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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles. I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!
I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.
I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.
I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.
I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!
♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥
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Heyy.....i have this friend, lets say she trys to make people annoyed really bad. Caz for christmas i went to her house and everything and she was like oh look i got this really cute tiffany bracelet and i looked at it and you can tell that it is a fake one and you can tell from far away...i was gonna tell her but then im like wat ever screw it. Then she cames to school one day and was on a field trip..and she had a fake louis vuitton purse, it looked real but i know what makes those kinds of purses fake or not, and she was like what you think i cant afford a louis vuitton purse or something?? I was gonna tell her that her parents probably bought it in China Town in New York caz the purses there look so real and all. Shes living in a lie she belives everything her parents tell and all and im very high mantaince....not trying to be bichty and spound spoiled...but i know about these things caz i own alot of tiffany,luis vuitton, coach, donney & borke and abercrombie and hollister and shyt like that. I really pisses me off when she tells me that i dont know anything and all so what should i do???Ohh yea now she mad @ me caz she thinks that i keep talkin shyt bout her which is not true @ all. Ohh one more thing....me and her are also best friends and i want to know what i should do with this...
"confused"
If she tells you that her things are fake, she may feel as if you wont like her as much since you're so "high maintence" and all. she may feel that she has to add up to you and be just like you becuz maybe she feels that that is what everyone else expects. she is probably just trying to impress you or be on your level of "maintence". so, dont tell her that you know her things are fake because it will most likely hurt her feelings and draw her away from you, it will embarass her, and plus, does it really matter if the things are fake? think about everyone that doesnt even have enough money for a winter jacket, let alone anything close to a tiffanys bracelet. so, let her have her fun and maybe you could even make her feel better about it by telling her how much you "love" her new purse. just dont make her feel bad about it. get back to me for anything else. good luck.
-ashlea ♥
wut does it mean when a guy says im not some 13 year old who's balls havent dropped mean..?
he meant that hes not a little kid anymore and that he is more mature than you think.
Alright my friend is so happy with her boyfriend they have been together for 5 years and are getting engaged... well whenever i hang out with them i kind of get jealous and sad because the way they act.. i wanna be loved too.... and i love this one guy, not my friends boyfriend another guy. and he acts like he likes me I mean holding my hand kissing me... ect. But... it makes me want my guy even more when I am with my friend and her boyfriend... I miss him so much.. but I dont wanna make my friend mad what should I do??
aw well you should be happy for your friend!! i know that it probably hurts to see her and her boyfriend so happy together and you find yourself wishing you could be in the same situation. but you have to look at it this way. 5 years is a long time. your friend and her boyfriend have most likely been through their ups and downs to get to the point where they are today. it takes alot to form a 5 year relationship. dont worry though, you will get there someday too, just like your friend. you just have to be patient. i remember when i was 15 years old and all my friends had boyfriends and one of my friends had a boyfriend for a year, and i was envious of her because i wanted that love too. well, over that summer, i met a guy and now, we have been together for 3 years and it's crazy because i never thought i would ever find someone that i can fall in love with and have them love me back. but, it gets you when you least expect it. so, dont you worry..your day will come...but for now, just enjoy being single girl!! good luck and HAVE FUN!! take care and get back to me for anything else.
-ashlea
I went out with this guy last summer, but he lives in NJ, we still talk about when he was here and how we had so much fun together and he is comming down this summer also, and i told him that i dont think i could hang out with him but i really want to and he was like Why not? and i said because i might end up liking you again, and that he might not like me back and he was like well i wont have a g/f when i get down there and we ARE going to hang out. Does this mean that he will go back out with me again or not? does this mean any thing?
it sounds to me like this guy is thinking on a different track than you. he is looking at is like just a summer hook up thing. he looks at it like he lives so far away so theres no way you guys can really date and have a relationship, so intead of that, the two of you can just mess around every summer. that's what it sounds like is going on inside his head. but you'll never know unless you ask him. get to the end of it. you have a right to know. tell him how you're feeling and i swear it'll make things so much better. take care and good luck girl.
get back to me if you need anything else.
-ashlea ♥
I have lots of pimples and well does anyone know any good good creams or anything like that. cuz i tried some and it didnt work I thougt maybe im eating to much chocolate and im not so please help I'm really pretty but with these pimples i feel so ugly inside. HELP i rate high
you just have to experiment with different kinds of facewash...it took me about a year of experimenting with face washes to finally find one that works for ME. what works for me is Clearasil Daily Face Wash-Sensitive skin. it works miracles for me, but then again, it doesn't work for my sister. it all depends on your face and the type of skin you have. try new things out and you'll finally settle on something you like. if after experimenting with face washes, you still can't find one that is starting to clear up your face...see the doctor. they can give you certain medicine that will help clear up your face. well, good luck and i hope i helped. take care and please dont hesitate to get back to me if you need more help.
-ashlea
Hey yall, i need help with a nickname...my name is Ashley i have nicknames like Asha,Ashems,Ashlynn but i dont like them! So can u help me out with a new cool nickname?
Thanks, Ashley
my name is Ashlea. It's prenounced Ashley, but spelled Ashlea. The nicknames that have been given to me throughout the years are smashley, asherz, ashlerz, ash, smash, lee, smashlea, and soo many more but those are just a few!! feel free to use! hope this helped!! get back to me for anything else. good luck have fun take care.
-ash
okay theres this guy i like and he likes me.. this saturday night... we're supposed to do "something". i no what it is because we talked about it. Well... to get me out of the house.. he's gonna say that we're going out to eat then to the movies. I think we still might go to the movies. im not sure yet. But then all weekend we're hanging out. I just have to let him know what time i have to work.
Well this morning.. he asked me if i was seriously ready for it.. i told him i am. i just keeep getting nervous when we talk about it. Like yesterday... my older sister rode with us.. i knew he wanted to talk bout it becuase i saw the look on his face.. so i made her ride the bus today.. and we did talk bout it. Mostly the whole way to school. Should i go through with it? I mean we both want to but we're both scared too. Because he's 18 and im 15! and as u know he can get introuble for it. but i dont want him to get introuble. We both want to go through it.. i definately want to. I never did n e thing with a guy b4. i knew him for 9 years so its not like im gonna do it with a complete stranger....
please let me know....
Maybe... maybe not....
if you feel as if you're truly ready to do things...and if you're completely sure that you want him to be the one to do these things with ..then i don't see anything wrong it. i know you're worried about age, but my boyfriend is 21 and i am 17. we have been together for 3 years, since he was 18 and i just turned 15. you can't get in trouble for it unless you file sexual assault or something of that sort on him. it's not like a policeman sees you and him kissing on the street one day, and he comes over and arrests your man. it's not like that at all. someone has to complain about it and press charges and go through all that. just being in a relationship is okay as long as you don't run to the police saying he raped you or something. me and my boyfriend started out when i was 15 and he was 18, and it's lasted 3 years so far!! i would go for it if i were you but be VERY careful cuz even though you know this guy very well, this may be the thing to ruin a friendship as well as form one. so, be careful with this one. take care and good luck. get back to me for anything you need. good luck girl.
-ash
alright, my friend is gettin really paranoid. he keeps thinkin that there might be "side effects" from masturbation. he's 15 and he says he's like addicted to bangin himself. so are there any "side effects" from too much masturbation? if so, what are they?
thanks
there are absolutely NO side effects to masturbating. it is PERFECTLY healthy for you and can not harm you at all. have fun :)
ineed sum advice.........muh friend or was my best friend is all mad at me for going out with sum1 she dosent like and she thinks that if i keep goin out wit him he is going to hurt me but she dosent no him lik i no him and i love him and she wants me 2 dump him n i told her no and now she wont talk to me what should i do?
maybe she knows something that you don't. maybe she knows things about him that she doesn't want to let you know in fear of your feelings getting hurt. i think you should just talk to her and ask her to give you clear cold reasons as to why exactly she doesn't want you with him. assure her that if he hurts you ONE bit...you're done with him. let her know that you will be careful and take it slow. and as for him, be fierce with him and don't let him hurt you no matter what..be strong. take care, have fun, good luck. get back to me if you need anything else. - ash
Well to start off.. My mother left a week before Christmas and I miss her so much.. My dad is go crazy because she left all of us.. She don't call or even write to us. I need so help to know how to help my dad through all of this pain.. Thank you if you write back... I really do need as much help as I can get.... **** Thanks Heather****
this is a really tough one and even though i havent been through this exact problem, and i don't know how you feel, but i do understand your pain. now, your dad is going to keep going crazy......if you let him. you need to let him know that it's noone's fault your mom left. the fact that she hasn't had any contact with you since she left shows that shes not ready to be a mother and that it is her fault for leaving..not yours or your fathers. you need to SHARE your dads pain and not be against it. let your father know that you are sharing his pain and that the two of you are in this together...you both were hurt deeply by the absence of your mother. please stay strong and no matter what, always know that you WILL get through this..if you need ANY more help at ALL with this or ANYTHING else...please email me. i'm here and would love to help you. feel better and stay strong. keep your head up high and don't ever let it down. take care,hun.
-ashlea
so I dated a guy , ended u getting pregnant and he made me have an abortion. Since then he will not speak to because he's pissed that I wanted to kep it and it would have changed his life. Fast forward 2 yrs later. I meet a guy in the club, cool & smooth. Kinda reminds me of dude #1. Cold day in hell-turns out he's the dude #1 brother!! Now is it wrong to date dude number two?
eeekkk..this ones a toughy...i would honestly have to say that it isnt wrong to date dude # 2 ..but it isnt a good idea .. only for the simple fact that you've been pregnant and now have a history with dude #1 ..a bad one, at that. i'd just stay away from that family and find someone else that you can get to know better. if you decide to date dude #2, be careful..very careful..just take it slow and learn from the first time around. good luck and take care, girl.
get back to me if you need anything else, im here.
love,ash
this girl, we'll call her lucy, ok well, we were the best of friends for 6th and 7th grade. last year i would sometimes get mad at her, and she would cry and i just felt so bad and would miss her and i'd forgive her. but this year a new girl came and she completly ditched me for her and i didn't even do anything wrong! now she always says they are best friends. plus, i dont think this new chick even likes me! i dont know what to do- it's not fair- i've cried so much and for some reason she just doesnt even care. im just so heart broken! should i just try and forget about her... even though it's neat impossible.. or is ther a way to be friend again?
maybe "lucy" feels as if once she met this other girl, she saw how a real friendship should be and maybe she thinks that after hanging out with this other girl, that you weren't a good friend to her. i think you just need to sit her down and explain to her how you're feeling and just remember that as you get older, things change...alot of things will change...including friends. so, you also need to understand how she is hanging out with someone new, but you're right, it's not right of her to ditch you for this new girl all of a sudden. the only way to clear things up is if you talk to lucy and let her know how you're feeling.
a year ago, i broke my tailbone.. it kind of hurts for me to do certain things now.. but can any of you tell me what will happen in the future because of me breaking my tailbone? if anything is going to happen.. i hear people saying i'm gonna have constant back pain but i wanted to make sure with everything.. thx
wow.. thats really interesting that you say this because i broke my tailbone too!! i'm 17 right now, and when i was about 12 or 13, so about 5 years ago, i was riding my bike and got hit by a car and did a 360 in the air and landed right on my back .. and broke my tailbone..but im okay now..i wonder why you're still hurting after a year..mine healed up within a few months and was fine after that .. i would definately go to the doctors just to get it checked out and be sure that it healed okay and that there's nothing else wrong with it. good luck and take care. if you wanna talk, feel free to write ..bye
Is it normal to be best friends with a girl you've known for half-a year?? This girl and I met in eighth grade this year, and I've become very attached to her. We're both best friends and we tell each other everything. We're like sisters. Is that normal to be this close after a short time??
Sure, why not? You can be close with someone after knowing them for a day! There is nothing weird or wrong with being close to your gal after half a year...that's great that you've found such a good friend that you can depend on and trust. im happy for you and i wish you the best of luck.
A lot of people at school call me teachers' pet. I don't like any of my teachers, nor suck up to them. I only get good grades because I want to get into the Naval Academy. I don't show off or anything.. i think.. so what should I do to shut these bitches up? (13, F, 7th grade)
There comes a time in your life when you have to make a decision....are you going to run your life or let someone else do it for you? you have to live for yourself sometimes and getting good grades is great, so why be ashamed?? who cares what those other kids say!! keep getting good grades and don't worry about those other kids...to hell with them. Good luck with the Naval Academy. don't give up, keep up the good work!!
if you need more advice, feel free to ask.
-ashlea
my boyfriend and i are thinking about having sex. it woulsnt surprise me if we do. but i just dont know how to sahve (down there). should i shave completley.. and if so how? because ive shaved completley with a ravor but there was still hair.
hey im so sorry i haven't answered your question sooner but i've been soo busy lately. but as to your question, if you want to shave then do it. boys tend to like that better anyways. start by laying in a bathtub for about 5 mins with warm water. after that, apply shaving cream to area and then shave downward/the opposite direction of the hair growth. use soft, slow strokes and continue until hair is gone or until it is to your liking!! there should be no problems and i would also expect a few razor bumps that should go away within a few days. there is also certain kinds of lotions you can buy at the store that is especially for after shaving down there, to reduce razor bumps and redness.
well, good luck and if you need anything else, dont hesitate to ask!!
take care hun, have fun. - ash
well, good luck!!
I was having a conversation with a guy about sex between the same sex, and of course he was very excited to hear about my girlfriends and I open mind in the subject. After I told him about a personal experience, he felt free and conferrable to tell about his with another man. The feeling of disappointment and discuss was automatic, and he asked me to explain why? where is the difference? why was it okay for me, and so wrong for him? I was out of words, there where no explanations, this has never been open for discussion. At this point I think that maybe if I can't be open minded about both ways of same sex relationships then I need to rethink my ideas of two girls together.
How does everyone feel, and if the same as me, how would you explained. why do we accept to girls and not two men?
people have this thought that two girls together is sexy while two men together is discusting. truthfully, you can accept any way you want..most people accept girls more because its "cleaner". For example, two men will have anal sex and two girls can eat eachother out. there is a fine line between the two activities both sexes perform, but they are still very different. in my opinion, if accepting men together is harder than accepting two girls together, thats understandable. But don't show discust towards a friend that was with another man when you did the same thing and was with another girl before. you have to have an open mind while talking about those things and try to accept everyones opinions and values and ways of living.
well, hope i helped!! if you need more advice, feel free to ask.
take care. - ash
Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help
ok in my opinion, Brian didn't write that note. I think derek and his friends are playing a joke on Brian. You know how the shy kids always get picked on at school. Well, i think this is exactly what this situation is.
Now, if brian really did write the note, then I would give him a chance. being popular doesn't mean anything once you get out into the real world. you need to stop letting popularity come between a possible friendship. and who cares what other ppl think?? i would talk to brian and get to know him a little better.
well good luck~ hope this helped.
ok i am an awesome bball player but i get nervous when boys come and watch me play.. im afraid they will laugh if i miss a sot or somthin....what should i do...help me and FAST
you can't run your life on what others may think of you. if theres one thing i learned in life, its that no matter what, you have to stay true to yourself and just worry about what YOU have do. you may be an awesome basketball player, so keep it that way!! Don't let anyone..and i mean anyone..take that away from you and make you feel uncomfortable on the court. have fun and don't be nervous!! if you do happen to miss a shot and they laugh, then oh well. who cares? you can't worry about what others may think. you only have yourself to face in the mirror. your life is what you make of it. dont let anyone get in your head like that. good luck hunnie and have fun. if you need anything else please ask.
-ash
Hi! It's around christmas time and my best friend has been talking a lot about what she got me...EEK because I'm HORRIBLE at pressies and I have NO idea what to get her! Can somebody give me some ideas? She's 15/f btw...thanks a bunch!
ask her what she wants!! thats the easiest way to do it....or, you can just get her beauty things, such as lotions, sprays, etc. you can get her clothes, shoes, or other girly things!!
if you need more help, feel free to ask.
-ash
good luck hun!!