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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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do you have to handwash when you wash cotton bras? or any type of bras? because i heard that if it's washed with the washing machine, it will ruin the shape and form of the cup and it will get damaged...

It's the dryer that ruins them. The heat destroys the elastic.

I'd only handwash a bra that was really insanely expensive- like a certain Victoria's Secret bra you bought because its exact shape & style mateched a dress, or something. It's honestly not worth the effort; bras wear out before you'd damage them from washing anyways.

Okay, for my birthday I got a Ouija board, but I've been hearing bad things about it after I got it. One of my friends said that the Devil tries to trick people on it. My other friend says it's to talk to spirits. I think they're kinda weird thinking that because the directions say it's like an 8 ball, it tells fortunes. It says it has nothing to do with ghost or anything. I'm kinda mad too, cuz everybody I know is saying, "The Ouija board is cursed," or "People have died from playing that game!" It's funny because I've already freaking played it two days ago. And I'm still alive, not tricked, and haven't talk to spirits. Can sombody help me with this? I need opinions on this Oujia board game. It is just a game, right? Plz answer!

Okay people are going to call me a complete freak for this, but I believe that Ouija boards work. I've used them before and I've seen them tell people things. My friend's dad died when she was in third grade, and she's talked to his spirit, and he's said things that only they two of them would know. I've felt a presence in the room using them, and I've been afraid to go in a room because if what I felt afterwards.

But you're not going to get hurt using them. If someone talks to you who you don't like, ask them to leave and "close" the board. Don't leave them open. And never burn them, ever or destroy them in any way. I've heard too many urban legends. Oh, and it might not have worked if you used it alone. Groups of people [say 3 or 4 maybe] work better cause you have more energy together.

my sister has strep and i made some popcorn in a bowl earlier & after i ate it, she said she threw up in the bowl i used the night before. my mom bleached it and cleaned it and everything, soooo should i be ok?

Yeah, you should be fine. But I wouldn't be eating popcorn for a very long time, or anything from that bowl anymore for that matter- YUCK.

If you DO get strep [or think you did] get tested, 'cause strep can cause heart problems if left untreated.

Anybody have any tips for removing acne and pimples really fast? I recently had a pretty big breakout and I can't seem to get rid of them. I've been using this Clean and Clear Continuous Cleanser for a few weeks now but it doesn't seem to be working. Any suggestions of products that really work, really well, and pretty fast? And also doesn't dry out your skin. Thanks!

btw, is it bad to remove pimples by popping them? and does it leave scars if you do?

Clean & Clear Advantage Spot Treatment works for me. So does any product with benzoyl peroxide. They CAN be drying, though. So have some moisturizer handy.

Popping CAN leave scars, yeah. But I get scars either way. Sometimes I'd rather cover a scar with makeup than have a zit the size of a peanut hanging around for three weeks, ya know? If you DO pop a zit [or five] make sure it's come to a head first, put a warm facecloth on it for a few minutes first, use clean hands, and apply salicyic acid on it as soon as you can [minimizes scarring]

Ok im babysitting 4 kids all this week and im leaving tonight at 7. Well im little scared because I watched a movie When A Stranger Calls. I know I sound retarted but are there anyway that could happen I know the odds are like 1 to 10000000000000000000 but I donno. My moms letting one friend stay with me And I want it to be Eric which is cool with everyone even tough its a guy and yeahh I like him but what are something he would do if he likes me??

Don't worry about the movie. Just take care of the kids. If you DO get threatening phone calls, call the police & keep the kids safe. But really... you'll be fine. Don't sweat it, and have fun coloring for a week!

Oh and don't get too distracted with Eric, no matter how cute he is. You're there to protect the kids, not satisfy your hormones. There's nothing wrong with making a date for NEXT week, however... :)

Have fun!

hey, well i want to get blue contacts. i dont want to have to go to the eye doctor and get all those eye tests done and stuff. i just want to wear them for style. does anyone know where i could get them? if so, how much would they be?

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You still need to get them from your eye doctor. The tests they do are ones to make sure your eyes can actually wear contacts, and you'll get them fitted to your eyes. It's a lot safer than buying them from some random site, and oyu may discover that you actually NEED a prescription. Why take chances when it comes to your eyes?

why is guitar hero 2 rated T? i heard its for satanic/wiccan references.. but where are those refrences in the game? im just wondering.

btw the game is mad awesome. :D

Probably the lyrics to the songs? I've never actually played. Maybe it's like, the culture surrounding a band featured in the game. Or the whole "playing a song backwards" thing.

y do i feel sick after every time i eat? err its soo annoying! its not that i eat too much, or too little, but idk y i do.

You're probably eating too fast. Or continutally eating something you're allergic to [could be mild lactose intolerance]. Or you could just be eating things that don't agree with you. If it keeps up, see a doctor, since we can't diagnose you with anything. Chances are it's nothing, but it'll put your mind at ease.

OH! Drink more fluids, especially water. You need more this time of year because you sweat a lot more, and you could be mildly dehydrated. That makes you nauseous. I know from experience; except I needed an IV of fluids for a few hours :D

My computer speaker is making this weird noise.
It's a mixture of clicking and static.
Anybody know what it is and how to make it stop?
It's driving me more than insane!

My grandpa's used to do the same thing. I dunno if they still do, since we packed his computer in the attic.. that was completely irrelevant.

Anyways, I fixed the problem [at least temporarily] by pushing the wires in farther because they were coming loose. Check cords everywhere- the back of the computer, back of the speakers, etc. You may just need new ones, I've never spent more than $30 on speakers and they've always been great. To maintain your sanity in the meantime, turn down the volume as much as possible, or use a pair of headphones/earbuds & the headphone port on the front of the computer if you have that option.

i have used many things on my arm pit hair, i tried used a electric shaver and it got caught in my hair and it hurt really bad, i tried waxing and the hair iam so not kidding refused to come off no matter what, and then i used hair removal cream in frustration, and under one of my arms it burns like crazy and there is still alittle bit of hair on it, and the other underarm was not affected at all theres still hair, what should i do im so frustrated

Have you tried regular shaving? Get a good razor like a Venus Divine and use a ton of shave gel, or even a thick cream conditioner. Wait a few days if you just used the remover cream, though, so your skin isn't irritated.

My hair is blonde,and down to my shoulders. It used to have a lot of volume, but now, it is flat. I straighten it a lot, but it used to have volume after it was straightened too. Do you know any products I can use?:]

A fair amount of hairspray. And try a volumizing shampoo and conditioner- they're formulated to be lighter and weigh your hair down less. Brushing your hair with your head upside-down sometimes works too. Experiment and find out what works for you =]

I would like to know if you have thawed frozen meat and foods and then refroze them are they safe to cook and eat?

Yeah, it's safe. In addition to Jack's answer [which is entirely true] this site could also be helpful. It's how hot you should cook meat so it's safe to eat. A meat thermometer is a good investment. Just don't leave a digital one on the grill in the rain like my dad did :)

[http://whatscookingamerica.net/Information/MeatTemperatureChart.htm]

ok lets say you way about 240 pounds how much weight do you think you could lose by the end of the summer if your working hard and eating healthy and on a diet and working out all teh times????

Let's see. There's about eight weeks of summer left, right? And you lose an average of 2-3 lbs a week when dieting & exercising. Plus the first couple weeks you lose a lot more. So I'd say you could easily drop 16-26 lbs. Plus, you'd build muscle & be a lot more "toned", so you'd look even slimmer. Drink plenty of water; all that exercising could leave you dehydrated if you're not careful.

Good luck! :)

16/f
I have heard that saying someones name often in conversation and smiling are great for appearing likable and friendly. What are some other tips for this? The more the better, thanks! =)

Eye contact [but not staring the person down like a sniper], shake someone's hand when you meet them [like parents of friends, older people you know, etc] and just being genuine and nice. Smile, be pleasant, and make yourself seem approachable [don't have iPod headphones in when you're meeting new people]

If you're on this site asking this question, you're probably trying to make a good impression. So long as you try, you'll be fine. Seriously, polite teenagers are so hard to come by; a simple "Hi Mrs. Grant, how are you?" can be enough to give a person a coronary.

I was just wondering about what the style today is for guys for body hair i.e. chest hair, happy trails, leg hair, facial hair and stuff like that.

Unless you look like a wolf and a girl can't see your face, don't go razor-happy and shave everything. It'll come back itchy, and other methods of removal like lasers are painful an expensive. Some girls like it, some don't. Practically every guy has leg hair, happy trails, etc. So don't worry about it. In general, I'll say that girls don't like scruffy beards or anything like that. But stubble on your upper lip is sometimes cute :)

i was reading an answer from a columnist and in there answer there like "Hey, thats exactly me, haha. Theres nothing that you can do to make your thighs smaller in a healthy way. Working out will just gain you muscle and make them even bigger. Just embrace them & love them because its what youve got and what God wanted to you have."
is that true??
- FYI: i didnt ask the question she answered though.

Yes and no. If you work out a lot, yeah you'll build muscle. But if you're dieting in an intelligent way, and exercising, you'll lose fat all over, and that'd make the size of your thighs shrink. How ELSE would people get to be a smaller pants size?

those two pictures are of me. I'd like to know which hairstyles would fit my face.. or which color of hair would look good on me. if you have any pictures as an example, please post them. =D

The style you have in the second picture is really nice. Maybe if you had some shorter pieces around your face, they'd frame your face shape more. Keep the length if you like it, though. It's nice the way it is.

You could pull off a lot of colors; if you wanted to go darker, or redder, you could do so easily.

A couple examples:
[http://toronto.fashion-monitor.com/image_SEImage.php?i=160]
[http://diksonusa.com/images/6bzd.jpg]

Ugh, it's hard to find good color examples. If you go to a salon [or even the hairdye aisle] you can look at the samples for all the colors and pick one you like. Good luck! :)

what height, weight and cup size is most attractive for someone who wants to be dating 16 or 17 year olds?

Okay, I'm not a guy, but I can tell you right now that everyone's different, and looks best a different size. As long as you're comfortable with the size you are, who cares what everyone else thinks? Unless you can't fit through the double doors or need three seats on an airplane, I'm sure you're fine already, really!

:)

So I thought this summer was gonna be really awesome and all, but I've pretty much been bored since I've been out of school. My friends never want to do anything exciting or they're not available. I'm also waiting on two jobs right now, but I'm so bored that I just really feel like getting a ton of jobs so I'm not just sitting here online all summer. And I don't have my driver's license yet, either, so yeah. Ugh. What can I do to make my summer more interesting? Sorry if I'm being really vague.

Read a book [hello, summer reading list]
Get a hobby.
Go for a walk.
Do something that SOUNDS boring with your friends, and do something totally stupid that won't get you arrested and/or killed.
Water balloon fight.
Talk with your family.
Start an Advicenators account.
Rearrange your room.
Paint your room [with proper ventilation and consent]
Play 52-pick up with yourself and a fan.
Dye or cut your hair [with permission, atleast for the dye]
Buy an old chair or stool at a yardsale and paint it.
See how many pieces of gum you can fit in your mouth at once.
Get whitestrips and whiten your teeth.
Give yourself a makeover.
Paint your toes 10 different colors.
Go shopping.
Turn everything in all the cabinets upside-down.
Clean the house [ears points with parents]
Make a new friend.
Volunteer.
Babysit [makes money]
Mow the lawn.
Wash people's cars.

Happy summer! =]

im afraid to masturbate because i dont want my cherry to pop. im going to start going to a OBGYN soon and if my cherry is popped, will she think im not a virgin? is it possible to tell if a person is a virgin or not? im 14/f by the way immediate responses appreciated.!

A lot of girls rip their hymen before they have sex. You could fall, ride a bike, ride a horse, or just have broken it from sitting down one day. Don't worry about it; she probably won't even think twice. :)

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