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im scared
so i have a boyfriend for over 5 months and i kind of want to break up with him because i want to be single but im scared because i know his family and like im afraid they will hate me and im scared because all my friends think that we are like THE CUTEST COUPLEand stuff but im scared cuz like i think that i will miss him.. but i really want to be single and just have fun im not ready for a major commitment so i dont know what to do help me please and if i do break it off with him what should i say??..... should i write him a note?? i dont know help me please
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hey u should really think about this first you have to think about every aspect and if you really will miss him and i kno what your going through because all my friends are comitment phobic and they always do this and when you kno everything that will happen then make your dicision and dont let your friends tell you that you guys are a cute couple you might be its just if you arent happy then you should break it off before it gets too serious
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Listen you have to decide what you want and stick to it, otherwise your image will suffer. People won’t respect you. You have to be honest with others but also with your self. Why do you want to be single? Is it a good enough reason to dump some one? You can’t have everything. Once you’re single again you’ll miss having your boyfriend, guaranty it. Will you miss it more than being single? Also think about the longest you have been in a relationship and why it ended. Are you usually the one to end a relationship?
A lot of times people get in the habit of finding someone they like (not really getting to know them) and going out with them. Soon after thought you realize that you’re not compatible or that you weren’t ready to be in a relationship in the first place. What does this do? It results in a bad habit. The fact is we like guys because they make us happy, since we are so emotional that is a big thing. The problem comes in when we can’t find ONE to make us happy. Some how we get it stuck in our heads that the more we have the better. We find a boy, it doesn’t work, and we find another, than another ect. Not only do you get yourself a bad reputation but it is so hard to brake the cycle. You may be thinking what does this have to do with my situation. Well if you decide to be single you can’t decide a week or to into it that you want your boy back. My rule is stick with something for 6 months. I know that may sound like a long time but really its not. Every thing has its tough times. I say stay with him a little longer and if it doesn’t work he will understand. Next time be sure you are ready for a commitment.
Sorry this was so long and I hope it helped.
hannah
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there's nothing wrong with wanting to be single! but you should think really hard about this, because some day soon you are going to want someone that will be there for you and who will care about you like he did. there's nothing better than that! if i were you, i would stay with him, maybe it would be worth it? but if you really aren't ready for a major commitment, then go ahead and end it. don't write him a note though, just tell him in person! it's truly the right way to break up with people! if you tell him by note, phone, whatever, then he will feel like he meant nothing to you.
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You need to be flat out with him, you can't say that you don't want a serious relationship, because you blew that about 4 months ago. Just go upto him, pull him aside, and talk to him. Tell him how you're feeling, you just want to be single, you need a break, you have a lot going on, etc. Just think about number 1, yourself. As long as your happy, it doesn't really matter what your friends think, they will get over it. You probably will miss him, but you will probably get over it pretty fast. Tell him that you feel like you made a mistake by making such a big committment with him, and you don't want either of you to get hurt. He should understand. Hope I helped. Good luck! -Angel
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First of all, don't be scared. Breaking up with a guy should never be scary, unless he's a member of the mob, but I doubt you have to worry about that. On to your question, if you don't want to be with the guy, you need to get out! There is no reason to be with a guy you don't want to be with, not because your friends think it's cute, not because his parents like you. So yes, you should end it. I would suggest talking to him face to face. If you are honest and he cares about you at all, he should be fine. And if he doesn't care for you, then you have an even better reason to get out.
Hope I've helped, Redlion.
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People will look down on you more if you are not honest. Never stay in a relationship for the sake of other people. If you break it to him gently and genuinely, then people have no reason to discriminate against you. If anything, they should respect you for you honesty and tell you that you did the right thing. It is not fair to stay in a relationship you are not happy in for the sake of both you and the other person. It is not right to lead people on. I would just write him a note or tell him face to face.
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