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ive heard that if you can wear a tampon comfortably it means that your body is ready for sex is that true? (link)
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First of all, one has to keep in mind that penis sizes do vary by far. A tampon tends to be must smaller and thinner than the average penis. Your body may be maturing, but you have to keep your mind in your thoughts of well. You must ask yourself questions such as "do I love my partner?" "does he love me" "am I prepared for everything that will change when I embark into a sexual relationship?" "Do I know about birth control and protection against AIDS and other diseases?" Surely, a tampon has nothing to do with this.
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I've had a bf for a little more then a month. i'm crazy about him and all and think i might love him but i'm wondering what are some ways to know if he loves me or just really likes me. (link)
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You probably don't want to show him how crazy you are about him. That could not be good, and he may get scared. Try being honest with him, ask him how he feels about you. You should expect the truth, and be prepared for it. Watch for the cute things he does for you, like holding your hand or your books. Men are strange but they have their little ways of showing affection even if it is not verbal.
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Heyy!,
Is it wrong for an 13 year old and an 11 year old to go out?..I really need someones opinion!!! (link)
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I don't believe that age should play a factor in your decision unless there was a drastic difference, but that is not the case. I think that you should focus more on trying to figure out if you match in maturity and intelligence. You do not want to be in the big sister position with someone that you are interested in. Make sure that you will not be bored when he is off playing playstation.
Good luck.
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okay i had this friend and she gave me ur barbell to use and now that we are not friends she wants it back..but the thing is i told her i would give it back thursday before break and she never showed well now she is saying all this shit like o0o0 im getting pissed because your not goin to give me my barbell well...i kind of thru it away well ne wayz she said she was goin to kick my ass i really dont care but i just want her to go away and stop buggin me...she is a freshman she cant do ne thing i mean im a junior...what the hell...so what should i do??? PLZ HELP (link)
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Instead of looking to further this fight- you should consider replacing the barbell. You do not have to be friends anymore but you should respect other people's property. You can bury the hachet then and just agree to disagree. It is much better for the both of you if you just don't speak unless one of you is interested in renewing the friendship.
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My life stinks and i hate it I have like no friends cuz i go to such a small school. And my parents are having a divorse which is not going good. We are losing all are money my parents are both dating i hate my moms boyfriend who is a jerk my mom doesnt want to tell my dad that she has a boyfriend cuz shes a weirdo and she just yells at me all the time because i dont like her stupid boyfriend i have a boyfriend but he is MIA (missing in action) havnt heard from him in like a month. And my brother is a big jerk and i just want advice on what i should do I want to kill my self.
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Hey,
I must first tell you that it is great that you are stepping up and asking for help. It sounds like you really in a tough situation. Maybe you should sit your parents down on seperate occasions and have an earnest heart-to-heart talk with them. But, don't give up! You have barely lived yet. If you feel like there is no hope anymore, please go see a counselor and if it is an emergency-go to a hospital. There is hope! Also, you may want to look into family therapy. You can even see a therapist by yourself who will basically be your activist and have family sessions. Professionals are experts at solving-or working on- issues that are detrimental to children.
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mmk sorry i didn't knoe wut ta put this under but me and my mom are planning to go on a vacation like spring break or like soon but money is a big issue when it comes to vacations with my family so has n e one been n e where that was really nice with a beach and alot of hot guys! that would have something fun for me to do then sumthing fun for my mom to do aswell thats not THAT expensive?!? (link)
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Just do inexpensive things- like going to the beach or renting a movie.
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so i have a boyfriend for over 5 months and i kind of want to break up with him because i want to be single but im scared because i know his family and like im afraid they will hate me and im scared because all my friends think that we are like THE CUTEST COUPLEand stuff but im scared cuz like i think that i will miss him.. but i really want to be single and just have fun im not ready for a major commitment so i dont know what to do help me please and if i do break it off with him what should i say??..... should i write him a note?? i dont know help me please (link)
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People will look down on you more if you are not honest. Never stay in a relationship for the sake of other people. If you break it to him gently and genuinely, then people have no reason to discriminate against you. If anything, they should respect you for you honesty and tell you that you did the right thing. It is not fair to stay in a relationship you are not happy in for the sake of both you and the other person. It is not right to lead people on. I would just write him a note or tell him face to face.
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I really like this guy that i have known sence i wuz 3 i havn't seen him in like 5 yrs. now we go to the same school. i see him every once in a while but never get the chance to talk. What should i do? tlk to him? or what just tell me wut i should do or how i should feel
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Nobody can tell you how to feel. People can never control their emotions. If you feel like this is a relationship you are interested in pursuing, then make note to speak to him more often. If not, then forget about it. Be careful however, you would not want to lose such a long term friend because of a trivial issue.
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i have a tooth in my mouth that is loose and when i wiggle it and smell my finger, it stinks. kinda embarrassing. IS THIS NORMAL? (link)
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It is probably fine. Tell a parent and go to the dentist to make sure.
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Pardon me for sounding emo. I really can't stand myself. I make bad choices, I am a terrible friend, and some of the things I say--that I hardly ever mean--really hurt people. Sometimes I can't even stand to look at myself in the mirror. My family doesn't seem to like me either. I don't have many friends. The only ones I have are jerks--but I don't feel like I have a right to get mad at them. It's what I deserve. I feel so guilty, but I can't think of anything that I have done wrong... But everything I do seems to be wrong, and I am always getting punished for things that I can't help. I am a terrible person. (link)
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It is good that you realize that your actions are not liked by others. You can still change. Maybe you should talk to a counselor or someone and try to make steps to improving yourself. I know it is hard but you can become a better person without changing who you are. All you have to do is regard other people and their feelings. Don't get down on yourself. A lot of people go through periods where their behavior is not the best. This is just a stage. A stage that you can work through.
Good luck.
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im dating this guy...it seems like we are not goin out...i mean he is my ex-boyfriends best friend i think that he has be talking to him and they have been talkin about me saying all this shit about me and making my boyfriend not wanna go out with me why??? (link)
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Your ex-boyfriend is probably not comfortable with the fact that you are with his best friend. Maybe you should try talking to both of them. It is sometimes very painful to see someone who you cared about with someone close to you. Take that into consideration before you continue the relationship. You may really be into this person, but is it worth ruining a friendship?
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i made out with my bf the other day and he has been telling everyone about it ever since, but i only hear that from my friends. he has talked about it to my friends and stuff like that. i dont really like it, should i talk to him about it? i'm not sure what to do, i mean it is true... its not like a false rumour he is passing around or anything. i like him, he's sweet, but i feel like i cant make out with him anymore or else he's guna tell every one about it... also, for the boys out there, why do you think he talked about it so much? thanks (link)
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He probably talked about it because he was proud. If it makes you uncomfortable, I suggest that you let him know. The most important element in a relationship is trust. Just tell him in a nice way, and I am sure he will get the message.
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I was in an intense relationship with a pretty disturbed guy for 3 months. He frequently encouraged me to kill myself and was pretty abusive. I don't want to see him again but I still have his jumper and want to return it as I don't like it around and don't want to throw it out(it would give him a reason to contact me again, I've tried to sever all contact) --the only mutual friend we have is his ex and I never told her I was seeing him.
I would send it to him but he's moving house...any suggestions? (link)
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Do you have any friends that could possibly do the dirty work for you? Consider asking a man to do it. That way, he is really of less threat to them. I know this sounds like an easy way out but at least it is effective. It also gives him the message- you want ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with him.
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ok so you met this guy and you like fell in love with him and he liked you for awhile but he lives in a different city and you talk to him all the time and you see him occasionally but then he starts liking this other girl who is a slut and your still like in love w/ him and you cant get over him even though you have tried.and then you thought you were finally over him and then you saw him for a weekend and fell for him again and that is what happens everytime you see him. what do i do? (link)
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I cannot tell you how to handle this situation. However, I would advise you to talk to him and ask him how he feels about your situation. Then you will have an idea about how he views the whole thing. It is very common to have feelings ONLY when you see him. Is this simply a physical infacuation? Ask yourself this question. It is very important to distinguish a real connection from a physical one.
Best of luck.
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Hey, sorry for bothering you. I was just wondering, who should I talk to? My dad died when I was 13, I don't want to turn to any of my friends, because they just seem like they wouldn't care, or they'd give me stupid advice. I have my older sister, of whom I live with. But she's never home, and she was never close to my mom nor dad. Thanks for your advice though. :) (link)
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First of all, you do not have to be sorry for "bothering me". I am thrilled to speak to you at any time you need someone. I am sorry to hear about your dad and your friendship situation. If there any counselor you can speak to at school who can set you up with a therapist or give you someone to at least speak to? My screen name is Jeanettessn@aol.com. You can IM me anytime. I can speak to you when you need some help. For the meantime, try to contact an adult at school who you may be able to converse with about this situation. Good luck sweety.
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My mom was an alcoholic, everyday she would drink. DUring christmas even more, just because she hated using all of her money and was afraid we'd be moneyless after christmas. On 12/23 I came home from school, all happy because it was the last day and now I have a 2 week vacation, and I came home to my mom being drunker then hell! I was sick of it and I went upstairs because I didn't want to talk to her. About 2 hours later my dad got home and yelled me from upstairs ( I was sleeping ) .. he said that we had to go to the hospital because my mother had passed out.. she had overdosed on anti-depression pills and was drinking ALOT of alcohol at the same time. when we got to the hospital we waited about 30 minutes and they came out and told me my mom was dead. I can't stop thinking that this is all my fault, like if I would've stayed downstairs maybe I would've stopped her from OD. I've been to a psychiatrist about this, but nothing seems to be working. What should I do?? Thanks for any help in advance! (sorry its so long) (link)
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Honey,
I want you to take a deep breath and say "None of this is my fault." I want you to believe this. Your mother sounded like an extremely depressed woman and no matter where you were, she would have the same fate. You definitely should speak to someone to sort out your feelings and try to work on them. I am very sorry this occured, but you can work through this. Maybe they can put you temporarily on some anti-depressants for the time being (e.g zoloft...prozac...effexor) Please talk to me or write me back any time you need any help.
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16/f.... this may be a stupid question, but what are those people called that you talk to about your problems and you tell them everything and then they give you advice and everything is confidential. They do it for a living. Nothing SERIOUS is going on in my life (ex. I'm not pregnant, I don't go drugs, I'm not a lesbian, etc.), but I feel like I can't talk to my parents (about guys or whatever) I never have and I probably never will. I'm an only child and I've been the center of their lives for 16 years and I hate it. I always have...I wish I can share the spotlight with someone, but thats not going to happen. Sometimes I wish they didn't care about me AS MUCH as they do. I feel like I need to go see one of those people because I've kept so much inside of me all my life and now I think I need to deal with a professional who can help me. And I'm afraid of a lot of things (I always have visions of disturbing things in my head, but thats a different story). How can I tell my parents I need one of those people without hurting them? (link)
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You should go talk to a social worker or someone in that field. Go talk to your guidance counselor for a recommendation.
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Okay how long should u wait for a guy who says he isn't ready for a relationship because he's busy? he says he likes me! (link)
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It is all up to you. Try to become better friends with him and give him a chance to come to you. Hopefully when he is ready, he will tell you and you both can work things out. Beware though, by procrastinating he may just be leading you on. Make sure that you don't fall into the trap of being someone who will always be there. If you do, you will be taken for granted.
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I know I'm in love but I don't know if my parents will except it they think we should be 15 before we date but I don't want to wait til I'm 15 to date the guy I love cuz I don't want him to go out with any one else before the 9th grade in June...What should I do obey my parents or do what's right?
-Jasmine (link)
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Jasmine,
Try to sit down with your parents and find a middle ground. If you act like a mature person, they are more likely to treat you as one. Just have a nice discussion and express your feelings for this person to them. Hopefully they will appreciate your being open with them and hear you out.
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I'm loosing it! 28yrs, recently married 3 months ago. Let's just say it hasn't been a bed of roses.
1st there's my stepson. 8yrs. Has grown up mostly alone with just his Dad. Spoilt brat! So I'm working day by day to be the stepmother, but in his eyes it's just EVIL STEPMOTHER. He is very rude, spiteful, headstrong, and most of the time does what he pleases if I don't put my foot down.
Now ontop of that I'm dealing with my husband (29yrs) who recently discovered he suffers from Panic/stress/anxiety attacks and hypertension. He moans evryday about how ill he feels, and I have to remain quiet & supportive. When I try to speak to him about anything, from his son, to his "condition" he tells me I am making it worse! He uses his stressful job and the stress of life as an excuse. I love him dearly & I am trying very hard to cope with his son, and him. I have suggested we take his son to a Therapist & that he see another Dr, for a 2nd opinion on his health, or even a Therapist to help him cope with every day stresses. He freaked out! Today, I lost it, and told him to get over himself, and that he should realise that he's not the only one dealing with stress. It's not the first time I've lost my cool either. We've been fighting alot recently because of everything going on. I really don't know what else to do. He and my stepson are driving me to the edge. I'm trying so hard to be strong, cause my husband's not well. But having to deal with this moaning evry day and my stepson are now taking it's toll. To top it off, my husband wants us to start trying for a baby, I desperatly want to too, but then I;m thinking "An ill husband, a terror of a stepson and a newborn baby? NO WAY!"
As much as I love him, and I want to be a good stepmother to his son, I feel as if I just want to run away because I can't handle all of this anymore. (link)
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Anxiety disorders are serious buisness. They cannot just be "gotten over." It is not cut and dry like that. You should not be belittling his condition. He already has enough on his plate and he sounds like he is on edge too.
Is it possible that you weren't ready for marriage? Weren't to oready to love someone for their faults? Maybe he is not ready to go to a therapist. He needs to go when he is ready, not when his wife pushes him to. These things can not just become invisible and pressure DOES MAKE IT WORSE.
As for the 8 year old, you are complaining? You should have realized it wouldn't all be some fairy tale. It is hard for children to have to face a new person in their parent's lives. Did you realize that if you have another kid it is not all going to be easy. LIFE ISN'T EASY- WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE.
Honestly, you would think that someone who was in love would be able to support their husband in a dire time of need. That family just might not be the right one to be a part of for you.
I'd look into therapy myself. What you have is what we like to call "a self pitying disorder".
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