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I heard that if you smear toothpaste onto orange peels and let it sit in the sunlight for 1-2 weeks, it will produce a juice that, if you drink it, will make you have an acid-like trip. Is this true? (NOT going to try it though drugs are stupid) The people who told how to do it say it works. I'm just curious. Does it?

New spin on an old rumor. No, this doesn't work. For the original "fruit high", google "bananadine", and before you ask, that doesn't work either, regardless of what moron says it does.

The only "high"s you're going to find in your grocery store are from nutmeg (Not good for you at all, mrysticin and safrole play hell with your system) and kava (A member of the pepper family. Again, don't try it).

Anything else is a lie and a falsehood. As always DON'T TRY IT.

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Okay, so I'm doing a double entry journal for my English class for next year. If you don't know what that is, it's basicaly a journal in two columns: First would be a fact, second would be reaction/response.
Thing is, I got done so early, so I'd like to type it. I just can't remember exactly how to do two columns on Microsoft Works Word Processor where I can actually write on the two sides.
Anyone care to explain how to do this? Haha.

Thanks!

Microsoft Works or Microsoft Word?

In Word, under the Format menu there is an option for columns, under which you could choose to create any number of columns up to 12 and put a line in between.

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i love her song merry happy.
it's upbeat, she has a pretty voice, and the lyrics are fun and easy to remember.

can someone name more songs like this?
but nothing else by her? i have hers. thanks.

I'm personally a fan of Lily Allen. Besides the songs Laura suggested, try "Everythings Just Wonderful". She also does a fantastic and fairly upbeat cover of "Oh My God", orginally by the Kaiser Chiefs.

If you're willing to give on the upbeat requirement, "Shame For You", "Friday Night", and "Chyrl Tweedy" are also great songs, if a bit more serrious.

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I don't understand Stickam.com at ALL. I mean, you just watch people sitting there staring at their computer screen? Do they know they're being watch? What the heckkkkkk...?

Stickam.com is primarily used as video-chat. People (almost always) know they're being watched, and are (usually, but not always) watching those who watch them.

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Sorry if this is going to be really long but I have a feeling someone out there might be able to help :]. O.k. so I'm 16/f and I've been looking for a summer job for quite some time now. I've applied to about 15 places but no ones called me back :[. Recently, about 2 days ago I applied to two places that seemed really promising, places that wouldn't just throw my application in a pile, this is because they were hiring which definitely helps. I haven't heard back from them yet but yesterday someone finally called me back and asked to set up an interview! Unfortunately this was my last choice, seriously out of every job this was the last one I'd chose but I agreed to the interview. I figured I'd be stupid to pass up the only place that actually called me. I have an interview today in about two hours but I'm afraid if I accept the job the other two places that seemed promising might call and I'll be stuck somewhere I really didn't want to be. I mean I'd feel too guilty quitting for a better offer, that's terrible. But I'll also feel stupid if I don't accept this job because what if the other two places never call. I guess my question is, does anyone have any ideas as to any of this? I probably sound so ignorant but I'm honestly in quite a pickle and help would be much appreciated.

Go to the interview. If the other places don't call you (And they probably won't. only one out of fifteen places has so far). Some places take more than one interview before they actually hire. If that's your case, then you have a little more time to wait on the other two offers.

If not, the last question usually asked at an interview if you're hired is "When can you start?". You can give yourself another few weeks if you give yourself more time between the interview and actually beginning work, which gives you more time to back out if you get a better offer.

Lastly, there's always the chance the interview might not go well and you might not get hired, so don't worry about this too much.

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I don't even know where to begin. I'm 15/f, and I'm so alone, and so lonely all at once. I don't go out at all, not even to my front porch, and I'm always locked in my room. The last time I went out was probably two or three days ago, and that was with my mom to the supermarket, and because she forced me. I have no one to talk to, and I really don't blame them. No one wants to be bothered with other people's problems when they already have to deal with their own. I've lost all my friends to more interesting things. There's not really any clubs or activities around where I live, and even if there were, it's not like I'm motivated to do anything. I put on a different face for people, a confident, conceited side of me, but lately, I don't even care much about personal hygiene. The last time I went out with my friends was about 2 weeks ago, and I deadred every moment of it. I'm completely terrified by the thought of having to meet new people, in new places, and of doing different things. I literally don't belong anywhere, because I'm not normal like everyone else. I don't know how I came to be this way, or why. I take zoloft, and I go to therapy; whenever I feel like it of course. The worst thing is, I don't want to be like this, but at the same time, I don't want it to change. I don't want to be shy, and I actually want to have a boyfriend, but I find reading a book in my room a lot more comforting and safer. I hate that I feel better when I'm secluded, instead of being at a party, or even the mall. Thinking about the future and actually having to get out of here and socializing with people makes me just want to kill myself. I used to keep a journal before I got on my meds, and at first it seemed like I was improving, but now it feels worse. I'm suicidal again and I feel trapped, alone, and worthless. There's this voice in my head that asks me everyday when I wake up,"why haven't you killed yourself yet?", and I daydream of how to kill myself in the most painful and cruel way possible. I don't want to be worse, but I don't feel like getting better either. I don't feel like doing any of this anymore, because it just doesn't seem worth it. I don't even know what I'm asking, or if I'm even asking for anything at all. I guess all I'm looking for is a little hope that there's something better, some way for me to GET better, and maybe just a little motivation. Thank you to any of those who bothered reading.

Firstly, get off the meds. If they were working for you, you would notice a day-and-night change, not this gradual "sort of better for a while" kind of effect. Go to your psychiatrist and ask to switch off of Zoloft, either on to something else or to some kind of non-medication sort of treatment.

Secondly, realize that your future is in your own hands. Nobody can make you change and be outgoing but yourself. Even with medication, there won't be any change if you don't want there to be. You sound like you're not sure what you want, so step one is to remedy that. Decide on what your expectations are from yourself, your therepy, and your future.

Everybody, even isolated people like yourself, has something that they enjoy doing. Find your hobby and run with it.

Not everyone is outgoing and friendly and talkative. If that isn't what you want to be, then that's okay! There are lots of activities, both as hobbys and as careers, that you can perform in solitude. Find something that makes you happy, and do it.

As for the suicide bit, all I can say is that it's a very permenant decision, and isn't something that should be taken lightly. Think very, very, very, very carefully about what you're going to do before you do it.

Lastly, consider going to therepy more frequently if you feel it's helping you, and if it isn't, consider finding a new therepist.



Or, alternatively, if you decide you'd prefer to stay the way you are, so be it. Like I said earlier, nobody can, or should, force you to change your ways if you don't want to.

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this isn't for computers this is actually for a ps2

on GTA:vice city,
what is the mission were after completing it you get to buy/enter the pole position club

thanks

The mission is called "Shakedown". It is accessable after you rescue Lance and after you complete "Rub Out".

"Shakedown" requires you do go to the Vice City mall and shoot out windows in certain stores. Since this mission builds your wanted level very quickly, it may be faster (and safer) in some cases to enter the store and have the cops shoot the windows out for you.

The reward for this mission is $2,000 cash and the ability to purchase all assets, include the Pole Position club.

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13/ f

this is for skaters. (((skateboarders)))

do you like it if a girl is a skater to (((not punk or goth or anything ))). or do you like prissier, preppier girls?

Although I'm not a "skater", and I'm not at an age where I have an opinion on the styles 13/fs choose, I have to comment on the futility of your question. It's pointless to ask any kind of "What do guys like" questions. You can ask 50 different guys and get 50 different answers.

Instead, if you're interested in a guy, and you're okay with selling out part of your identity to attract him (I'm assuming you are, since you asked this question), my advice to you is to ask him what he thinks, instead of asking the internet.

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I'm going to get straight to the point!
I can't stick with a diet..
this last time has been my best attempt.
But I cant seem to tell a difference.
Now, starting off I'm going to be dedicated.
No sweets, what so ever.

So heres my plans.
& the question is, what other activities can I do, or foods I can eat, or Remedys, that will help me lose weight.

My Plans:
Drinking nothing but water.[plain water]
Not eating past 6; [my mom usually dont get home from work until 7 or 8 so I'll have to fix my own food.
When I do eat after six, nothing but fruits & veggies.

My PLANS [activity wise]:
Running/Jogging/walking..whatever my mood is.
Running-1 mile.
Jogging Mile & 1/2
Walking 2 miles.

Anything else?

Not eating past 6 isn't that great of an idea if you're going to be hungry when you wake up and eat a big breakfast. It's better to have several small meals during the day than a few big ones. Try to eat a small snack every 3-4 hours, even after 6.

Also, bear in mind that walking a mile and running a mile burns the same amount of calories. The only difference is the strain of your cardiovascular system. If you run 1 mile, you're burning half the calories you would if you walked two miles.

To keep yourself motivated, reward yourself after sticking to your regiment. Indulge a bit, but just a little. Have a peice of chocolate or something. The positive effect on your morale combined with the sense of accomplishment will outweigh the "negative" effects on your weight.

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if your not an american citizen can you get a permit in america and learn to drive on holidays? if so at what age?

If you're not an American citzen, you can get a learners permit and even a drivers licence and learn to drive whenever, so long as you have a licenced driver over 25 in the car with you if all you have is your permit.

I believe it may be higher in some districts, but the age is typically 16 to get a permit, and six months after your permit (Or turning 18, whichever comes first) to get your license.

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what are some things that i can say to my mom to tell her that i have started my period?

"Mom, I have started my period."

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hi me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 and a half months im 19 and so is he when we first starting dating it was great he called me every night he texted me all the time and we always had fun together now he rarely calls or texts if he does call its around midnight and if i call him he is always with his friends and either says i cant talk right now or he talks to them the whole time while i am on the phone listeneing and sometimes he calls me when he is with the friends and i just have to listen to him talk to them and now we are always fighting he never invites me to do anything with him and his friends anymore either he awways teels me wat hes doing as hes doing it doesnt even invite me and his friends are over every night and he says he didnt invite them that they have a key and he doesnt even wanna b there with them we never really go out anymore we just sit at home and watch tv he says he is always romantic but i cant even remember the last time he was, we only see each other like 1 a week, we both really love each other but then sometimes he can be really sweet, i just dont know wat to do wat should i do to save our relationship

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543428

Asking the same question twice won't yield you a different answer. Since all you bothered to do was copy/paste, I'll do the same:


hi well sometimes people change the problem might be him but the problem might also be you too try to rexamine your expectations of your relationship and his expectations and try to come to an agreement on what you guys should be doing and how often fights are common after the honeymoon stage and should be considered normal unless they happen very frequently and/or are very serious if you can't agree on a set of expectations it might be best to break it off since neither of you are happy as things stand hope I helped.



How did this manage to become featured question, anyway?

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ever since i got my braces off (three years ago) my jaw kinda pops sometimes.

that mostly stopped for a while, but recently i've been expieriencing a LOT of soreness on the left side; it feels like a bruise and i can't open my mouth all the way.

it's not my teeth, i suspected it might be a cavity but i got checked and it turns out i don't have any.

any way i can make the pain stop?
what might have caused this?

thanks!

I experienced the same thing after I got my braces off. I didn't really know what it was or what was causing it. At that age, I didn't even think to draw the connection between the braces and my jaw.

The soreness stopped stopped after a month or two, and never came back. I just sort of waited it out. Given enough time, I'm sure yours will stop too.

Sorry I couldn't help more.

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i have been prescribed to take 30 mgs Adderall XR (slow release) once a day.

after a while of taking it i discovered that i was becoming lightheaded every time i stood up, seeing stars, blacking out a little bit, having to hold on to something for a few seconds until i felt okay again.

it really worried me so i told my psychiatrist. she said it was probably the medication and that i should just be more careful when i stood up, not to worry about it. even a while after that it was still happening and really freaking me out.

on my own i decided to take 20 mg of regular Adderall (not the slow release) once a day, and the lightheadedness stopped almost immediately.
i haven't noticed any other weird side effects like that.

...did i do the right thing? will my psychiatrist be upset? is there something else i should do?thank you very much..

This question was fine up until "on my own i decided to take...". You should NEVER "decide" to take medication on your own. I don't know much about Adderall or Adderall XR, but I do know that modern pharmaceuticals are not to be taken lightly.

Did you do the right thing? For now, it seems like you got lucky, but only time will tell.
Will your psychiatrist be upset? Probably.
Is there something else you should do? Talk to your psychiatrist about switching medication (This time, with her consent). Even if she insists that this is nothing to be worried about, you have a right to any alternatives that might work better for you. If she refuses, you also have the right to switch psychiatrists.

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am hurt my bf just broke up with me becaused i put my h girl to talk to him he said this was no game i cry to him begg him but i dk what else to do he keeps textin me how does it feels i really love him but what should i do

Any given relationship has two or more people in it, and as such can't be controled by one person alone.

For you, this means that if your (ex) boyfriend wants to break up with you, it's his choice and his right to do so, and there's nothing you can (or should) do to stop him. Even if you could, it would be a terrible idea to do so. Imagine being stuck in a relationship you don't want. It would be terrible!

He has made it clear that his decision is final. Pack up your emotional baggage and move on.

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hi from 17 yrs old i started masterbution now i m 27 yrs guy next month is my marriage but now a day i feel that my penis is not awaking it is loose & fell sperm in a min. please help me out

Please don't lie about your age. Advicenators hate being lied to.

Not even an ungodly amount of masterbation would result in any of the problems you're having now. If you do have some sort of penis-problem like the one you're describing, masterbation is NOT the cause. If you're THAT worried about it, see a doctor.

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I’m a 50 years-old man and I addicted a lot of sexual relations and dating with very beautiful ladies .I decided recently to quite this unsatisfied behavior .I have stopped dating women for four months so far and I want to continue for more one year .Can you help my with some advice how I can be strong against the temptation of women especially that I’m single.

Firstly, don't lie about your age. Advicenators do not like being lied to.

Secondly, your addiction, like all addictions, is fundamentally a matter of will. Although there are little tricks you can use to help yourself (Which I'll get into later), ultimately it comes down to how badly you want to quit this behavior and how much effort you're willing to put into conquering yourself.

Now, should you find yourself needing a bit of help along the way, try neo-pavlovian conditioning. What that means is, reward yourself every time you do a behavior you strive for (In this case, not having sex), and punish yourself every time you give in. The rewards and punishments don't have to be big, just little bits of encouragement and discouragement. The main driving force is still your willpower.

If you find it hard to not cheat your own system, have someone else administrate the rewards and punishments for you. Addictions are easier to overcome with the support of loved ones anyway.

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I'm 18. Should I go out with a 26 year old guy?

I have no where near enough information to say if you should go out with this guy or not--All I know about him is his age. However, his age by itself is no reason NOT to go out with him, so there you go.

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my boyfriend and i can be pretty romantic. we want to go out to dinner at a nice resturant. theres a problem, hes allergic to fish. just smelling fish makes his throat close up. he cant eat peppers or onions because he has ulcers.. and we live in washington. where the main food group is sea food. we have tried mexcian, itlian, chinese, thai.. they all have served seafood. what kind of food does not have seafood in it?? i have called every resturant intown asking if they have seafood before. i need help thinking of atleast a type of food that wouldnt serve seafood. any help thanks tons

Unfortunately, there isn't really any "group" of resturants that doesn't serve seafood. My advice to you is to either eat at home (Which has the potential to be just as romatic, if not more so, as eating out), or consider attending a very upscale resturant, where you're more likely to have special instructions pertaining to allergies followed--but chances are you'll be paying more.

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17/f
I'm traveling by myself for the first time in about a week, taking an airplane to New Jersey. I've been going there every summer since I was little, but never by myself, and to be honest, I never really paid attention. So, this is gonna sound dumb, but...

- What's the order of things that I do (check in, security, etc- where do I go?)

- Any other tips, I'm kind of nervous that I'm gonna get lost or miss my flight or something

It's United, if that makes a difference.

First, you check in. This is the stage where you get your boarding pass, which you'll need to actually get past the security checkpoint(s) and on to your plane. I don't know if United offers it, but ExpressJet (Whom I fly with twice a week) let you check in online and print out your boarding pass. On a small side note, if you see a small "SSS" printed somewhere on your boarding pass, expect to be pulled aside during security for additional inspection. Don't be nervous, the system is supposedly random.

After that, there is usually a small checkpoint where the verify your boarding pass against an ID like a drivers licence, to make sure you really are the person who is buying the ticket.

After this comes security. Make sure you don't have any kind of makeup or hairgel or anything similar in your carry-on luggage, since it'll get confiscated and/or thrown out. Obviously leave any knives, guns, or bombs you have at home. Plan your wardrobe carefully; I usually wear a studded belt and I have to take it off every time I go through the metal detector, and you will be expected to take your shoes off at security. Speaking of which, try not to carry too much spare change or other junk going in. You'll be asked to present your boarding pass again, and if you have a small "SSS" printed on it, you'll be pulled aside for additional screening.

After this, you should go to the gate printed on your boarding pass. Chances are, unless you were delayed for a while someplace or you left late, you should be fairly early and your plane won't be boarding yet. If that's the case, feel free to wander around for a bit. I don't know where you're flying out of, but most airports will have a few resturants or some fast food and maybe a bookstore or two. Be sure NOT to go back outside of security! It's very important that you don't, since you'll have to go through the entire process all over again, and chances are they won't let you back in.

As a general rule of thumb, any given plane begins boarding about half an hour before it actually takes off, and you're going to want to give yourself a little extra time in case you hit traffic going to the airport or something, so try to aim for being 45 minutes to an hour early.


Most important of all, relax. You'll be fine, your flight will go as planned, and you'll have a great time.

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