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Hey I'm Francesca!
I know I havent been through everything, but I have had my share, and I would be glad to help you!
Ever broken any bones? How about rules?

What are the 3 things about you that you wouldn't want me to know?
1) I fall in love too fast 2) I HATE my body 3) I hide everything I feel
What is your favorite food color?
Purple
Do you sleep thru thunders and storms?
No, i'm a very light sleeper.
Are you a dog or a cat person, or rather prefer a comodo dragon?
i love cats, but I have a dog cause i'm allergic to cats.
What is the single feature people compliment about you the most?
My legs
Are you ALSO scared of spiders?
I don't like them.
What is your biggest fear, except for spiders?
Death, afterlife.
Name your most favorite part of day?
Daytime
Ever had an imaginary friend as a child?
Yes, her name was Masa
Ever been in an accident?
I have been in a car accident.
Have you ever stolen anything from a store or from someone?
I stole lotion from my grandma...
What are your turn on's and turn offs?
on's: attractive, loves God
off's: rude, having a "big head"
Are you a morning person?
I'm a morning and a night person.
What are your most favorite and least favorite foods?
Most: sushi
Least: black olives
Name the one piece of clothing you can't live without.
A bra
Do you have tattoos or piercings? If yes, how many and where are they?
I have a tattoo down my spine that says 'you are the light of the world'
My ears are pierced twice and my cartilage is pierced and my belly button is pierced.
What is/was your least favorite subject in school?
Math
Do you take showers in the morning or at night more?
After I exercise
What are the most important 3 things in your life?
1) God 2) my family 3) my friends

advice

ok..so if you straighten your hair like evreyday..or almost everyday..will your hair be like gross and damaged? and if it does happen how long does it take? because i straightened my hair for a whole semester like everday! and this week i straightened it everyday! so what happens?

nothing really horrible wil happen to your hair if you straighten it alot. It just kinda depends on wat kind of straightener you have. if you have like a chi then it's not bad, but if you have a cheep straightener it causes more damage. Also, never straighten your hair when it's wet! that burns it and it's horrible for your hair. All it does to your hair when you straighten it to much is sometimes burns it and that's basically it. Just use good repairing shampoo and it's fine! i hope i helped! best of luck!

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About 5 years ago my brother Barry brought home a kid named Cory. Barry brought him home so he could work on the ranch with my family. He was just staying for 2 weeks but then ended up staying for 5 years. In this time my cousin (Bailey) who was 14 and Cory 24 started dating. They kept it secret, but it went on all the time. All this time Cory had become my brother. My brother Barry died 2 years ago from a drunk driver. He was 24. Bailee was 16 and Cory was 26 My whole family and Cory watched him die. Before we were told that Barry would not make it, Cory and Bailey were hugging and I saw them. She was crying and Cory was crying too. I gave Cory a hug and my cousin and I kept telling him he had to stay. We both knew my brother wasn't going to make it. Cory promised me so many times that he would not leave me or the family. Well I was 13 at the time. So about three days later they turned off life support and my mother, 2 other brothers, and my dad watched him die. Now Bailey is 18 and Cory is 28. They finally told everyone about the dating situation. Well Bailey is going off to college and Cory is going back to college with her. I'm so jealous. I'm 15 now. He is like my brother and I hate that Bailey is taking away all I have left of Barry. Barry and Cory were really good friends and they were so much alike and Cory promised Barry on his death bed that he would take care of me and HE'S LEAVING!!!! He should stay with me. I love him sooo much(as a bro). I want him to stay i'm so jealous. And I think she is a stupid bitch for taking him from me. I don't know what to do. It's killing me. I'm so upset. Please any advice will help.

Wow i am really really sorry about your brother. I think that you shouldn't make Cory stay with you, even though it is for a good reason. I'm sure he isn't going to just leave you for dead there all alone. You should talk to him and let him go away to college, because it is selfish of you to not. So anyway, you should sit down with him and tell him how you feel and you guys could maybe like make a deal that he can go to college, if he promises to call you like every other day, and you guys can talk, so it will be like he is there, even though he isn't. He could come back and visit every holiday and try to visit on some weekends if you are really missing him. i hope i helped and i hope it all works out!

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Okay so, This may be a bit confusing but bare with me. And I also apologize for any graphic descriptions. This is very hard for me. I am having trouble deciding wether or not I had a horrific dream or if something really happened. You see, I think my father molested me when I was about 6. But I am unsure as to wether or not I dreamed it. I recall him coming into my room several times when I was masturbating (humping a pillow)and I can remember him rubbing his penis on my vagina. I don't remember him ever actually sticking it in. The thought of it makes me sick. But I can also vividly remember him wiping my vagina with a washcloth when he was done, then telling me not to tell mom and then he left. I can remember the way it felt and everything. It disgusts me. I can also recall another time after that when I told my mother as my dad walked through the door but I dont remember anything that happened after. Its disturbing to think about but I have no proof that it really happened. Thats part of the reason I think its a dream. I also have had a dream or 2 before when I woke up and thought it really happened. I just need to know if it really happened. I cant even look at my dad the same way because of this and I dont dare ask anyone. What is your opinion? Did I dream it or was it real?

If it helps your decision any, I once found a porn video on his computer that was titled something to the effect of "Dad f**ks blonde teen daughter". I watched it and it didnt look that way and I know sometimes things can have a different title than what it really is. I mean it was an older man that had sex with a blonde girl and she called him daddy. But... :// I dont know!
:( Any answer is appreciated. Just elaborate your thoughts on it please. Thank you.

That is so fucked up. You should ask your mom if she remembers you telling her about that, because if she does then maybe it wasn't a dream. Seeing the porn video on his computer also makes it seem like he is a pervert so it kinda seems to me that it wasn't a dream, and that it was real. If you can actually remember what it feels like then that also makes it more real. I hope i'm wrong but to me it seems totally real and you need to ask your mom and dad or at least someone about this. You might not want to go straight to your dad because if it was real he would deny it. i really hope i helped! best of luck!

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I just got retainers (the ones that form to the roof of your mouth with a metal bar in front) to keep my teeth in place after my braces have come off. I was just wondering...can I make out with them in? Or will they fall out/get in the way?

i have a retainer just like that and it wont fall out, they stick pretty well in your mouth. but you might want to take it out anyway cause you could like scratch your tounge or your lip could get caught in it or something. so if i were you i would take it out! hope i helped!

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ok well i have not had a boyfriend in a little over one year. it is most likely because i am not that attractive. so i am going to start a new me. anyone especially boys tell me what boys like to see in girls and maybe what style and makeup and stuff to look like. please write back asap. i want to do this before school starts again!! thanks!

okay so i get why you want to change and all. you should change for yourself, not for anyone else. And, i no this is like immposibly hard to imagine, but, last yeari had this HUGE crush on this amazingly gorgeous guy and finally he asked me out! it was a dream come true! i couldn't stop smiling for like a week! but as the days went on, it wasn't all that great. yes, having a boy friend is fun because you have someone to call your own and to kiss and stuff like that, but it's really not all that good. It distracts you and takes up to much of your life! i eventually broke up with him like less then a month later. I no your thinking that it will be different, but trust me, unless you have true love, it's not that good

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my parents are so freakin nosy! i always catch them spying or creepin at me and try to catch me doing something. they read my journal and today i was watching tv and i saw my dad peaking around a corner to try and see what i was watching. also every night when im on the computer they always peak there head in and watch me sometimes but i pretend like i dont notice. it really pisses me off! i dont get it..ima good kid!how can i get them to stop doing this and telling them to stop is not an option

instead of acting like you don't notice them, notice them! when you see them creeping in don't turn your head or make any sudden movements and just say 'what's up?'. act like you don't no why they are looking at you and act normal but make sure they no you notice them! i hope i helped!

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hi...if u got muscle on ur arms and shoulders an chest an have no abs couse the fat is hiding it if i run to lose the fat will my arms be the same size couse thatz what i want or will i go skinny on the arms from running thanks...

if u run your arms will not shrink in size. you should just do your normal execises and add running to it and your abs will get bigger and your arms will be fine! hope i helped!

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well there this boy that i like and i think he likes me too cause he likes hanging around with me and today i was playing around with my friends and he kept on looking at me and he gets me stuff so does it mean he does?

this boy definatley doesn't just picture you as friends. if he gives you stuff that is a way that guys flirt. also if he stands around you that is a sign. before i was going out with my boyfriend now that was what he did. he would try to hang around me and every time i would look at him he would be staring at me. as far as i can tell this boy is crushing on you majorly! i hope i helped!

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Background Info: 14/female

Last Friday i threw up, probably because of anxiety. On Saturday, i had a really big panic atttack. It lasted over an hour, I couldn't really be calmed down. On sunday morning as soon as i woke up, I felt shaky, and i had another panic attack, I felt like I couldn't breathe. I ended up having to take some kind of pill that would relieve my anxiety immediately.

After that, i got extremely tired and light headed. After sleeping for a little bit, i felt a little better. But when i went to sleep last night, i woke up at around two in the morning feeling like i couldn't sit still. I ended up sleeping in my Dad's room.

While I was at school today, i felt fine, maybe because i had something to distract myself. But now, I still feel dizzy. I have had NO appetite, whatsoever, and whenever i stand up, my teeth start to chatter, and I'm SO tired.

I don't know what to do with myself anymore. I just want to feel normal. Not dizzy, not tired, just normal.

What can i do to feel better? Any ideas as to exactly what's wrong?

I'm already taking anxiety medicine, though it's apparently not doing the trick...

it seems like you are way overly stressed about something. you probably need to go to a doctor because something is definatley wrong, your body shouldn't be freaking out this much. go to a doctor asap and get yourself checked out! i hope you feel better!

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I'm 14/f. Okkk, I am in love with this boy. He's nice, he's cute, and he's smart. This is hard to say but, he likes another girl but he likes me at the sametime. It's confusing! So I sent him an e-mail telling him how I feel. He hasn't responded and I know that he got it. It's been 5 days and I've been waiting for an answer. I don't exactly know what to do next. I don't know if I should instant message him and tell him to reply, even though I wrote in the e-mail a million times to respond. I have no idea what to do! Im in love with him, please help me!!!

if he likes another girl and he likes you he probably doesn't no which girl to choose, if you no what i mean. he can't go out with both of you at the same time, so he has to choose which one of you he likes better. the other girl he likes might have also told him her feelings toward him too, but if not, then it's better for you cause there is a better chance he will pick you since he knows your feelings. if i were you i would just calm down and STOP BUGGING HIM about it because he is under alot of pressure right now. just lay back and relax and just wait for a reply, it will come soon enough. i hope i helped!

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ADDENDUM: About five minutes ago I asked my mom where are the summer pants (ones I didnt try on and showed her) that looks like Emmett Kelly pants (clown huge pants). She said; I hung them up in the den closet; I told her that the pants are like Emmett Kelly and she said; I know you told me that a lot please stop obsessing;. Her phone rang, she answered it and then came back to me and I said to her; I am only saying this because of the comment you made a couple of weeks ago; She said; that is your problem; I then said to her; well I like loose pants; And my mom said; Ok you like lose pants; SO MY QUESTION: Can I finally stop obsessing and accept the fact that she acknowledges I like loose pants? THIS WAS THE OLD QUESTION I ASKED BEFORE THE ADDENDUM:What I am afraid of is that because of the story below that every time I wear a pair of pants she is thinking that I lost weight and the pants that I am wearing are big,today I tried on 2 pairs of summer pants asked her what she thought as I tried each one on and she said the pants look fine. Am I overreacting and projecting what I think she will say.I am thin and A FEW DAYS AGO when I came home from work I changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants I wore to work. She asked me as I sat down to eat if I lost weight, and I said no, but this upset me. I said to her that she always tells me I look beautiful. She said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told me that I am skinny enough. However, I feel as if she is telling me to gain weight and I look ugly - is this in my mind and am I overreacting. HELP" WHEN I ASKED MY FRIENDS THEY SAID THAT IF MY MOM WANTED ME TO GAIN WEIGHT SHE WOULD KEEP PESTERING ME TO EAT OR SAY YOU ARE NOT EATING ENOUGH AND SHE NEVER DOES THAT TO ME - SHE ALWAYS ASKS ME IS THAT THE RIGHT AMOUNT









she probably thinks that you are anorexic because your pants are too big. don't make a big deal about it and whenever you eat just eat in front of her, problem solved.
i hope i helped!

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is the straightener "HerStyler" good? and if you think so.. which one should i buy?

i've tried that straightener and it's not very good. if you want a really good one, get a chi. they cost alot but they are the best and they never brake. trust me, i've tried them all.
hope i helped!~

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14/f

after school, i'm doing a sport and well around now is when i'm supposed to get my next period. So I already know that I can't wear tampons when you do not have your period. Well for now until my period starts I am wearing Maxi Pads and well they have the slips that you tuck under your underwear so they stay in place...

My question is when I change in the locker rooms (i can't in the bathroom) there's gonna be almost 50 other girls there... and well I really do not want them to see me with a pad, so my question is what if I wear some kind of workout tights/shorts underneath my jeans at school, and then after school when we change nobody can see my underwear, and so i would just change into shorts.

does that seem weird? would people laugh??

if this sounds like a bad idea- how do i make my pad seem less visible in front of people when I change?

I CAN'T wear a tampon yet because i havn't gotten my period yet, it's gonna be starting pretty soon, so i just wanna be prepared.

PLEASE answer quickly. thank you!

you can wear shorts under your jeans, that's not weird. and if people ask you why just be like 'oh my gosh! i am? i must have forgotten to change out of them this morning! that's funny!' and just act casual. or instead you could wear a really long shirt and take off your pants and then make sure your shirt is pulled down then quickly put your new shorts on.
i hope i helped!~

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The lyrics to How To Save a Life are this:
Step one you say we need to talk
He walks you say sit down it's just a talk
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
And you begin to wonder why you came

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

Let him know that you know best
Cause after all you do know best
Try to slip past his defense
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
And pray to God he hears you
And pray to God he hears you

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
Lyrics
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

As he begins to raise his voice
You lower yours and grant him one last choice
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

Those are the lyrics to the song. What is the song trying to say? Why does he want to know how to save a life? Thanks in advance.

i think it means that a boy and girl were going out but they kept on fighting and the guy still liked the girl but the girl lost interest. they used to be a great couple but the magic was lost.
the person who is singing is probably just a friend of the couple and he could have helped them stay together but he just stayed away so the life he was tryiong to save was there relationship.
i hope i helped!

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18/M
There's this girl I like. She's pretty and nice and everyone seems to like her. That's the problem. Almost every guy I know likes her and most of them are my friends. She flirts with a lot of guys and probably likes a couple of them. I need to know what do I do to make her like me best. Don't think because I am asking this question I probably can't stack up but I know I can. Just need some advice for how to use it. It's what I guess you would call raw talent. Anyway I'll take whatever advice you can give.

try to be around her any time you can, but don't act like a stalker. talk to her about things she likes and act interested. if she says something funny playfully hit her on the arm and laugh. you can ask her to go like to the movies or something with her and see where that takes you. i hope i helped!

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Hi, my name is Katie and i'm just wondering how to get a guy....b/c all my friends like TIffany Case...like imbrass themselfves trying to get a guy....here is mine and Tiffanys Email address email us sumtime...case2012@hotmail.com

well, it kinda depends on the guy, but i'll give it a shot.
everytime you see them in the hallways or wherever you give them a big smile and say hi or wave. never ignore them cause your imbarrassed. look at them alot and they will no that you are interseted. most likely they will start to look at you back. become friends with them (if you already are then stay friends with them)and don't argue about stuff. talk to them as much as possible without being annoying and when you talk to them touch them alot. like try to hold their hand or push them when they say something funny. when you are saying bye give them a friendly hug. that will hopefully get them to notice you alot moreand if you keep it up well getting even more intimate towards them im sure you could ask him out or he will ask you out. i hope i helped! if you want any more questions answered or anything email me at annadobbs@yahoo.com!

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does guilt have anything to do with why girls might not eat what they would like to? i'm a guy and don't get this idea of cutting calories like crazy. i'm curious to know if things have always been this way or if it is just a craze. it bothers me to hear some of my friends that are girls talk about ways to burn calories and other stuff. i don't have a problem with that at all, but lately its all i hear my friends and even my family talk about. what is the big deal and what do i say to my friends if they bring it up with me?

thye are just all trying to be skinnier and lose weight. now days everyone is trying to be as skinny as they can be because they think its pretty. if you dont like them talking about cutting calories and stuff then just tell them that you dont really like talking about it or just all of a sudden change subjects. hope i helped!

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i dont know how to get this boy i really like, i have been checking him out for a good min, i heard he liked me once but i didnt at the time and now i do.. but the thing is theres like no way for me to ask him out i have "NEVER" asked a boy out befor. and i dont want him to say no and hurt me; and idk what to do about it. and im like suppppppppeerrrr crazyy over him

so if you have annyy good advice please let me know.

Well you could always just go up to him and be like, hey um.. do ya want to go see a movie with me and a couple of friend?? Then you would get your friends to ditch ya, and watch the movie with him alone.. hope that made sence......
hopefully things work out!

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what does the phrase "like a fish out of water" mean

Well i think that it means that something isn't in the place it should be.. like fish live in water, so when it isn't in the water, well it would probably die, because it needs water! lol so im pretty sure it means that something isnt in its place!!
hope this helped~

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I went on a few sites that i shouldn't have... how do i COMPLETELY delete them from my computer?

type in ctrl H... it will take you too your history files of websights that u have visited... then delete it from there!!
hope i helped!!~

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