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i have a cutting problem and i want to stop and i am trying rilly hard but my boy frind dosnt see that and he just ses im lieing and im not trying hard enof and other stuff like that and it rilly fucks with my head so i cut more...... i luv him but i think if this keeps goning on i cant say with him ......and i luv him so i rilly dont want to leave him ............what should i do?????????

Take a break... you need some time to yourself to get your life back together... once you calm down a bit you can start to see him again. and please get some professional help

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is there any way to make my hair grown longer faster?

All of the responses you've received are all myths. Yes trimming your hair on a monthly basis will provide the image that it is longer because it is even and healthy, it cuts off you split ends which prevents breakage creating an effect which makes it look like your hair is longer when it is actually just thicker. It's the same thing when you keep it in a ponytail, it prevents breakage making it look like you hair is longer when it is actually thicker. Vitamin E promotes healthy hair growth, nothing can make your hair grow faster.

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My boyfriend wants me to go to this sports award dinner with him .. its at a place called "Villa Lombardi's" only problem .. I have no idea what to wear .. do i wear Grey Dress pants, Black button down and black heels .. or do I wear a dress? its supposed to snow tomorrow and I dont really know if I should wear the dress .. but I dont know whats appropriate for this event? please help me .. I dont know what to do ..

Casey

It depends on what he is wearing, if he is wearing a suit, or a dress shirt with a tie, than you can wear a dress too. if he's just wearing slacks and a dress shirt than go with pants.

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I am almost positive that one of my professors is changing our answers on tests so that we get better grades. Let me start from the beginning....

After the class took the midterm exam, I was looking over my answers and I noticed that some of the writing was kind of funny. I thought, geez I must have been really tired when I took this test, and I let it go. Then, some of the other people in the class started whispering about it. Apparently someone had changed some of our answers to the correct answers before the tests had been graded! We all assumed that a student aid or graduate student had done it.

What's the problem then you might ask. I got a better grade so I shouldn't complain, right? Well, I try my best to be a good person and the fact that that had happened made me feel sooo guilty. It stressed me out to no end. I don't need to get a great grade in the class. With the corrections my score had been boosed from about a 70 to a 90. I didn't need the extra points. All I have to do is pass the course.

I didn't want to be the tattle tale and ruin everyone's day by possibly making the entire class take the midterm over again, but I couldn't deal with the dishonesty I was feeling. Later in that day I went to talk to the professor about what had happened. I liked her and I thought that telling her was the right thing to do. She seemed very understanding and told me to just keep working hard and that she would take care of it. I felt so good after I did it and knew that it had been the right choice. Well, nothing was done about it and I began to wonder.

We took another test and when I was handed my test back I got a "Great job!". When I noticed that the same thing had happened I almost cried. Nobody else in the class seems to mind, but it is tearing me apart. Now everyone is almost positive that it is the professor that is doing it. It's almost the end of the semester and I worry now that we'll all have to take the whole course over again. I can't afford to do that! I have just enough time to fit all the classes in that I need to graduate.

I think I know the reason why she does it (if she does). She isn't allowed to make her own tests or assignments for us. It has to be the same for everyone that is taking the class. The head of her department makes everything and she is often confused on what to teach us and what to tell us to study. I think that this is terrible and that a professor should be able to teach the way they want. Boosting our grades like she does (or allowing it to happen) is her way of giving us a curve.

It makes sense and it seems like a good thing, but if it's supposed to be the same for everyone taking the class, then my class is getting a very unfair advantage! Yeah, there needs to be some change, but it should be done in an honest way! There are so many better ways to have handled that. I believe that the professor is retiring after this semester so I don't think it would affect much in her life if she was found out.

Should I tell? I think I probably will anyway. I don't want to have to live with this for the rest of my life. If I do, who should I go through? The head of the department or someone higher in the college? She doesn't let us keep the tests and I have a feeling that if she were being investigaed for this that they would mysteriously go missing. With no proof, can anything really be done?

I give a lot of advice, but now I need some myself. I have no idea how I would answer this question if it were asked by someone else. Am I doing the right thing? I doubt anyone has gone through something similar to this and can offer an experience based answer. I shouldn't have to deal with this, I'm a student! I should be the one that's cheating if anybody! HELP!!

~sizzlinmandolin, (20/f)

You are going to have greater hardships in life, and there will be times when you try to do the right thing, but no one is going to care enough to fix it. That's life. Most people cheat to get good grades, suck up to get promotions, etc. That's just the way the world is. I think you should just let it go. Don't get in the habit expecting everyone to be good, or you will have a lot of disappointments in your life.

UPDATE: It's nice to hear that you have such good values. I hope everything works out for you! :)

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I kinda told some of my friends that my boyfriend and I made out because we're known as the "goody two shoes" couple at school, so people don't expect us to do anything, but thats not how we are. One of them told their mom, and shes telling other moms! How do I make sure my mom doesn't find out, and if she does, what should I do?

Lie. Tell her its a rumor. Mom's usually believe their kids over other people.

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15/F

I am a grade ten and I am required to take 'Planning 10' this year. It is a mandatory CAPP (career and personal planning) class. I was going to hand in an assignment today (on time) but asked the teacher if I could borrow her holepuncher (so I could put it in the required folder) but she said she didn't have one. She also said that I would lose 50% on the assignment automatically.

Hole punching was not part of the criteria so I feel like I should not lose so many marks. On my last assignment the whole class got 90-100% but I got 54%. I am a straight A student and try exceptionally hard on my work yet she gives me terrible marks for no reason. I even do assignments when I feel like they invade my privacy.

I have had enough. Am I overreacting? Who can I speak to about this other than her? She doesn't have a whole lot of common sense and I do not feel comfortable talking to someone so unfair.

Thanks so much

Talk to your admin

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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

You Definitely are too skinny. I really think you should seek medical help asap. If something is causing you to stop eating or to feel badd you need to see a therapist. Talk to a trusted adult on a daily basis as well. As you can see a LOT of people have answered your question, so please get better and let us know when you have. :)

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for my birthday i get to make my own cake i am happy about this because i love to bake i want it be challenging but not super hard because i only get one chance i love chocolate and want something origanal[sp] any help would be great!!!! thnaks

Try making money bread

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My dad -who doesnt live with me he lives with his gf an hour away- has a christmas party every year. but this year, he sed he wasnt so i made plans with these family friends who are in a play at a local theatre. theyre mom got me tickets and everything and last week my dads gf announced they ARE having a party... the same day as the play! i dont hav a close, tight relationship with my dad, so i dont know how to tell him. or maybe i should get my bro to do it help

Tell him you already bought non-refundable tickets since he had told you that he wasn't planning in throwing a party. It shouldnt be a big deal. And maybe you can try to make it to the party for a little bit before or after the play.

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I'm a 21 year old woman and I live alone. My next-door neighbor is a middle-aged man, and I feel that he gives me excess attention. Since I moved here last year, he's left several gifts on my doorstep, including t-shirts, candies, home-grown vegetables, and long letters about how people come into your life for a reason. He often offers to fix up my car or cook for me. Last year, I contacted my property managment and, without naming names, let them know that a neighbor was being too friendly. What scares me is that they knew it was him, and he laid low for a bit. Eventually he confronted me, jokingly asking if I really thought he meant me harm. At one point, a policeman knocked and asked me if I knew my "older, African-American neighbor" but wouldn't tell me why. I feel somewhat guilty of racism and snobbery, but, more importantly, I don't feel entirely secure. He might be spying on me. He knows if I've been napping or on my computer. Tonight I was dozing off on the couch, having a little alone time, when he knocked. I have blinds, but I noticed they were a bit tilted. When I opened, he asked if I were "daydreaming" and then asked my boyfriend's name, claiming he might have received a package for him. I've had all kinds of weid encounters with him in the past--he told me I was hot once, and once my boyfriend and I forgot the window was open, and I when we left my apartment, we saw he had hung a bag of candy from my doorknob. Truth be told, he gives me the creeps. Am I a racist or a snob, or do I really have something to worry about? Contacting the management didn't work, so what should I do?

Move... or get a restraining order, this guy sounds like a pysco

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i really neeed your advice:

who do you pick? the person who first loved you? or the person you first loved?

The person that loves you just as much as you love them. Love is a two way street.

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13/f

right now i have covergirl clean makeup and i want another foundation because first of all it makes me look whiter than i really am (i bought it too pale) and second it doesn't even hide redness it just makes the skin around the acne or whatever look cakey.

so i was wondering what a good foundation was that goes on smooth because i uneven skin, and also some sort of base or whatever to smooth my skin before i put my makeup on.

I really like Panstick by maxfactor

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Ok so heres my deal:

im very confussed and i dont know what to do! Ok well my friend invited me to New York this afternoon to go with her next weekend, the thing is we would be leaving friday, and there is a school dance that we BOTH payed for, and i am having trouble figuring this out! The dance is from 7-10 and we dont know what to do, because we cant get our money back but we really want to go the dance really bad!! But we also want to go to New York wicked bad too!

what should we do??

PLEASE HELP US!

thankss!

Go to the dance... you can go to New York any other time that you want...

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ok i just got hired for my first job [pizza place] and i start training next week. soo i was wondering about the schedule stuff. do they ask if theres certain days id like off? because id especially like each sunday off and either monday or wednesday [both would be good but i wouldnt mind working one of the two every week]. so do they ask me this? do i tell them this? im free to work every other night and all day & night saturday so would that make it a little easier to create my own schedule? ahh first job i dont know what to do so ya lol any help is appreciated! 16/f.

when you work in small resteraunts like that you usually dont get a set schedule. but since you are still in school that is the most the are probably going to do... work around your school schedule. as far as getting sundays off good luck with that.

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I'm getting a CHI flat iron for Christmas, however I'm not sure which one to ask for.
I like the largeness of the 2" Turbo Chi because I have alot of hair, however a store is having a sale on the colord Jewel Chi. I'm sure there are many more types of Chi's but I was just wondering which one you guys would most recommend.

$150 max.

For you i would probably recommend the 2 " one. Where did you see the colored jewel one???

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Ive been begging my mum for adges to let me toatly make over my room but now that it comes to actually designing it im stuck .I dont want it to be a toatly grown up room as im only 13 but i dont want it to be childish . A lot of my friends said a black and white theam but i dont want that . I thaught maby really light pink walls and then a dark
(but not like really dark)and funky bed and curtains. I really need help has anyone got any ideas?

xx

that sounds good... i sorta have that theme... my walls are pink (not too light not too dark) and my furniture is black its really pretty... You can also try going to target for nice accessories for your room.

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alright well i'm 90% sure i want to break up with my boyfriend.. but idk what im goin to say.. he broke up with me last week and he got his friend to call me and say "john wants to break up with you. bye" (he asked me out the next day, which is how we are going out again). so i was maybe thinking i could get my friend to call him and say the exact same thign to see how he feels! or i might say "hey i think we should just take break from each other and just let things smooth out" because we got in a fight earlier today.. and hes just too dramatic and he always brings a lot of unneeded drama. so someone please help me. how should i do it?? and should i do it on the phone?

Do the same thing he did...

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How do you go about getting tested for depression? What do they do?

Because I'm tired of being unhappy.. I have been feeling like this for years and I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.

Do pills really help making you "happy" or is it just a waste of time?

I just want to be happy again..
I can't do anything I like anymore. I oversleep and I'm still tired.. All I want to do is lay down and I keep canceling plans with friends..

And my confidence is low.. I dont know anymore..

Depression is a VERY serious disease. The first thing you need to do is see a therapist. As far as medication, i personally believe that is a pyscological fix. But it also depends on your level and type of depression. If you are experiencing situational depression than i dont believe medication is going to fix anything. But if you are experiencing depression due to a chemical imbalance in your brain than you may need medicine. But you definitely need medical attention from a therapist in order to determine that.

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yesterday morning when i woke up there were 2 pimples next to the right side of my mouth. i thought nothing of it because i thought they were gonna go away in the next 2 days maybe. well today when i got up there was ANOTHER pimple right above the other 2! i washed my face this morning with this blue Clerasil(sp) stuff that is my moms, but it didn't seem to go away. i need these pimples to go away by monday. please don't say proactiv or cover it up with makeup. i just need a quick cheap way to get these pimples off. (BTW- i wash my face 2 times a day with dove facial soap in the morning when i wake up and at night when i go to sleep) Thank you sooo much!!

Pimples don't go away overnight. What you can do is get some on the spot acne treatment by clean and clear or nuetrogena or noxema, every company makes it. Just make sure that those really are pimples and not cold sores.

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i had braces for 6 years and my teeth are very straight. i got them off a few years ago. i would like whiter teeth, as they have become yellow due to lack of brushing. are there any home remedies for teeth whitening? thanks in advance

I dont have any home remedies, but i know crest white strips work really well.

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