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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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okay so i have this friend, and weve been friends forever since 3rd grade and now were 14 & last year he cameover to just hang out and stuff and we ended up alone making out on my couch and i gave him a hand job then we were at our friends house and i was spending the night and so was he and he fingered me is this slutty cause i dont even really like him like that

I would say you have 'loose morals' if you can give and recive sexual favors with someone you share no intimate feelings with.

You should respect yourself more.

If you contiue to do this with all the guys you hang out with, then you shouldn't be suprized to hear the word slut.

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What do I do the man I love hates me , but I still love him?

Seeing that this question is in the pet section, he must be a dog.

Seriously, ask yourself what you love about him. What is attractive about a man that 'hates' you? You can deffinetly find a better man.

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k i have a cd burner program on my computer. it copies the cd onto the computer so then you can burn it onto a blank disc. but how do you burn dvds? my wmp won't let me and the program i have won't let me either [sonic recordnow!]. anyway. do you know any free dvd burning programs or anything like that? please. this is very important. i'm really generous and desperate so you'll get a five for trying [unless you're dumb]!! haha thanks so much i love you all!

A CD burner is complete diffenet from a DVD burner. You need to have a DVD burner (not just a drive or program) to burn DVDs. When you buy a DVD burner, you will most likely get the software you need to use it. As well you need DVD-Rs to burn on, not CDs. They'll cost you about $1-$2 a piece on sale.

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how much are like.. american eagle shirts?

Is it that hard!
http://www.ae.com/

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ok well my friend said that i should wear a bra when i go to bed to prevent me from getting saggy boobs when im older is that the right thing to do?

Wearing a bra at night will not prevent your boobs from sagging. Be comfortable at night and free yourself of your bra!

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My older sister is 17 (Im about to turn 14 in a few days) and today I was hanging out with her in her room while she was looking through her drawers for a pair of shorts. I saw something that looked like a condom wrapper but she covered it up so quickly, i thought i must have seen it wrong because my sister told me shes a virgin. Well, when she left the house, I snooped & turns out .. it was condoms, a few of them. And about 3 were un opened. Im MAD. She lied to me. And shes told me repeatedly how she wants to save herself until marriage. I dont know what to do, do i tell anyone? Im afraid she'll get an STD, or pregnant. But I cant talk to HER. Or she'll freak out at me and deny it - i know.

Just because she has a couple condoms in her drawer doesn't mean she has had sex. She may just have them around because she is curious. Besides no one keeps used condoms around, they would be disgusting. I think you should just pretend you didn't see anything.

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does anyone know how much money you get paid an hour for working at a job like af & hollister?

Minimum wage $5.50-$7. And you have to wear their clothes while working, so you must assume that most of the money you make goes back to the store.

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hey, im 4'11 and im 104 pounds. i think im fat, but all my friends say im really skinny. ive got some blubber on my stomach and my thight are huge. can sombody tell what might help with my stomach and my thighs, or is that a good weight for someone my height. thanks sooo much. i rate too

You are not fat. You just need to excercise and tone your body. Turn the "blubber" you have into muscle. Take advantage of your school gym and start weight lifting. Go on bike rides and do stair excercises for your thighs. Sit-ups for your stomach. Look online for excercises for specific parts of your body you want to tone.

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I have a phobia that I want to get over but dont know how, please help.

The best way to overcome a phobia is to face it head on. If you are scared of spiders for example, you are suppose to expose yourself to them, hold them and see how there really isn't anything to be scared of.

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hey!! im not fat but ive got a little blubber on my tummy..well its not flat..and i want to loose it in three weeks before school any ideas how..quick and easy..if i run everyday will it help?

Yes, running will help, but there is no such thing as losing weight quick and easy. It takes work and disiapline. Eat right, watch your calorie intake, and EXCERCISE! As well as running, sit-ups would be a great excercise for you to tighten up your tummy.

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i dont know if this in the right catagory but oh-well

I shave every other shower and after i shave my legs are really itchy. is that normal?

thanks

Yes. Pulling a razor across your legs 3-4 times a week is bound to make them irritated. Are you using a good shaving cream and sharp razor? Do you moisturize your legs every day? These things can make a big difference. Also when you put on lotion, make sure your legs are completely dry. Moisturizing wet legs will trap water inside your pores and actually dry out your skin - making them itchy. Otherwise if you still can't take the itching, shave less often. I only shave twice a week.

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ever since I have had a bladder infection and they gave me a pll for it at the end of my period I get a yeats infection. I have went to the doctor and everything but still it comes back does anyone have any idea what to do or if something is wrong with me? I will rate high

Antibiotics can sometimes lead to yeast infections. The pill they gave you for the bladder infection is most likely the culprit of your yeast infection. Next time you are at the doctor explaine what happens. They may be able to give you a second perscription to prevent the yeast infections. This happens to my mother often.

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i think i just made one of the biggest mistakes of my life. me and my best guy friend have always had a friends-with-benifits relationship. he was fingering me today and ended up sticking his penis in me. we were going for a little, but we had to stop because he had to leave. he didn't get to cum and we did full out have sex. but knowing that his penis was in me... is that enough to count for losing my virginity?

Do you think lesbians are virgins because they haven't had sex with a guy? No.

You had sex. You are no longer a virgin.

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Money problems with the man that I love. He has steep child support that is deducted from his checks weekly. He works as a checker 40 hrs a week. I am supporting him and myself and my three boys. If he gets any money from his checks it is usually between 20 and 80 dollars depending on union dues and such. with what money he gets from his check, he fills up his truck with gas and gives me what is left. I make about 1200 a month, and we live in a small two bedroom duplex. My question is should I tuff it out, and stay with him? I know we will never live in a nice big house, drive nice vehicles, and have stuff. We will always have to scrimp and save. He treats me with respect, and loves me. Or should I move on and hope to find another man that will treat me as good that makes more money?

It sounds like you would rather have a man to take care of you than a man to love. If you truely did love this man, then the thought of leaving him to find someone wealthier wouldn't even occur to you.

And how likely do you think your odds are of finding a good and wealthy man willing to take on you and your boys?

Instead of worring about money, worry about the man and his character. Is he someone you want to spend your life with? If not, then leave him. Don't make it about money.

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what are some tips to prevent odor during my period?

Changing your pads/tampons often is the best way. Also keep the area as clean and dry as possible. Someone suggested scented pads, however be carful - if you have sensitive skin, they can become irritating.

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Why do atheists believe there is no God? I hear a lot of arguments against organized religion but I don’t hear many actual ‘reasons’ that there is not or cannot possibly be a God? So what are thier reasons?

My husband is an athiest. He is very a literal and scientific thinker. He need's actual proof there is a God. He belives people belive in God just becasue they are told to. It all depends on location. If your parents are catholic, then you most likely would be catholic, but if your parents were jewish, then you would most likely be jewish. And if you were born a Native American, then you probably wouldn't beleive in God at all. What makes one religion more right than another? If you beleive in the wrong religion does that mean you go to hell? Who's God is the right God? And if there really is a God, why does he make himself such a mystery?

He thinks religion gives people a sense of hope, but he personal sees no practical reasons to believe. I am sure he has many other reasons, but he's not here to speak for himself.

He has asked me the same exact question - why do you believe in God? What are your reasons? Try it, it's not that easy.

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Other than Jansport, what are some good brands of backpacks? I'm going to have a lot of big books and binders this year and I need a bookbag that will last me all year without tearing or the zippers breaking. Thanks.

When I was in highschool it was cool to have a North Face backpack. They are made for athletic and outdoors people so they are VERY durable. Each style comes in 5 or more colors too. I bought mine 8 years ago and still use it. It's worth the money.

http://www.thenorthface.com/na/gear-shop-category-5.html

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can anyone tell me how to give yourself an abortion?

It's not something you can just do yourself. Go to a professinal and get it done correctly. When people go to non-doctors hoping to have it done cheaply they usually end up with major complications or die.

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okay, so me and my ex split a couple of days ago. it was over MSN - which was a shame but there was legit reasons for it - anyway. I ended it with him, he just tried to wind me up in the process - and said he didn't give a fuck ect. I got fed up said bye and signed off. Pissed off and I wanted to try and as least be civil. I had reasons for dumping him - he was a slob didn't brush his teeth - ew. never bothered to call me all that. Anyway tonight I've got a planned party. Him, and two of his mates were invited, I never technically uninvited them but presumed they were all crossed off the list after that. I found out a few hours ago they were all still intending to come! Well - my ex hasn't even BOTHERED to contact me since we split and he acted like a jerk - apparently he intended to come sort it all out tonight - at my party!! Well I'm deff NOT getting with him again - and I'm even too mad at him for not bothering to contact me - and allt he reasons we split for bothered to even be his friend right now... well... I cancelled all their invites - but do you think I should tell them it's okay to come or did I do the right thing? They were all upset and wanted to come...
Anyway answers tonight please! Thanks so much =)
xxx

You did the right thing. There is no reason for your very recent ex boyfriend to attend a party at your own home. Especially if you ended the relationship on bad terms. Don't let them guilt you into letting them come. If they still do show up, remind your ex that it is over and kindly ask them to leave.

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is it safe to get a bath during a lighting storm?
i need to know now

You'll be fine. You have a better chance of drowning in the tub then lightning striking your house.

There are lots of 'rules' about thunderstorms, like turn off appliances and stay away from windows. And what do we do? We whatch the TV for weather updates, and stand by the windows watching the storm. Serioulsly, I wouldn't worry about it.

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