 months of continuing to be childish and silly acting, I don't think you should ask him jackcrap seriously. People always encourage words, but I encourage action. His actions reflect he doesn't want to deal with you period, so accept it and decide not to deal with him either. "Now, let your actions reflect that you aren't going to kiss his butt" If you keep trying to talk to him, or pay him some attention it looks like you are sweating him and real talk- SWEAT none but yourself.. Good Luck, stay positive and away from negative energy.
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I would talk to him and see whats up. Ask him why he's been acting so weird with you for the past 6 months. If he doesn't have a response or he goes "No, I haven't," call him out on his shit. If he still can't justify his behavior, stop dealing with him. There's no reason for you to keep apologizing and trying to be his friend if he isn't even interested in doing the same. Why put in the effort if you're not going to get the same? Friendship is a 2-way street and if he isn't willing to put in the time and effort and he's going to be childish and avoid you, then obviously that's his choice & that should be it for you. Just stop wasting your time if nothing changes. Don't dwell on it either. There's not much you can do to change him from being a jerk. :(
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