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My Friend Wants to Die
O.K. This is sad and I have no idea what to do. My best friend, Haley, wants to kill herself. She's never met her dad and her 200 pound 7 year old brother gets all the attention and her mom's a total slut. She gets books about death and she's writing letters to the devil and God. I don't know what to do about her. She's threatened me that she will kill herself and it scares me that she will. I don't know what to say or think about this. We met last year but got really close. She's two years older than me and I could really use advice on what to tell her. I need help, or my friend does. Please don't be sarcastic about this because I'm scared and you will only make it worse by replying rusely. Anyone who answers nicely, I'll love you forever.
~~~Kayla~~~
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OMG!! this is very serious...i think that you need to tell somebody about this... i strongly urge you to! She may seem mad now, but she thank you later, trust me! Hope this helps! and may God be w/ her and guide her to the right choice!
~Alyssa
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if were you i would talk to her and tell herthat your scaring her and i want you to stop and if she doesnt thenprove to her that if she does kill her self how many people she will hurt like you and her mom and all of her friends and her brother then she will find out that you and a lot of other people love her and want her to stop saying that she going to kill her self.
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u have to be there for her. tell her mom. do something. do watever it takes. i know its hard. but u can save a life.
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That's serious. Trust me, I know how you feel. My best friend's mother died in November, although this is a little different. What I think you need to do is tell somebody, a trusted adult, someone who will listen to you seriously. Your friend needs serious counseling help. Do your best to be there for her, and tell her that life is better than dying no matter what. Talk to her, try to convince her, and try to help her get counseling. Does anyone know about this, such as an adult? I know this is scary. Be with her and don't let her do anything bad to herself. And talk to her about it as much as you can, ask why, and help her.
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hi sometimes you cant rely on people from the internet to give you advice but i recomend seeing a profesinal like a councler or a local help line service but you need to sho your friend all the good things she will be leaving behind and that alot of people will miss her and that shes making a horrible mistake i hope i helped you and your friend please rate
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OMG! i was about doing the same way... i can relate...you need to let somone know this!! and dont let this happen...I would say this is really not a joke and you need to tell somone! Your friend might be hurt about sumthing and might not tell anyone maybe somone made her really mean and deep inside. As a friend, you should help her out. No matter what she says or tells you to back off or w/e i would not care dont let her do that! that is a very bad thing and i almost did it...well if u want me to tell u more you can visit my site Addie14's advice column or email me at Ashbug203@aol.com! Hope i helped and i am scared too!
Addie*
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Hey talk to your friend as stupid as this sound go to friend theripy maybe. Anyway go shopping do somthing she loves maybe it will make her feel better and take her mind off of killing herself. Dont let this get serious talk to somone about it ur mom or someone who will help and dont let her kill her self shes young and she should have a great life. And she already has a great friend you. Good luck. <3 American Girl
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You need to let someone know...it sounds like she's serious (cuz theres some people out there that do that for attention. This isn't something you can handle by yourself..she obviously needs some kind of counceling wether it be in school or outside somewhere. She MIGHT get angry at you at first for telling someone but think of it this way..would you rather have a dead friend or an a friend who'll get angry for a short while? Believe me in the long run if she does get help..she will thank you. Do the right thing and don't let this problem just sit there.
~Anjela
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first of all make sure you tell her how much she means to you and how much she means to other people like her mom and brother, even though they dont seem like it. also if she EVER says "you have to promise you wont tell anybody im going to kill my self" you cant promise that no matter what because if you do and then you tell her mom or somthing then she will never forgive you and/or think you dont care enough to be a friend- so make sure you get aside from promising that. also try talking to her mom about it if possible, tell her that YOU dont think shes getting enough attention from her, yes her mom will probably not like you very much but you will get her thinking more about her daughter and spending more time with her. and one day when she seems REALLY ipset make sure your there for her no matter what even if she says she doesnt need you make sure your at your house waiting by the phone incase she calls because then shes knows that you wouldnt leave at her time of need---- wow i hope what i said helps you and i really hope your friend gets better please keep me updated and leave me a note in the INBOX if you have any more questions because i have been though alot of deaths by suicide- ill be praying
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Please at no point think that I´m trying to be mean or anything, but I´m going to be as truthful as I can with you. First and above all you must be a friend to her, be there at all times so she can have a shoulder to cry on, advice her the best you can, and show her (tell her) how important she is to you. Many times people in her situatin just need some guidance and lots lots of love. (I know I know you probably think this are obvious things but you´d be amazed at how often people forget to do things like these for their closest friends.) Then if her LIFE and well being matter more to you than loosing her friendship, you should contact your school counselor and tell him/her what you´ve written here. The counselor will know how to act....for her best.
Last of all, know that you can do only your best which is to love her tons and aid her to the best of your ability. Best of luck and know that your friend is ery lucky to have you.
Truly,
Noret
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It's really hard to deal with this type of situation. It looks like your friend is crying for attention, and she feels that the only way she can get attention is if she's dead, which is not true. Luckily she has this best friend [you] that cares enough about her to do something about it. I think you need to tell someone like a school counselor, or maybe your parents, anyone that can help her. It sounds like an awful thing to do, but Hayley will thank you for it. You can do your best to help her by telling her stuff like, "killing yourself isn't worth it, that's like giving up the game of life, I know you're going through a hard situation, but if you don't give up on it, it will ultimately, make you stronger." Maybe not those exact words, but that's something that may change some of the ways she thinks, tell her that if she killed herself, you and all of her other friends would never be the same again, you'd be miserable. Tell her that it wouldn't make her family situation any better, they would be miserable as well. If you can't get through to your friend, get a higher authority, you have to, because if you don't, it could cost Hayley her life. Hope I helped, Best of luck, I'm always here if you need anything. Please keep me posted, and keep your head up. Good Luck! -Angel
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Talk to her as much as possible. Tell her how much she means to you and how special she is. Let her know that even if her family is "different" that she still has friends and relatives who love her. Tell her this "Soinso, if you do this it will ruin me. It will be very selfish, because your mom and brother and dad do love you. I love you, please, just ignore your family, and call me when you're having a bad day". Just keep talking to her and invite her over maybe. Sh'll realize how much you love her.
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