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does guilt have anything to do with why girls might not eat what they would like to? i'm a guy and don't get this idea of cutting calories like crazy. i'm curious to know if things have always been this way or if it is just a craze. it bothers me to hear some of my friends that are girls talk about ways to burn calories and other stuff. i don't have a problem with that at all, but lately its all i hear my friends and even my family talk about. what is the big deal and what do i say to my friends if they bring it up with me?
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You see, there's this big wave sweeping the earth called the "Health Craze." Everyone wants to be in shape. Everyone wants to eat the right foods. Everyone just wants to be healthy, which really is a good thing. Everyone has their own eating habits and whether or not you decide to have a reduced calorie intake is up to you.
A big reason girls eat healthy is because they want to be skinny to impress guys. It's a sad reason, but it's motivating.
If someone brings it up with you, just be honest about it. You don't think it's that big of a deal and you're happy with the way your eating habits are.
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Here's the thing--I'm recovering from an eating disorder. It's hard for me to say it because it feels foreign, but it's the truth anyway. So I get the mindset.
For me, and I'm not everyone, it was about control. I have a history of binging and ended up quite obese because of it. I was sick of feeling out of control and it felt like the only way I could get those cravings back under my control was to simply stop making decisions--I decided I would eat only what I absolutely had to, and nothing more. It worked, but it also made me lose hair, and probably screw up my body in other ways (I'm still too chicken to actually get tested for bone mass, etc.).
I'm an extreme case. A lot of girls simply want to fit into a size six because they think it's attractive. Counting calories helps them lose the weight, or maintain. That's okay to a certain degree, but when it becomes an obsession, there's a problem.
There isn't that much you really can say. If someone obsesses a lot and you rarely see them eating, you might try telling them you're a bit worried. If they do have a genuine problem, it might be a wake-up call.
If I can help you with any other questions, this is, unfortunately, one area with which I have experience.
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Girls have a lot of pressure on them to be thin. It's what is considered attractive- singers, models, actresses. A lot of girls feel that if they are not very thin, then they are ugly. I have felt the pressure myself, but I'm anything but what you're describing lol. I can see why girls worry about it so much. In their minds, they think that ultra thin is the only way to be attractive. If they bring it up to you, tell them that they look good like they are and they shouldn't worry about it. It may not change their minds totally, but it will be nice for them to hear and make them feel a little better about themselves.
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Well I think a lot has to do with the image that girls try to live up to. Generally supermodels and other ultra thin role models give girls an unrealistic target (not to mention a not too attractive target imo anyway).
Whether this was always the same or not, Im not sure, but I dont think it was. I do not recall this from my childhood back in the 80s. I have no memory of girls trying to be ultra thin, counting calories etc. Of course I am just one person, so I cant say for sure that is how it was.
There is nothing wrong with trying to live a healthier life. So sometimes it is warrented to talk of reducing calories. Even counting them can be ok in certain instances. Of course, I agree with you that the obsession today is generally unhealthy. People want to hit magic target numbers instead of aiming for a better healthier life (just look at the questions on this site that start with.... "I weigh 110 lbs and I have to lose 20 lbs by next month).
The only thing you can do is to encourage people to take it easy. Try to make them see that they have a problem with their self image. Also try and get the point across that a steady gradual change towards wholesome foods is far more beneficial that crash diets, calorie counting, or any other fad.
You will probably fail lol, but its all you can do.
Good luck.
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thye are just all trying to be skinnier and lose weight. now days everyone is trying to be as skinny as they can be because they think its pretty. if you dont like them talking about cutting calories and stuff then just tell them that you dont really like talking about it or just all of a sudden change subjects. hope i helped!
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