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Help a 50 years old singl man to stop dating for one Year?
I’m a 50 years-old man and I addicted a lot of sexual relations and dating with very beautiful ladies .I decided recently to quite this unsatisfied behavior .I have stopped dating women for four months so far and I want to continue for more one year .Can you help my with some advice how I can be strong against the temptation of women especially that I’m single.
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Firstly, don't lie about your age. Advicenators do not like being lied to.
Secondly, your addiction, like all addictions, is fundamentally a matter of will. Although there are little tricks you can use to help yourself (Which I'll get into later), ultimately it comes down to how badly you want to quit this behavior and how much effort you're willing to put into conquering yourself.
Now, should you find yourself needing a bit of help along the way, try neo-pavlovian conditioning. What that means is, reward yourself every time you do a behavior you strive for (In this case, not having sex), and punish yourself every time you give in. The rewards and punishments don't have to be big, just little bits of encouragement and discouragement. The main driving force is still your willpower.
If you find it hard to not cheat your own system, have someone else administrate the rewards and punishments for you. Addictions are easier to overcome with the support of loved ones anyway.
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Get a hobby. Seriously. Do something you enjoy or try out new things. Spend time with friends and family if you have them and go places together.
The key is to keep yourself and your mind occupied, so you won't think about it.
4 months is a great start and hopefully it'll get easier as time goes on.
Keep strong.
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It's good that your determined and have already gone 4 months. Congrats! :) My advice is to maybe get some interesting hobbies or make some new friends. For every let's say month you go treat yourself to a fun day - buy yourself something nice or go out to eat with a frriend or on your own. Good luck.
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