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Q: im 14 female and theres this guy i have a crush on ive never said any thing to him thought i want to talk to him but he is really shy and he dosnt really talk to any one he dosnt know what should i do? i dont want to make it obvious either

Hey.
Well, what you need to do is start to become friends, and talk and stuff. get his screenname if he has one or if you have one. Just start talking n' become friends. then maybe kinda show him you really like him, maybe he will understand. Oh and if you to start dating n stuff, here's a tip : DONT LET HIM GO. no matter what. because you'll end up regreting everything. and that totally sucks. (i've been there, and im still upset too)

=] [ &iheartsyou; ] -ash

Q: ok well theres this guy that im sorta goin out with...his names daniel. He asked me out in november, but then he got grounded and I havent talked to him in like 3 months. So i considered us broken up. I started liking this other guy, steffon, and yesterday my friend told him that she knew who liked him (i asked her to) but she didnt say my name...I went online after school and i got an email from my friend, saying that daniel wanted to take me to my schools valentines day dance. I feel awful now, becuase I dont know what to do. Either way, someones gonna end up getting hurt, but Im not sure who I should go with. I like daniel a lot, but im afraid that if we officaly start dating again hes gonna do the same thing. Please help me! ♥Danielle

sorry its so long

Hey. i think that he only wanted you when he had nowhere else to go or someone to turn to. i think you need to just follow your heart. if he likes you alot, and your willing to give another chance, go for it. but if things just arent in the right place and stuff like your upset, let it go. If he really needs you and he shows how much he does, and this kidd you really like. take chances. you'll know whats right. =]

=] [ &iheartsyou; ] -Ash

Q: I'mm stuck in the middle of my two friends... they always get in fights and its extremely annoying...i m better friends with one then the other, but i dont wanna take sides... wat do i do to stop this?

thx.
annoyed & in the middle

They shouldnt be saying that its because of you or w/e...if they wanna fight let em fight but you don't need to be in it..if it is something really stupid just drop it...no need for anyone to take sides...xOox

Q: I like 2 guys and i dont know what to do because i dont know which one i like more! what should i do?

I have gotten there before and they liked me back and i didnt know what to do well soon to find out the other one was really mean and a fake so i got the other guy What i am saying is you have to Trust which is for you which guys would hold your hand in font of his friends? know something really stupid about You but love you for who You are? Take you to the best place in the world and have dirty chothes on i am saying choose the lucky guy if its hard wait until they say something to You should know thats how i got my guy i love him i had to choose between two guys and the other one didnt like me so i kinda got him lol
...*Always ask me*...

Q: my good friend, ill call her jenny, has this boyfriend, ill call him scott, and they were going out for about 6 months. Jenny told scott she was not loving him as much and Scott broke up with her. Jenny was so upset and wouldnt stop crying. They got back together and a few times he has made her cry again. I tell her to dump him now before she gets hurt agian but she says "i thought if i was happy, you would be happy for me, but i guess thats too much to ask" so i tell her "i want to see you happy and every time he makes you cry, your not happy and you just need to end it with him" she wont though and im afraid of how something bad happened to her. The first time they broke up she wouldnt eat for about 4 days and she got a bad rash all over her body. HELP!!

its not ur fault! i mean if she didnt want to get hurt so would drop him...but if she is being that way that is her fault! and plus..friends like that would have ssaid something and at least drop the guy...its to her if she wants to be happy or not...all i am saying is..let her make her own choisces...because one day shell learn!
--Hope i helped--

Q: one of my best friends is changing and she asked me for the truth so i told her so now she is all pissed at me when she was the one who asked me that and rite now i cant stand her i need so much help pleaaaaase help me

I think she has no right being mad at you! because she was the one who asked not u...and if she really wanted to know the truth she wouldnt have gotten mad at u...its her fault that she is mad at u...u just need to talk to her...and if she dont talk to u then u have no right to talk to her back...wait till she comes to u!!
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Q: i have a friend lauren and we got in a fight the other day and we made up that night. we discussed our issues and stuff but my main one was that i dont trust her and her i. and we said we would work on that but i cant shake the feeling that she is hiding something from me and that she secretly doesnt want to trust me or just cant should i confront her on this or should i just lay low and wait for time to pass?

Talk to Her! because if u wait so might not even care at that point! just taalk to her! that is what i do. If i need to talk to my BFF i do and if she laughs at it then that is her choise not mine. TALK TO HER!
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Q: my friend who has been ma m8 mate since nursery, but every few years she changes best friends now she goes out wif other m8s who r ma m8s aswell wif out teling me and i really feel left out. CAN ANY1 HELP ME PLZ PLZ

u should have a talk with your best friend or w/e...maybe it is because u two are are in differnt styles like in friends wise...if u really want it to be as BFF talk to your BFF...BFF's should always tell each other things...no matter what it is!
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Q: Ok there is this guy that i really like. He asked me out but my mom said i was to young to go out with anyone. I think he still likes me and i know i still like him. But the problem is he keeps saying things like i like you and your hott to me but then he goes off and asks out like 3 other girls. I really want him to just like me and not just like me because he needs a girlfriend and i was his first try. What should i do?
P.S. Thanks ahead of time!

Wel...maybe u should have some friends go up to him and be like "she really likes you and she wants you to like her more" just say stuff to him and maybe he will get the point like"hey this girl really likes me wow!" and just wait until he ask you...i know... and hopefuly he will like you..!! hope i helped you out!
xOx

Q: does anyone know of any good s/n ideas. i'm looking for a new screenanme and i was wondering if people could just give some random ones. i asked beofre but people only gave ideas like "pick something that is your fave and some of your numbers before and after it".... well that didnt help to much. so please and thanks.

Well i say like hottestlover or like cutiepatudie or like USACUTEIE! somthing that u like...i love dogs so mine could br like Doglover4lyfe or somthing u can IM me and ask me for more i will help ya some more!
xOx

Q: ok, my friend, lets call her jane is going out with this guy, lets call him joe. i like joe, joe likes me. jane found out but she didnt have a problem with it. i was home sick from school today and even before today, everyone was telling me that joe was going to dump jane for me. if he really does ask me out and all, should i say yes or what because i am so confused and caught in the middle and i feel really bad cuz i think that i'm the cause of them breaking up. help! n thx ahead of time

You should talk to Joe. But it was okay with jane so why would it matter. i mean she said it was but if u feel really part of being low in this u need to talk to him. My friend is the same way. But al long as she understand and Joe Does okay with it then it shouldnt be a problem. Luv yiz

Q: my friend is having her birthday party tonight, she invited a few of my other friends that arent really friends with her, but this girl didnt invite me and we are really good friends and it kind of makes me jelous of my other friends and a little mad at this girl... what should i do to feel better??

Well i say just like forget it. Cause one of these days she well soon to find out that she had asked u to the party and prolly had a better time. Dont worry i know its tough but ya gotta understand it too. Well i say just kinda ask her/him about it and she what she says. Hope i helped
Ash

Q: My friends popular friends don't like me much, so they told her I said I didn't like her. She believed it and now won't talk to me and I was supposed to go to a dance tonight but now am all depressed in my room. Also she's my one and only best friend. What should I do?

I see yur point! i have friends like that...what i do is not talk to them back and wait to have them come up to u...they are not talking to u so dont talk to them unless they come up to u and say stuff like sorry or whatever...i waited for like 3 days without my best friend talking to me and then she came up to me and said she was sorry. Well hope i helped x3 ash*

Q: i have a good guy friend that i hook up with a lot. i really like him and ive been thinking about having sex with him for a while. im not sure if he'll think im easy because were not actually together. should i just do it or wait to see if we go out?

I say dont do it. Because ppl will say stuff that is not true and u'll get mad so i would wait tell u go out with him...If he says anything first then tell him. But dont do it like now when your friends cause then he or somone will amke jokes and stuff about it so jus choose what is best for you. Hope i helped..x3 Ashley

Q: ok... i was at my friends house and we were just watching TV you know.. just hanging out...well we were like extra bored so we sat on her bed askin each other stupid questions..like what have you donse wiht a boy.. or girl or w/e but i noticed she keeped on asking questions bout girls like... would you ever make out with a girl.. stuff like that... well after that we were jus looking at each other for some reson and she kissed me.. then we stared making out and doing some other things.. but the problem is..if you didnt already know im a girl...i dont know what to do i cant look at her the same but she acts like nothin happend..dose this make me a lesibean?? i dont think i liked it but thenagina im confused right now.. what do you think?? sorry its so long btw
-Crystal

Wow...well that doesnt make you a lesbian if you did it back to her..well maybe talk to your friend ask her some questions about it. my Friend kinda did the same thing yeah but not to me i was over at her house and she wanted a therre sum or whatever..but if u ask her questions on it maybe she says like yeah or Whatever but now if you did it back to her then talk about it with her...if she tells there will be a huge story on it so hope she dont tell...ask her if she is a lesbo or whatevea just see what she says! And thanks for asking me a question i love to here from you again!
Ashley

Q: Okay. I used to go to private skool 2 years ago. Me and this guy really liked eachother and we went to the skool dance together. I now go to public skool and I like this guy. The guy from private skool sent me an email today saying that he truly likes me. But
I think the guy from the public skool likes me too. Which one should I choose?

Well i say choose who you like more..i know u might like em both but i say choose the one that your heart will take! dont mix and match and play the "which" game...i know i have done it too! but as long as you follow your heart you will know....xOx

Q: I have this friend and i always tell her who i like and she talks to him about me, like not in a bad way but in a good way, but every person i like they end up likeing her! what do i do!?

Maybe you need to just tell him yourself. i can understand why u want your friend to talk to him.. but maybe she can tell him something way different about her. ya know? or just tell him that you really like he and just ask the Q maybe he will get the point! hope i helped ya!
xOx

Q: ok so my best friend amanda is making sooo many wrong choices, she just barely turned 15 and shes been doing weed and drinking and having sex, ive been telling her to stop doin that stuff but she just doesnt listen, she knows its wrong but she is striving for the attention, can you guys please help im soo desperate for help right know i dont know what to do, i rate high!! thanx

i have a friend just like that. all i do is tell her it wrong and i just talk to her when she is bust talking to her boyfriend. I dont care what she says i tell her and she gets mad at me. that is her fault if she is gonna ruin her life like that, but as a friend it is a great thing to talk to your friend and tell her its not right! Hope i Helped ya xOx

Q: I just moved to this new school. The problem is I still like this other boy from my old school. i know i may never see him again... but i still like him and i'm the only one who knows it. What should i do?

Move on. i know its hard to do that but i knwo there are other HOTT fish in the sea..LOL but try and see if there is more guys you like. I still like this guy and i havent seen in in a year but i am over him. so i just move on with life. Hope i helpd ya. XoXo

Q: what are some really good websites for jewelery i want to get my boyfriend I nice.. but yet sort of cheap ring but still very nice. Its the thought that counts but im low on cash. so spare me but please help

You should get him one og those cool hip neckleces that boys always wear..like the one that are very shiney...Try like ebay.com or somthing i know u can bid on them for money...and how much u want!
Ashley

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