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hi I'm a 14 year old girl and i would like some help heres my problem. my friend is REALLY annoying especially towards Guys and I like one guy named Drew but he hates my friend and thats the reason he won't go out with me what should I do? (link)
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Well, for starters, you need to stop focusing and listen to what other people thing. That can get you into major trouble. Now, I am not saying ignore what people have to say, but don't like it be a wall preventing you from making the choices YOU soley want to make. With that said, you need to talk to your friend about the way he acts. Maybe he is just acting that way because he has feelings for you and is getting jealous. Whatever the case, you need to tell him that you wish he wouldn't be like that and just be happy for you. Then try and pursue things with Drew. You may even want to mention to him that you hope your friend didn't get in the way of anything. And, if it did, then he's obviously not as great as you thought! :)
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Hey. I was wondering how people do those little black hearts on myspace. thanks! (link)
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& hearts ;
Only don't put any spaces in between them. If I don't space then it turns out like this: ♥
:)
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Every year since the seventh grade I have had one very large problem - School. Now, hey, everyone has a problem with school, but to delve deeper into the subject of school I realize my problem is not directly going there, it's just doing the work.
Throughout my life I have been lazy, I've tried to overcome it and at some points I do, however when I try and do school work I put it off until the last moment.
Studying for a test means 10 minutes of staring at the review and then I say "Okay, I'm done" and move on. Sometimes I do think I'm good to go, but I'm not.
The problem is I don't do my homework sometimes, if I do it, I make sure it is done in a quick and timely manner -meaning it sucks-
This year, my Junior year, is the first time I have ever failed on a report card, even worse, I failed twice.
I realize I have this problem, each year I cut it very close in some of my classes. I'm usually under great stress (though it usually isn't apparent, even to me. Only at certain times does it even really 'get' to me) and when under great stress I can usually pull my grades up. However, without that jumpstart, I don't do the work required.
I realize this, but for some reason I can't become disciplined enough to overcome this terrible problem.
The end of the marking period is once again coming to an end this week, and I'm once again, like usual, I'm cutting it close.
I worry that I will fail, however, I'm not asking "how do I pass my classes with 1 week left?"
I'm asking a broader question which is How do I overcome this problem of putting things off so much?
I fear I've hit rock bottom over the past two years due to the fact that I'm so used to missing turning in an asignment ( Which I usually try to turn them in) that when I dont' have it done I generally just say 'oh well, it's whatever' and blow it off. I've learned to cope with this lazy me, which is also making it much harder to overcome my problem.
Another thing is I have been tested for a.d.d. and I infact do have it. However, I refuse to take my medicine for it. I try to overcome this disability myself (which is also sometimes a problem because I miss out on certain assignments and homework due dates)
Could this pure lazyness I'm experiencing be an effect from my add? I don't think so, but it doesn't help in certain areas.
Are there any techniques I could set up and apply to my daily schedule to improve my work habits?
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Everyone is lazy to an extent--and everyone has difficult staying on task. Having ADD had enhance that very much so. Taking your medicication is ultimately up to you; hoewever, it i proven to be very effective. What's wrong with at least just giving it a try? Or at least make a compromise. For example, when you know you need to buckle down and really study/work hard, take your pill for a week or so, then when you have an easy week, don't. Also, you need to keep up with everything in an organizer or planner and write down what you are responsible for the day. (Ex: quizzes, tests, homework assignments, chores) In addition, you should break things up. Don't start studying for a huge test the night before. Spread it out over the week so that you only have to study for 10-30 minutes a night. That way you won't have such a difficult time concentrating. Eat snacks. They will give you energy and encourage you. Ask for the support of you parents as well. Let them know what's due for the week so they can remind you and help. Also, talk to your teachers. Let them know about the ADD, or just the mere fact that you have problems concentrating. Often times, modifications can be made. Ask if there is any extra credit you can do as well. :)
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im 14. one boobs bigger than the other. normal? (link)
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Yes. It is very common for this to be the case. Often times, the hand/side you write with or use the most will have the smaller breast because that side gets more of a "work out" in a sense so the muscle is tighter and sits higher up. Thus, one breast appears larger. It generally should not be more than a cup size in difference though. :)
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what's appropriate to where with flats? i just have simple black flats and i'm not sure what will look okay with them. (link)
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Oh you can wear pretty much anything with it:
-Bermuda shorts
-Skirts (flowy ones, not tight ones)
-Jeans (cuffed or uncuffed)
-Capris
-Pants
-SOME dresses, use them with more casual dresses
Feel free to wear them with whatever is most comfortable/best suited for you! :)
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Hi, i saw your advice column and its a good one.
I like this boy alot and we used to do "things"
[if you know what I mean ].
Well my best friend knew about it becuase she was there and she was kind of apart of all of it.
Well she told someone, and now the whole school knows.
I know the boy hates her, and i asked him if he hates me and he said " idk"
but we still go to the same school and we have to see eachother everyday but I did notice he has talked to me less.
I like him soo much and idk what to do.
help please!! (link)
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Well, first off, thank you.
Anytime you are in junior high and/or high school and you "do things" with a guy and people know about it, you run the risk of people finding out and talking about it. The key is to sourround yourself with people you can trust and that will support you. Before "doing things" it's also important to comminicate with the guy and discuss that you want to keep it private or whatever. Same goes with the friend. Eventually this is all going to die down and blow over. But, these things take time. Be mature about it though, don't let them see it's irratating you. Be the bigger person. Also, talk to your friend about her telling. Tell her how you feel disrespected and violated. ALso, tell the guy that you are sorry and you never intended to damage anything between y'all. Give him his space. Don't be all in his face about it. He may come back, or maybe not. If he doesn't, just take this up as a learning experience. :)
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Only 12 and a half, and iv had my period for over a year now. and this is the first time iv had my period for over 2 weeks? My mom told me she will bring to the doctor if it dosent stop sooner or later, but i really want to know why it is doing this and how to make it stop! Please help!this doesnt happen to any of my other friends. (link)
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It is completely common. A female's cycle doesn't always regulate for up to 2-3 years. And sometimes, some girls experience a longer period time. It will go away eventually. But if this occurs every month then you can consider going to the doctor, but don't worry about it too much, it's natural. :)
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Okay, i made a huge mistake while my boyfriend and I were fighting, and i said i was questioning his feelings for me. I wish i never said it..because I really do believe that he loves and cares for me the way he says he does, but now like he thinks I dont trust him..how do I make him realize that I really really do believe he loves me?? (link)
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It is often times that in the midst of a fight couples say things out of frustration, hurt, or anger that you don't necassarily always mean. The best thing to do is just talk to your boyfriend and let him know that that was the case and you didn't mean to hurt him in your words--that wasn't your intention I am sure. Explain that you do trust him (along with all the reason why you do) to reassure him of that. Tell him all the things he does that you appreciate, admire and like. The key to all of this is communication. Explain that you don't like that y'all faught, but think its okay because then y'all can take from it and grow. :)
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hey i need help....okay....well u see my boyfrfiend and i have been dating for 4 months so far and i really love him but he like lives pretty far from me...i dont want to end our relationship but its really hard to keep it going plz help me (link)
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Commincation is key. You need to talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you are feeling. He may also being feeling the same. Also, you need to discuss the best way for y'all to talk/see each other. Like you can set aside a certain time each day to talk briefly whether it is via computer, email, phone, whatever. Write each other little notes/emails just to let them know you are thinking about them. Don't end it on the basis of distance without discussing things first. Give it some time for adjustment and then see how it goes...
:)
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ok it`s my boyfriends birthday on november 24th.i really wanna get him an awesome gift because he does so much for me and he means the world to me.im 13/f and ill prolly have about $20.thanks a ton.=] (link)
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Well you don't want to get him anything to serious for just a birthday, so keep it simple. Here are a few suggestions:
-A CD
-Shirt
-Something to do with a sport he likes
-A DVD
-A picture of you two in a neat frame
-A burned CD with songs you know he likes
-A big basket with like all his favorite little things in it
-A game for a PSP or something like that if he has one
:)
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13/f.Hey everyone! Well, this year I'm in 8th grade. Last year in 7th grade, I got sooooo nervous talking to guys. This year, I'm a lot more relaxed talking to guys and loving it! They are so funny and nice. Well, the only problem is, they don't always like talking to me. How can I try to be nice to guys and make them want to actually talk to me? I really need help with this. thanks! (link)
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Very simple. All you have to do is be yourself. Guys can tell when your forcing your personality, so just be really natural about it. To strike up a conversation ask something simple like " Did you understand the homework last night?", or "I really like that shirt; is it from Polo?" Something like that. This will allow you to segway into more in-dept conversations. Don't try to talk about things you don't know--but you can say something like "How's football going?--I really don't understand the game, maybe you can explain stuff to me" This way, you bring up something you know they are interested in but aren't acting like you know something and they'll want to explain something they are passionate about. But remember, the key is to just be you and don't ramble! :)
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my mom is always asking me to clean my room, well, because its always a mess! i hate cleaning it though! i always get destracted and can never get it done. sometimes a 15 mintute thing can take me up to a week.
anything i can do?? (link)
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Don't let yourself get bogged down and overwhelmed with the whole task at once. Instead, when you have to clean your room give yourself a time limit to do a certain area. For example, pick your desk area or something and play some music while you are doing it to help pass the time. By breaking it up into sections you will feel more accomplished when you complete each and be more motivated to move to the next. If need be, take breaks so you don't get stressed. :)
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Ok, so me and my boyfriend[Brent] have been dating only a few weeks. Well today at our schools football game, one of his friends showed up[he doesn't even go to our school] his name is Sam.
Well, I was flirting ALOT with Sam. And then when my boyfriend left, I thought about how cute Sam was and how I actually liked him.
Which is pretty weird because he has a girlfriend & I have a boyfriend. But then he would come over and talk to me, and I would catch him staring at me. And then he kept hugging me and patting my back and all of that.
So what do you think? (link)
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I think it's really common to have a desire to flirt with another guy even when you have a boyfriends. Sometimes we end up doing it unknowingly. With that said though, that doesn't make it right. I think you really need to think about your feelings. It might be nothing with this guy Sam--just like a random infatuation that will go away. In that case you can just continue with the way things were. Give it a day or so of thinking. If you feel like you don't like your boyfriend as much as you use to or thought you did, then you need to be upfront with him and let him know that your feelings are different. That may be hard to do, but it is the right thing. If you end up ending things with your current boyfriend, don't go running to Sam (if that's who you want) since he has a girlfriend. Just wait it out. If he feels the same he'll be honest with his girlfriend and come to you. Just remember, if there's two guys and you can't--absolutely can't make a choice between the two of them, then you aren't meant with either of them. Keep in mind that you have tons of times to meet new guys and just remember to have fun! :)
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Hello, I'm truely in love with a girl who I was toegther with for about four years give or take. Everyday that goes bye I miss her more and more. My heart says go after her with everyhting I got, but my mind tells me to leave her alone. There lies the problem.. I'm too subborn not to. Please help. Love is hard but would you give up if it seemed hopeless? Thanks for your time. (link)
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Well naturally, when you are with someone for that long of time, it's going to take awhile for you to get over her and the relationship. You have to focus on other stuff. The 3 F's: Friends, family, fun.
It is often that our heart and head give us mixed signals in situations like this. You sometimes have to settle for somewhere in between. Only you know when you've had enough and are ready and willing to quit, but just remember you can't keep chasing something that does not want to be caught.
Ultimately, you are going to decide if you are going to try to pursue things again or not. But, keep in mind that y'all probably broke up for a REASON and unless that issue has been fixed or forgiven, not much will change. Secondly, don't just let the fact that it was 4 years be tempting you to go back.
And in my opinion, I'm not a quitter, but if deep down I knew it was a lost cause and it wasn't what I really believed in, yes I would quit.
Look at it this way, if you were a parent and you had a daughter, would you want her to go through the pains of your four year relationship and would you want some teenage guy always coming back? Probably not.
In the mean time, really validate what you're wanting and whom you are wanting it from. Sometimes our "actions of love" are really to try to fufill broken pieces of us.
:)
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How old are you? (link)
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This really is not asking for advice, or really all that relavent since it says so on my page, but I am 18. :)
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Hey babe, I've been trying to send you messages through myspace but it wont let me, so Imma try to send one through here. Here's the one I've been trying to send you
Hey babe. I'm in kawait right now, so I made it here fine. We're waiting to go to iraq right now. I didn't skip you when I got on here. The internet sux here (as well as the phones. I havn't been able to make one phone call since I've been here). So I didn't just decide to not write you, My space was just effed up and the only thing I could do was change my name. Any way, I don't have any paper or envelopes (sp) so I can't write anyone either. This and e-mail are my only forms of comunication right now. So wut have you been up to. How is your mom. Were pretty much doing nothing right now till we get to iraq, wich we should be doing some time betweent the 23 and the 25. We did zero our rifles yesterday, wich completly sucked. Any time we do anything it feels like we just came back from the beach. Other than that, It's really not that bad here, It's hot and dry, wich I like, and there's actually more stuff to do here than in alaska. So all in all I'm enjoying life right now. As so as we can get a hold of some paper and envelopes I'll write you. I kinda need to talk to you about somthing when I do write you. It's nothing too serious, I just need to make sure of somthing. I'll write you as soon as I can (even if it's just of myspace). Miss you till then. (link)
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Stephen! I just wrote you back on MySpace! So yeah that covers a lot of it. But thanks for trying so hard to let me know things are okay. I miss you! Oh my mom said hi too and that she like loves you and to enjoy Kuwait b/c Iraq is sucky! Haha, she's like been there and stuff. Anyways, I don't know if you'll read this! But yeah. If you need anything let me know and I can't wait to mail you cute packages and letters! Be safe! :)
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ok listen i have a real question and i might sound strange but i am fourteen and i got my first period a month and 13 days ago and still no second period. why? is there something wrong with me? and should i tell my mom? help! (sorry bout the long question by the way) (link)
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You are completely fine. There is nothing uncommon about this. A female's cycle sometimes does not regulate for up to two years. It will come around. In the mean time, just enjoy not having it, and maybe you might want to wear a pantiliner for protection just in case. :)
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My boys are 21 and 23. They live together in an apartment in a city not far away. My oldest son quiet and easily lead by my youngest son. My youngest boy is bitter about my divorce of their father and the fact that I started a relationship with another man. He has convinced my oldest boy they they should not have a relationship with me. Before all of this came to my attention I bought my oldest son a birthday present. I want to send it to him. I am very hurt by thier behaviour and I have no intention of forcing myself into their lives. Should I send the gift? If I do, what should I write in the card? (link)
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First off, you are the adult and they are the children. So, the personal choices and decisions you make are solely for you to decide. Yes, it's okay for your sons to hold resentment about the divorce, but don't feel like you are being punished. All your life as a mother you have given to them, now it's your turn to do something for yourself. I for sure think that you should send the present to your son for two reasons. 1. To show him that you will always ackowledge his birthday and him no matter what and 2. to try and break the current rift. In the card, of course tell him happy birthday, but also express how you are feeling about the situation and that you understand his anger, but will be waiting for if/when he comes around. Sometimes these things just take time to get use to. In the mean time, just enjoy the moment for YOU. Your sons love you and will eventually come to terms with things. :)
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I've wanted to get laser eye surgery since I first heard about it. I have pretty bad eyesight, but I didn't get contacts until I was a teenager. Every day I think about how amazing it was not to have to deal with contacts. I can look up information about the procedure and the risks and stuff myself, so what I'm looking for here is information from people that have been through it. What was it like? How much did it help? Tell me all about your experience (or the experience of someone close to you) and whether you think I'm making the right decision. Thanks already. (link)
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Well, first of all, being that you are only 20 several sdoctors are going to be hesitant to perform the surgery on you until you are 25. That is the age in which your eye is finished fully developing. However, you can still go ahead with the procedure, but there is a possiblity that you won't have as great as results as if you waited. Generally speaking, it's got a very high percentage success rate. As long as you don't have any additional eye complications (EX: a thinned out cornia) you are bound to achieve great results. You aren't put to sleep or anything like that. They do put numbing drops in your eye (just like eye drops) and they use their laser and such to do their business. There's this like not clamp, but thing that helps keep your eye open so you don't blink as much. Usually, you don't get both eyes done on the same day. It will make you sensitive to sunlight, possibly nautious. Afterwards, you just wear their eye sheild for a few hours and within days you see amazing results. :)
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How much every day should a boyfriend and girlfriend talk on the phone? We go to different schools but live 10 minutes away. We're 16.
Thank you. =) (link)
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You can't put an exact amount on something like that. For every couple and situation it is different. I would say though that it is important to communicate someway dialy. That could be either in person, phone, computer, email, etc. Even if the two of you are really busy, you or your boyfriend are never too busy to just pick up the phone to say "Hey I wish I could talk but I am really busy right now but I just thought you should know that I am thinking about you." This lets y'all know you care. You may also want to set aside a certain day of the week that fits y'alls schedule better. :)
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