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this guy....
okay theres this guy i like and he likes me.. this saturday night... we're supposed to do "something". i no what it is because we talked about it. Well... to get me out of the house.. he's gonna say that we're going out to eat then to the movies. I think we still might go to the movies. im not sure yet. But then all weekend we're hanging out. I just have to let him know what time i have to work.
Well this morning.. he asked me if i was seriously ready for it.. i told him i am. i just keeep getting nervous when we talk about it. Like yesterday... my older sister rode with us.. i knew he wanted to talk bout it becuase i saw the look on his face.. so i made her ride the bus today.. and we did talk bout it. Mostly the whole way to school. Should i go through with it? I mean we both want to but we're both scared too. Because he's 18 and im 15! and as u know he can get introuble for it. but i dont want him to get introuble. We both want to go through it.. i definately want to. I never did n e thing with a guy b4. i knew him for 9 years so its not like im gonna do it with a complete stranger....
please let me know....
Maybe... maybe not....
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well..... its your choice like he cant get in trouble unless you say something or if you get pregnate but if your sher fallow your hart and do what you think is wright
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Hey if you think you are ready go for it. Just dont go around telling everyone what happened. Just remember that it is always ok to say no if you decide you don't want to.
*Kate*
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Well you have told us what you guys wanna go through with but i can pretty much guess its sex.. well age is jus a number kinda stupid to say but if you guys have sex keep it between ya'll so he wont get in trouble for having sex with a minor.. that would be the best thing to do.. um if you think your for sure ready to do this then do it.. and its good your not doin it wit somebody you dont know..Hope i helped a little please rate..~*DEZ*~
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Are you trying to tell us that the two of you are thinking about having sex this weekend, but your nervous? It's normal to be nervous before trying anything new.
If so, here's a checklist.
1. can you discuss sex with him - directly, using the words "sex", "pregnancy", and "disease"? You seemed to have issues using the word "sex" here.
2. what method of birth control are you using? do you both know how to use it? what it's failure rate is? If you get pregnant, what will you do?
3. will this be a regular activity, or is this a one shot deal?
4. how much lying will this involve? are you comfortable with lying? will you have to lie to your parents? your friends? his parents and friends? who can you you talk to it about? You both really need to have at least one other person you can talk to about the situation (in addition to being able to talk to one another).
5. Are both of you virgins? If not, has he been tested for STDs?
6. Will you be able to get the proper medical care? After you have sex, you need to start getting annual "well woman" exams, especially a pap smear.
Given the tone of your post, I'm going to suggest that you not have sex with him this weekend. Go ahead and go out with him, even make out with him. If the two of you have already been touching each other inside and outside of your clothing and you feel an intense need to do "more" with each other, try using your hands to get each other off. Have plenty of tissue up to clean up with. If you've already done that and still want to do more, try oral sex. Flavored condoms are not that hard to find, or that expensive. He can cut one up the length to make a dental dam for performing oral sex on you.
Please note that depending on the laws, he can still get in trouble for doing these things. I don't know what state your in, what the age of consent is there, or what the details of the law are. Some states have a "min age gap". [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) has the min ages for many countries and all the US states.
Don't rush these things, don't let anyone else rush you. Make sure that he knows that it's ok for you changing your mind at the last min, even if you've agreed already to do a certain thing. You'll be a little nervous your first time, but it should "feel right" enough where you don't get to the point of asking a forum on the internet if it's "ok".
If in doubt, wait.
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if you feel as if you're truly ready to do things...and if you're completely sure that you want him to be the one to do these things with ..then i don't see anything wrong it. i know you're worried about age, but my boyfriend is 21 and i am 17. we have been together for 3 years, since he was 18 and i just turned 15. you can't get in trouble for it unless you file sexual assault or something of that sort on him. it's not like a policeman sees you and him kissing on the street one day, and he comes over and arrests your man. it's not like that at all. someone has to complain about it and press charges and go through all that. just being in a relationship is okay as long as you don't run to the police saying he raped you or something. me and my boyfriend started out when i was 15 and he was 18, and it's lasted 3 years so far!! i would go for it if i were you but be VERY careful cuz even though you know this guy very well, this may be the thing to ruin a friendship as well as form one. so, be careful with this one. take care and good luck. get back to me for anything you need. good luck girl.
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well all you have to do is keep it on the down low. just be careful what you do really just watch who you tell his age and dont let anyone know his last name. You both will be ok make sure that you tell him to watch who he tells about you and your age and tell him not to let any one know your last name.
Christine15
Good luck
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