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my life stinks
My life stinks and i hate it I have like no friends cuz i go to such a small school. And my parents are having a divorse which is not going good. We are losing all are money my parents are both dating i hate my moms boyfriend who is a jerk my mom doesnt want to tell my dad that she has a boyfriend cuz shes a weirdo and she just yells at me all the time because i dont like her stupid boyfriend i have a boyfriend but he is MIA (missing in action) havnt heard from him in like a month. And my brother is a big jerk and i just want advice on what i should do I want to kill my self.
HELP ME
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It sounds like you are worrying about stuff you don't need to yet. You are the kid, not the parent, you are not responsible for you family's money, nor are you able to choose who your mum and dad date...that said, Ican fully relate to the lack of friends due to being at asmall school thing. When I was at school I was at this tiny country school where you stuck out if you didn't want to own a cattle ranch and get married at 18. I found that reading books really helped me, because I could read about other people and places, in a way, live in a bigger world.
I think the key to finding a friend is by looking a little outside the box, is there someone else who you think could use a friend? Maybe someone who gets picked on but you feel you can relate to?
Also, how about getting involved with some other kids your age through a camp or a youth group? You need support around you, but even if you don't have much at the moment, remember that this time won't last forever, it will definitley become easier as you grow up, don't be too hard on your self, your life dosn't have to be perfect today :)
With the killing yourself thing, do you really want to kill yourself or just want the pain to end? You have other ways to end the pain...friends, counselling, God (if you want to give him a try)
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DONT KILL YOURSELF!!! What ever you do dont.....If you dont like your mom or your brother go move in with your dad!! Or if you dont want to do that move in with another family member!! Also about the friends...Try and switch to a differnt school maybe?? And your boyfriend...Why dont you call him and tell him your worried about him?? Sorry i didnt help much but those are some ideas!!
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yeah i see where you are coming from and i sorta went through the same thing as you. If i were you i would just zone out an just go places to get away from your home life. but whatever you do dont get into drugs or kill yourself it isnt worth it. i know that times know are hard but the good times will roll in eventually. just please dont do anything you will regret.
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Remember, Homicide BEFORE suicide!
but seriously... you can have friends even in a small school... find an activity that suits you - I fit into the photography crowd, the Debate/forensic team, the Swim Team, Track and Field, Latin Club, and a few others... And I was a 330 lb geek.
It's time to hunt down your boyfriend or replace him (unless he's litterally MIA in the millitary, in which case that's just sad and he needs your thoughts/prayers)
Don't go and kill yourself just yet... give it a month to see if things don't get better, and if they aren't any better by then, write me at Fire_hazzard*AT*hotmail.com
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Please don't kill your self! That's not the answer, you can always make things better if you're alive, but you can't when you're dead. After reading your message though, I can understand why you would have these feelings. I'm sorry that your parents are getting a divorce and that your boyfreind is MIA. I thought about killing myself once, the problem was that I didn't really want to die! I wanted to escape, just get away from it all. But think about it, people really would care if you were gone, you touch someone everyday, even if you think you don't. Think about your boyfreind, how would he feel if he found out that you killed yourself? I know that he's missing, but eventually he'll be found. I REALLY understand how you feel about your moms boyfreind. My mom married this guy I really didn't like, he was there for five years! Beleive me, I know. Here's how I got over it; After a really big fight, and I mean huge, my mom was going to attempt suicide, because she thought that she let me down. After I heard about it though, I realized that I really didn't want my mom gone, I loved her, and I knew somewhere inside that she loved me too. I stopped her. And I felt like crap for driving her to such extremes. After going to my room to cool down, I realized that she deserved to be happy, and I deserved to be happy. And the only way that she would be happy is if she had me AND him, even though she loved me more. So I accepted it, I didn't like him still, but I didn't hate him after that. And I told her that I accepted it. And It felt so great! So what I'm saying is, try to accept what you can't change, because it will only bring you down if you don't! Why bother if it can't be changed? And give your boyfreind the best thing that you can, prayer and hope. Even if you don't have a religion, hope. Hope is one of the most powerful things in the world. As is love, just knowing that he has your love and you, will give your boyfreind strengh. I know that divorce can be rough, my parents were also divorced. I really hope that this helps! Please don't kill yourself, because of all the people that love you, and care about you. And after reading this, I care about you too. Good Luck!!
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Hey,
I must first tell you that it is great that you are stepping up and asking for help. It sounds like you really in a tough situation. Maybe you should sit your parents down on seperate occasions and have an earnest heart-to-heart talk with them. But, don't give up! You have barely lived yet. If you feel like there is no hope anymore, please go see a counselor and if it is an emergency-go to a hospital. There is hope! Also, you may want to look into family therapy. You can even see a therapist by yourself who will basically be your activist and have family sessions. Professionals are experts at solving-or working on- issues that are detrimental to children.
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If you feel comfortable--talk to your teacher about it. If she's a good person, she'll do SOMETHING for you. I'm sure she will. But if you don't want to talk to her, find someone you trust or can let everything out to..like you did here. Going through divorce is the worst..maybe not the worst--but it's still bad. My parents did the same thing. Maybe TRY talking to your mom..it might help, seriously. OR write her a note. That might be better. I always felt it's easier to write notes then to speak how you feel. I don't really have much more to say to you, but I'm here if you want to talk about anything. ♥
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No matter how bad you feel about yourself, nothing can be bad enough to kill yourself. Don't do anything to risk your own life. You're more important than that. Just maybe try talking to your mom and dad,see if they would be willing to see a counsler, it might sound a bit lame, but it does help big time. Or do you have a really close best friend that you can talk too? Maybe their parents could talk to yours about what you're going through. And it also seemed to help if someone else tells your parents what your going through. That seems to make them understand more. If you need anymore advice, my advice column is CaitLynnG. Hope I helped! = )
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