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My best friend is getting on my nerves.
Dear advice giver people,
I have this friend who has just gotten out of a relationship like 4 or 5 months ago. She broke up with the guy so that's all good. Ok, so then I liked this dude Billy right? Ok, well she decides that he's a sweetheart & goes for him. Well, that doesnt bother me because I have a boyfriend & I stopped liking Billy like forever ago. Me & Billy are still like close friends though & he was telling me how he was going to ask Jessica out & all. So being the girlfriend I am, I told Jess EVERYTHING he said. Now she will NOT stop talking about him. I'm serious. We could be watching TV & she's like, I miss Billy. Ok, well, then I mention my boyfriend like maybe 3 times that whole day. Ok, then she was talking to one of my other friends and she like, "She talks about *Joe WAY too much." Ok, Im sittin there like WHAT THE HELL you kno. So I dont know WHAT to do.
Sorry it's forever long!!
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Just tell your friend that you get the fact that she likes him but you dont need to hear about him 24/7...
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just ask him to dose he like your freind.
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Well,I think the best way to handle this situation is to talk face-to-face with Jess.No other friends playing middle-man. That will only complicate things. Sit down with your girl and tell her that you really don't appreciate her talking about you behind your back,and that it hurts your feelings.Let her know that in the future,if she has any problems or issues with you,just talk to YOU.Then nicely let her know that you are happy for her and her new guy,you really are,but sometimes it might be nice to have a conversation or do something without bringing him into it.You don't wanna come off as jealous or stand-offish,because if you say it rudely,that's the first place she's gonna go with it,ya know? Just let her know that you love her,and you're glad that she's happy with her guy,and you hope that she's happy for you and your guy,but maybe you shouldn't carry on about the guys everytime you're together.Make sure she knows you're there for her when she needs you,and you don't mean that you NEVER wanna hear this guy's name again,just not 24/7.Maybe you guys could set aside a little time each day that's your "guy time" or something,where you both talk about your guys just like girlfriends do.Just an idea!Hehe!!Hope this helped you out some!Let me know how it goes! :)
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act like youre interested at some point shell get bored
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We've all been in love, that tingly wonderful sensation we get when we're around a certain person. Well, your friend has taken it to the limit and it's natural for you to get bugged by it, especially since she is completely contradicting herself when she says someone else is talking about their boyfriend way too much. Here's what you do: try bringing up your boyfriend frequently during a day the two of you are hanging out. Make sure it's during different times she's talking about Billy. After you do this, see if she starts to complain. If she does, then tell her that she is doing the same thing and you would like it if she could take it down a notch and not talk about him so much. Tell her that it's hard for you since you used to like him. This may be a total lie but friends like it when it seems like they have the upper hand and it may make her want to stop since it's flattery towards her. If she's not annoyed by you talking about him then confront her in a different way. This time approach your friend the next time she says someone else talks about their boyfriend way too much. That's when you can say, "hey, you do it alot too" and wait for her response. Good luck and if you ever need any more advice, feel free to ask me a question directly at my column. iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG!
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Dear Advice seeker person,
I aint exactly sure wat your exactly asking.. ok right, so im just going to go ahead and assume you wanna know how to make her stop talkin about him huh? so the best way i KNOW that you can ger HER to stop talking about HIM, is to be INTERESTED, ask her how he has BEEN and the yeah.. eventuall shell be like.. its non of your busyness and stop talking about HIM
sound good? huh? good sorry this is like eternall long!!
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Dear Advice Asker Person,
Tell your friend that she's getting on your nerves, friends are allowed to do that, they can just open up and tell eachother stuff. If she's bothering you, tell her that. She may be offended, but she will soon get over it. I really wouldn't stress over it. All you really gotta do is talk to your friend and fix things so you're both happy. It may sound hard, but you'll feel better once you do it, don't stress on it at all though. Hope I helped. -Angel
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