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Hi my name is Angel, that's my real name. I'm a young adult now, I've had this advice column for years, but I made another one under the name anq3l_xo when I thought I couldn't access this one. A little bit about myself. I am a student, both in college and high school. I work as a nanny part time. I want to be a lawyer when I "grow up." I believe I've done a lot of growing up in my short life. I have conquered an obsession over drugs and alcohol in the last year and a half. I'm sober now and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I'm happy now. I'm in an absolutely blessed relationship with someone that I truly care about and love with all of my heart. I have been through things that you kids have nightmares about. I have seen, heard, and witnessed a lot of things that would make full grown men cry. I believe that I am innocent now, because I don't live that old lifestyle anymore. I have a lot of experience in a lot of things, and I've always been good at shedding light on dark situations. I come from a broken family, so I have step, half whatever siblings, and I just recently reunited with my real mother after she abandoned me 10 years ago. I have amazing friends today, but it wasn't always like that. I have a wonderful boyfriend and a great relationship with him, but let me tell you, it wasn't always like that. My sister is a drug addict/ alcoholic of the worst type. She's my best friend in the entire world, and I hope this 14 year old girl doesn't have to go through what I went through. I've come to understand that I can't help her, but I can help others through advice and by being of service to people around me. I'm always here to help, leave one in my inbox on this column or my other one, or my email which is listed, and I WILL get back to you. I know what it's like to feel like nobody cares, well I care about everybody. God bless. ~Love Angel



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Okay my boyfriend is SO pissed off at me. He got so mad at me and he said he wasnt mad anymore but then he was lyk "FUCK U!" n hung up on me =(...what should i do? Im NOT gonna dump him because thats stupid...i love him and i wanna make this work. What should i do to make it up to him? IM me on oOPassion kissez if you need the full story. Thanks..

He really shouldn't have said that to you, that's disrespectful. He's gonna have to be put in the doghouse for a while for that one. If my boyfriend ever said that to me, I would make him feel sooo completely sorry about it. And he should NEVER hang up on you. That is immature and disrespectful. It's good that you don't want to break up with him, but have a serious, long talk about it, and explain to him that he should express his anger towards you like that. He should understand, but explain that you are beyond furious with him for saying and doing what he did. I hope I helped. -Angel

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O.K. This is sad and I have no idea what to do. My best friend, Haley, wants to kill herself. She's never met her dad and her 200 pound 7 year old brother gets all the attention and her mom's a total slut. She gets books about death and she's writing letters to the devil and God. I don't know what to do about her. She's threatened me that she will kill herself and it scares me that she will. I don't know what to say or think about this. We met last year but got really close. She's two years older than me and I could really use advice on what to tell her. I need help, or my friend does. Please don't be sarcastic about this because I'm scared and you will only make it worse by replying rusely. Anyone who answers nicely, I'll love you forever.
~~~Kayla~~~

It's really hard to deal with this type of situation. It looks like your friend is crying for attention, and she feels that the only way she can get attention is if she's dead, which is not true. Luckily she has this best friend [you] that cares enough about her to do something about it. I think you need to tell someone like a school counselor, or maybe your parents, anyone that can help her. It sounds like an awful thing to do, but Hayley will thank you for it. You can do your best to help her by telling her stuff like, "killing yourself isn't worth it, that's like giving up the game of life, I know you're going through a hard situation, but if you don't give up on it, it will ultimately, make you stronger." Maybe not those exact words, but that's something that may change some of the ways she thinks, tell her that if she killed herself, you and all of her other friends would never be the same again, you'd be miserable. Tell her that it wouldn't make her family situation any better, they would be miserable as well. If you can't get through to your friend, get a higher authority, you have to, because if you don't, it could cost Hayley her life. Hope I helped, Best of luck, I'm always here if you need anything. Please keep me posted, and keep your head up. Good Luck! -Angel

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ok well this is kind of embarassing(sp)but i have sweaty arm pits..even when im cold..i no i should see a doctor so i can get some med. but i dont want to tell my mom cause its embarassing(sp)should i tell her?im going on vacation in feb. and i dont want that problem to effect my good time because its going to be hot there..and in school people always ask why im always wearing a hoddie..and i dont want to tell them..but i want to tell my mom so it will stop but like i said it embarassing(sp)...please dont respond if your going to make fun of me

hope you can help!

Well, use anti-perisperant to dry out your armpits, I have a friend that has a problem that is similar to yours, she wears baby powder and anti-perisperant under her arms. If you really feel that it is a problem, you should tell your mom, maybe she had the same problem. You need to tell her, or have her make you a doctor appointment [make up something, knee hurts] and tell your doctor about it. I hope I helped too. Good luck, keep me posted. -Angel

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hey..ok so here's the problem..i've liked this guy Chris for like Ever. he was going out w/ my friend for about two months and i had liked him the whole time. they broke up awhile ago, and i just found out he likes me. and one of my friends was talking to him and he said he'd ask me out. and i dont know if i wanna go out w/ him..i mean i've liked him for so long and i still Really like him..but we have this Fun Flirty friendship that i deff. don't wanna lose. and i'm scared that if we go out, and break up that we'll be all akward and not even talk to eachother..but i've liked him for so long and i dont think i could turn him down! ahhhh Help pleaseee! I Rate!! xOxO

Well, first thing I would do, is become REALLY good friends with him, that way no matter what, you guys would still be cool. You need to be totally comfortable around him, and he needs to feel the same way about you, not in a "love" way first and foremost. Then, once you're past that, and you still feel the same way about eachother, then I would say, GO FOR IT. But remind him, that you want to be friends no matter what happens in the relationship. I hope I helped, good luck. -Angel

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hi its been 2 months since my dad left for monterrey to learn french an he will be gone six months. Anyway im stuck at home with my sisters and my mom who are driving me crazy and it seems like the only way i can get away is by smoking and ive got asthma and one kidney. i just need advice on soning out because if i keep up the way ive been smoking ill be dead before im thirty. Any good advice would be nice and i will rate high.

Ways to zone out. My specialty. Well, as nerdy as it sounds, a great way to zone out is by reading. If you get into a long, interesting book, or something, that's a great way. As long as you keep yourself occupied with something other than smoking or your family. Other things you could do, write, listen to music, paint, clean, puzzles, anything really that keeps your mind occupied. It's good that you want to quit smoking. Well, I hope I helped, good luck, keep me posted? -Angel

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alright so my brother is a little more then 4 years older then i am. but for the longest time i have had this huge thing for one of his friends, who i dont even know that well. when they are off at college i feel alright, but everytime the come back to visit, i start to like him again. i dont know what to do its just one of those things that you totally cant get over.. any advice would really help thank you!
~*~AndreAa~*~

Well don't take this crush too seriously, because that is just what it is, a crush. It's about the same as me being in love with Nelly. You don't need to get over this guy, but just realize why you like him, and why it's unrealistic for you to have him. Hope that helps, good luck. -Angel

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Dear advice giver people,
I have this friend who has just gotten out of a relationship like 4 or 5 months ago. She broke up with the guy so that's all good. Ok, so then I liked this dude Billy right? Ok, well she decides that he's a sweetheart & goes for him. Well, that doesnt bother me because I have a boyfriend & I stopped liking Billy like forever ago. Me & Billy are still like close friends though & he was telling me how he was going to ask Jessica out & all. So being the girlfriend I am, I told Jess EVERYTHING he said. Now she will NOT stop talking about him. I'm serious. We could be watching TV & she's like, I miss Billy. Ok, well, then I mention my boyfriend like maybe 3 times that whole day. Ok, then she was talking to one of my other friends and she like, "She talks about *Joe WAY too much." Ok, Im sittin there like WHAT THE HELL you kno. So I dont know WHAT to do.
Sorry it's forever long!!

Dear Advice Asker Person,
Tell your friend that she's getting on your nerves, friends are allowed to do that, they can just open up and tell eachother stuff. If she's bothering you, tell her that. She may be offended, but she will soon get over it. I really wouldn't stress over it. All you really gotta do is talk to your friend and fix things so you're both happy. It may sound hard, but you'll feel better once you do it, don't stress on it at all though. Hope I helped. -Angel

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is true high school love possible? i was just wondering b/c it seems like for so many ppl it never works...

True love in high school is very possible. It's also really sweet. For some people, it doesn't work out, but that's SOME people. Finding true love in high school is like a fairy tale though, it's a beautiful thing, but it isn't common. Hope I cleared that up a little. -Angel

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i am having such problems with my mom lately. we usually get along really well, but lately it feels like she doesn't listen to anything i say. i know this sounds really really cliche, but she doesn't understand me like she used to. i worry a lot, and i know she can't understand that feeling, but i wish she would try. instead she just talks to me like a 3 year old, which just gets me more worked up. she doesn't know how to make me feel better anymore- shes my mom, she knows everything about my personality- you'd think she know what gets me so upset. i really don't know what to do.

Well, let me just tell you one thing, a mother-daughter relationship is one of the most beautiful relationships in life, and you would never want to abuse that. So remember if you talk to her about it, be sensitive, don't yell or complain. Maybe find out in depth how her life is, how she's feeling. She may or may not realize that something is bothering you, but don't hold her to blame for that, maybe you haven't been opening up to her, and she just feels un-needed. Talk to her about how you feel and I'm sure she would understand. You're so lucky to have a mother that loves you. Good luck, hope I helped. -Angel

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how did you make the cursor change and have the popup boxes.. i havnt done any work on html for the longest time so i have forgotten it all.. and where did you put all ur links things? in ur bio space or somewhere sneakier?

I put all of my HTML in my bio., yes. I just got the codes off of some HTML help sites,

http://www3.buddy4u.com/view/?x=safe&u=html+skillz

http://www3.buddy4u.com/view/?u=xXx+HTML+xXx&redirect=true#effectstext

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?x=safe&u=html+.+help#1

I usually use these sites. I hope I helped. Let me see your column when you're done? -Angel

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Ok well I got all this stuff for my boyfriend and he liked it but i never got anything from him. he told me he had 2 get somthing else for me and i still dont have anything from him and i know he loves me very much but y hasnt he sent me what he said he was and when???? I dont wanna question him about it. So how do i bring it up without making him feel bad ???? I just wanna know he hasnt he sent it and y havent i got it yet?????
Please help. Thanx.
oxoxox,
Worried

You could just casually say, did you send me that present? I don't know if I got it yet... Or you could say something like, Oh, did you like that new [thing] I got for you? And if he hasn't sent it, just be like, oh well my address is... [blahblahblah] and then he will come out with the reason why he didnt send it yet. Yeah, that should work. I hope I helped. -Angel

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mmk sorry i didn't knoe wut ta put this under but me and my mom are planning to go on a vacation like spring break or like soon but money is a big issue when it comes to vacations with my family so has n e one been n e where that was really nice with a beach and alot of hot guys! that would have something fun for me to do then sumthing fun for my mom to do aswell thats not THAT expensive?!?

Santa Cruz, California. Any beach in California really, but it kinda depends on where you're from, because I only know west coast stuff, so if your on the east coast, all I could really say is New Jersey, but I think it's a little costly. Hope I helped and have fun on your vacation! -Angel

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If you get your nose pierced, and you decide later in life you don't want it, will it eventually grow over and not make a scar, or will it scar you for life. Thanks!

It will scar, but it's really not that bad at all, its barely even noticeable. A spec of concealer will cover it up in a second, it's really not something to be stressing over. -Angel

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so i have a boyfriend for over 5 months and i kind of want to break up with him because i want to be single but im scared because i know his family and like im afraid they will hate me and im scared because all my friends think that we are like THE CUTEST COUPLEand stuff but im scared cuz like i think that i will miss him.. but i really want to be single and just have fun im not ready for a major commitment so i dont know what to do help me please and if i do break it off with him what should i say??..... should i write him a note?? i dont know help me please

You need to be flat out with him, you can't say that you don't want a serious relationship, because you blew that about 4 months ago. Just go upto him, pull him aside, and talk to him. Tell him how you're feeling, you just want to be single, you need a break, you have a lot going on, etc. Just think about number 1, yourself. As long as your happy, it doesn't really matter what your friends think, they will get over it. You probably will miss him, but you will probably get over it pretty fast. Tell him that you feel like you made a mistake by making such a big committment with him, and you don't want either of you to get hurt. He should understand. Hope I helped. Good luck! -Angel

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I'm about 5'0" and like 116 pounds. I have a little chubby stomach too. I'm going to start going to the gym tomorrow and from then on workout about three days a week. I'll probably be there about an hour and a half each day. I'm not exactly sure what exercises I'll be doing, so I can't tell you that. But how long, about, do you think it will take to make my stomach flatter and lose that fat? Also, what exercises would help me lose that?

First, start out with about a 20 minute cardio workout [treadmill, stairmaster, anything to get your heart going]. Then, find the crunch machine. Do about 2 sets of 20 on the machine your first day, then the next day, do about 3 sets and so on and so on. As long as you stay away from high-carb foods, and try to eat healthy and stick to that plan, you will most likely see results in at least 2 weeks, maybe sooner, I'm telling you, it's like magic. Lol. Hope I helped. Good luck, tell me if it worked for you, it hasn't failed yet. -Angel
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Okay, i'm a ninth grader, and i can't stand all of the 7th graders, they're all stuck up. i got into a huge fight with one of them cuz they were sayen stuff about me. and then the one girls friends sister got involved and shes 16, and im on 14, she threatened to kick my ass, i duno if she'll actually do it though. i see her alot in the halls , i dont think she exactly knows what i look like either, but alot of people in my school know me, so they might tell her. should i skip school tomorrow, or just go? im soo worried.. thanks!!! and if i do skip school, what can i tell my mom, like what are some good tricks?

You have to go to school tomorrow, but at school, lay low. If you miss school, that will make you look sooo bad. Just go to school, lay low, don't put yourself in a position to get cornered or away from a helpful authority. She probably won't beat you up. She may yell at you or something, but I wouldn't worry about it. Good luck at school. Hope I helped. -Angel

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I am trying to delete some of my ratings but How do you know what the rating was for certain questions and answers? Thanks!

You click on the number [rating] in your feedback, and then it opens up a link to the question and your answer, then you go to edit answers, and find that question, click "edit answer" and then delete it and press the "edit answer" button. That deletes the rating. -Angel

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you know how u rate people`s responses? well where do u see how people rated you individully can you?

on your column, you click "view feedback" and then it says the ratings, and you can click on the number to see which question it goes to. -Angel

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your really hot

wow, that's a first. I'm glad you think that buddy. And I'm glad you came to me for help, because if you think that, you may need help. lOl. JK, but thanks for the compliment. -Angel

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ok.. i have like.. the worlds worst father.. he has no pics of me or my 2 siblings in his house.. he gave my PS2 to my step brother.. he bought me a 50$ present for chrissy and thats it.. he didnt want me to get my car lisence, and he said the job that took me half a year to get is unsecure and crap (22$ and hour -making all things plastic in cars(holdens for you in aus)) what should i do about this? atm i see him about once every six months...

My step-mom is in that same situation with her father and I am with my mother. What I have found works best, is just to ignore him the best you can. Yeah, it's hard, he is your dad, but if all he is doing is bringing you down, then you need to stay away from him until he can wise up and be a nicer father. He should be proud of his kids, and he should certainly pay a little more attention to you guys, but it seems like you're doing fine without him, talk less on the phone and maybe see eachother less. Whatever you think works best. I hope I helped, and I really hope that your situation gets better. My best wishes. -Angel

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