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Watching the days pass.....
Hello, I'm truely in love with a girl who I was toegther with for about four years give or take. Everyday that goes bye I miss her more and more. My heart says go after her with everyhting I got, but my mind tells me to leave her alone. There lies the problem.. I'm too subborn not to. Please help. Love is hard but would you give up if it seemed hopeless? Thanks for your time.
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Well naturally, when you are with someone for that long of time, it's going to take awhile for you to get over her and the relationship. You have to focus on other stuff. The 3 F's: Friends, family, fun.
It is often that our heart and head give us mixed signals in situations like this. You sometimes have to settle for somewhere in between. Only you know when you've had enough and are ready and willing to quit, but just remember you can't keep chasing something that does not want to be caught.
Ultimately, you are going to decide if you are going to try to pursue things again or not. But, keep in mind that y'all probably broke up for a REASON and unless that issue has been fixed or forgiven, not much will change. Secondly, don't just let the fact that it was 4 years be tempting you to go back.
And in my opinion, I'm not a quitter, but if deep down I knew it was a lost cause and it wasn't what I really believed in, yes I would quit.
Look at it this way, if you were a parent and you had a daughter, would you want her to go through the pains of your four year relationship and would you want some teenage guy always coming back? Probably not.
In the mean time, really validate what you're wanting and whom you are wanting it from. Sometimes our "actions of love" are really to try to fufill broken pieces of us.
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