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Okay im 13 and every since i was like 7 to now. My grandmother and mother always wanted me to be something that i not wanted to be. They always wanted me to be a girly girl. I am a girl. I just don't like to wear skirts and i have a good reasons why i don't. Everytime we go to a clothing store. Here they go this pink shirt is cute. I say i don't llike pink. I love purple. Here they go what type of girl don't like pink. Every girl love pink. Everybody how do i get them off my back and how do i explain them that im not girly girl. Please help. (link)
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Well that's a little weird. I think the best thing to do is just talk to them and tell them that you just don't like pink and you don't like skirts.
I don't think they realize that you can still look like a girl and look pretty without skirts and wearing pink. I mean purple is a beautiful color too.
So just talk to them. You can't really make them stop but it's worth another try.
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I think this guy that works at Starbucks is just so gorgeous, and I want to talk to him when I see him again, and I'm just so shy when it comes to guys that I think are cute.
how can I get over this, and be more confident and not so shy? (link)
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You should start slow. Start with smiling, then saying hi, and eventually you'll be able to have a short conversation.
If you keep working at it, you'll become more comfortable with it.
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F. 16.
I recently got in to a relationship, 3 months after I split from my ex of 6 months. I fell in deeply emotionally with my ex boyfriend. Cut the story straight, I don't see or speak to my ex and I don't have a problem. He still crosses my mind everyday everyday the tine, but when I see him, I get quite upset. Every time he sends me a message, my hearts beat really fast, not through excitement though. He sent me a message, telling me he missed me and he asked if I still cared. It made me become so hot, like a hot flush and I started crying. He didn't want to know me before, when we were together, we didn't quite work out. It was his emotions, it was like he was emotionally unavailable. Anyway, I really do like my boyfriend at the minute, he makes me laugh, smile and he brings out the best in me. I do genuinely like him, my friends say he may be a rebound, but I know myself that he isn't. I go to bed thinking about him, he's my first thought in the morning and even when my mind is really busy, I still think of him. So, what is this? Why do I feel the way I do about my ex boyfriend, am I not totally over him? Sticky situation. (link)
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This really is a sticky situation.
You'll know if you're not over someone. I'm guessing since you're asking if you're not over him, you're not over him. Don't message him anymore, don't talk to him. You will not get over someone if you keep getting messages from him.
You have a guy who treats you right, correct? But if you're not happy and you're not over your ex, it's not fair for him.
You need more time to move on.
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I'm staring off with the fact that I'm a female and 16 years old. OK, so me and my boyfriend who I love very much were kind of in an argument. He said he was going to go have sex with other b******, he then said he was playing around. I took it seriously, I was really upset, and still am now. I don't know if I should still be with him. He told me that he was really sorry and he didn't mean it. He felt really bad I noticed in his eyes. But anyways I haven't talked to him since this happened, I told him to just leave and go home. What should I do ? Should I forgive him ? Was it a little accident ? (link)
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I'm kinda back and forth on this. What kind of argument was it? Was it about anything sexual related or another girl? Or was it an argument over something silly that just escalated?
If it was about a girl or something sexual, you should probably second guess the relationship. If he said it out of anger or something, you can forgive him but you're going to have to talk to him about it. Make sure he knows never to say something like that because it's definitely not ok.
So talk this out with him, don't argue or fight about it. Just straight up tell him that it's not ok and work through it.
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I have a male friend (we'll call him Bob), and a female friend (we'll call her Jane)They are not really friends with each other/ don't know each other well. But Janes best friend went out with Bob for a while. Thier relationship was on and off. Now Bob is the kind of guy who goes out with a lot of girls (never at the same time though)
Recently Bob broke up with a girl. She said it was because he showed her his you know what on web cam... but he said she showed him her you know whats too... then he broke up with her becasue she lied to everyone and made him out to be a perv... I believed him.
But now, I found out from Jane that he had told her friend that they could work it out, and that they should have sex so they could feel closer... then he slept with her and ignored her for 2 weeks before saying it wouldn't work out. If this is true, then I know she is nieave, and he is a pig.
The thing is I don't know what to believe. Is my friend a pig, who took advanage of the girl, or is she just stirring things up???
-She told a lot of people but 'didn't want to make it a big thing'(even set it as her status on a social networking site)
-She asked me not to tell him she told me
-He has always seemed a very nice guy to me, a really good friend who I can trust
-Could the whole webcam story be true, and I just ignored it?
Who do I believe? My friend, or my friends best friend?
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It's really hard to give a straight answer with questions like these because we don't know the people or see how they act, but you do so you should make your best judgement.
This thing right now going on is just a bunch of drama. You shouldn't get too involved. This thing going on between them is between the two of them.
If this did happen with her, it makes sense to talk about it but not to spread it on a social networking site. That just causes unnecessary drama.
So eventually you'll find out who's lying and who's not but for now, don't get involved. If they start talking about it with you or something, just stay out of it.
Any of it could be true, just be careful or you could lose some friends over something that had nothing to do with you.
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I am 16. My bf is 19, we have been together for over 3 years. I love him very much, with all my heart. He has NEVER forced, pressured or even suggested we have sex, even though I've been 16 for over half a year. He always says, he is only ready when he is sure I am ready... but how will I know?
My mum is ok with it all, she really likes my bf, she says he treats me right. She has always said that when I am ready I will know, and as long as it is for love, and protected, she is ok with me having sex.
But how do I know? In my head it is like:
- I am scared (will it hurt? will I be good? what do I do? will i feel different after?)
- I am confused (we have done other stuff... I like the say it feels, i want to have sex)
- I am in love (I really do love him with all my heart)
But I seems to find excuses. Not excuses for other people, just excuses for me, in my own head. I don't want to regret it. Will I know?
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Well make sure you know the laws in your state because if something went wrong, you don't want him arrested.
Now as for knowing it's the right time, you will know.
It's good that you and your mom have a good enough relationship to talk about sex. It's good that she is making sure you are protected.
The right time is when you're in love and feel comfortable going to that level on intimacy.
Sex is different for everyone. Since it'd be your first time, it will most likely hurt. But if he does everything right, it won't be too bad. There is no really "good" at sex, especially your first time. The first time you do it, you'll just be trying things out. And as for feeling different, that's different for each person. My personal experience, I didn't feel different after at all. Some people say they do.
Just because you're in love, it doesn't mean that it's time to have sex. As long as you're on birth control and using condoms, feel completely comfortable and have no doubts then everything is fine. So take your time.
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Even writing this is hard. I was dating my ex boyfriend for 6 months, for the first 3 months, everything went so well. We were so close, physically and emotionally. We have been split for 3 months now and all I can do is think about him. The reason we split up is because to me, it seemed as though he was getting really bored and I felt as though he lost interest so fast. We used to argue all the time, and I just got fed up, so I ended it. I changed my number and tried to move on, somehow he still crosses my mind, every day I find myself doing things when I'm really busy, and I still think about him. Sometimes, I can cry for hours about him. I am so deeply in love with him, but I know he's no good. He treated me like crap, and the countless arguments bored me. I've currently just got into a relationship, for about 3 weeks now, to one of my long time friendships. He's amazing, he brings out the best in me, he knows how to treat me & I feel a lot for him. I can't decide, the feelings I have for them both... My ex boyfriend sent me a message, telling me how much I meant to him. It made me cry for endless hours. I'm confused, heartbroken, stressed and I just feel like shutting everything out and moving away.
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You already know that your ex is no good for you. I obviously wouldn't advise you to go back to a guy who treated you like crap when you have a guy who treats you great.
Right now you're in a tough situation. You need to move on from your ex. You also shouldn't be with your current boyfriend. You said you are so deeply in love with your ex, it's just not fair to him.
Take some more time and space. Don't talk to your ex, if you have his number, delete it, and don't be friends with him on Facebook.
And then with your current boyfriend, tell him you need some time to figure things out. And while you're not talking to them, figure things out and find a way to really move on.
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hi ive been trying not to purge but I just did 12 times...13f btw. how does one stop being bulimic? (link)
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These kinds of things are hard to overcome by yourself. Do you already go to counseling or therapy?
If you do, good. Keep going and make sure you work with them. If you don't, you need to start. It's hard to do this on your own and if you have people helping you, you'll be able to handle it much easier.
Just keep working at it and soon you'll overcome this. Lots of people go through it, so you're definitely not alone.
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Hi everyone so I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend is 19 almost 20 and we have been together for over a year and I am obsessed with him. Not in a stalker way or anything but I am so in love with him. I have never had to many friends because I like to stay clear of drama but my best friend is dating my brother so I don't enjoy hanging out with them...and when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends I have nothing to do...ever..unless I'm working. And I don't really like many of his friends ..they're obnoxious immature and rude. What can I do to be less obsessed with him and maybe make a friend. I feel pathetic but my life completely revolves around him..he didn't make it that way ..I did...and I don't know how to adjust it. Thank you!!
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I actually understand how you feel. It almost ruined my relationship.
The best thing to do is make time for yourself. Find things to do that you enjoy. Like start new hobbies.
It's a good way to make friends if you go out and try new things. There are so many things you can do.
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My daughter just started her period and the month after that she didn't have one and it's been 3 months since then. I know FOR SURE it's not pregnancy but I have no idea what it could be. (link)
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A lot of young girls have irregular periods. Many things can change the cycle like stress, illness and her diet.
If you become concerned go see a gynecologist because they can actually figure out what's going on and why she hasn't had her period.
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Hello. Me and my boyfriend have been dating ever since May. We used to text a lot and then after that he had to go to two camps for two weeks and couldn't talk to me. Well now since he returned he does little to no texting me at all. He's ignored me for two days. He posts stuff on instagram but idk why he wouldnt see my texts! What should I do? Help me please!!! :( (link)
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You're gonna have to talk to him face to face.
I'd say maybe he was busy but since you said he's been on instagram and anything else, then he's probably losing interest.
It is really immature of him to do something like this. He's handling how he feels the wrong way. So you need to talk to him face to face and ask him what's going on. If you can't see him, then try calling him. But honestly, I'd find a way to see him and figure out what's going on.
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I'm 13. I have this weird way of thinking about guys. I think about their shoe size and then my mind wanders to the penis. I stop myself a lot. But then I think when is the right time to lose my virginity to one of those penises???? O_o (link)
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The right time to have sex is when you are older and dating a guy who you can trust.
Everyone will tell you to wait till you are older. Obviously because there are consequences that could happen if you're not prepared. First of all, having sex is a big deal. So you'd have to be emotionally and mentally ready. Which I believe isn't at 13 because of hormones and such.
Then of course you'd have to be prepared with protection. You would obviously need to use condoms but also on birth control because you don't want to get pregnant.
And even with that, you still could run the risk of becoming pregnant. Then of course there are STDs.
Then you'd have to be physically ready. Your body is still growing so you won't enjoy sex because it will hurt like crazy.
So once you have the right guy, and you're prepared mentally, emotionally, physically and you have protection, then that's when it's the right time to have sex.
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Okay i am 13 and i had difficulty with my period when it came on at first. But now it come on regularly. But It supposed to be the week for it to come on. I haven't been sexually active. So is this normal or what. I really need advice. (link)
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It is normal because so many things can make a period become irregular. It could be stress, getting sick, and your diet.
So I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you become concerned, then talk to your mother. If you still don't get it after awhile, then she could take you to the gynecologist and they can figure out why you haven't gotten your period.
But I don't think you have anything to worry about.
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Hi, we have been dating for 2 and a half years and we live together. he is a reserved and quiet person. what does he mean when he says,''he doesn't want to split up but he also don't to live like this,'' that means arguing most of the days. thanks guys! (link)
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It sounds like he's considering breaking up.
So you guys argue a lot? Obviously it's going to get to him and he's not going to be happy. He's pretty much saying he cares about you still but he doesn't like fighting and can't deal with it.
So you should probably talk about it and work things out. Find a way to get through your problems without arguing or fighting.
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I'm 13 and in the U.S. I have been liking this one boy for almost a year. And everyone keeps telling me that I am too young for a boyfriend. What age is too young??? And how do I avoid the comments like you're to young??? (link)
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In my own personal opinion, I think 13 is too young. Mostly because young teenage boys aren't really mature enough to handle an actual relationship. A lot of them like to push more than holding hands and kissing. They want to become sexual because they're hormones are going crazy and obviously, it's not a good idea to become sexual that early in life.
So that's the main reason people think 13 is a really young age to start dating. It's not that they think you're not mature enough to have a boyfriend and hold hands and talk all the time but because of sex.
I don't think you'll be able to avoid the comments because if you tell someone you're dating, they'll most likely have an opinion about it.
Anyways, I think you should ask your parents if you can date. If this guy that you've liked, likes you too, then talk to your parents. Having your parents approval is best because then he can come over sometimes, they'll get to know him better and you'll be able to see him outside of school. If they say no, then just wait because having their trust is way more important.
So good luck and I really hope everything works out!
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For a while now, I've liked my guy friend as more than a friend, but I'm not sure he likes me back.
He always reads my blog when no one else does, and he talks to me when I sit next to him in lessons. When I sit next to him, he acts comical and does things like take my ruler or swap out pens.
He sometimes leans on me when he's talking to the boy sitting the other side of me, and our elbows will often be touching for minutes at a time (with neither of us moving them).
I sometimes see him looking at me, and when he talks to me when we sit opposite each other, he often looks at me in the eyes.
We like the same things, so he often messages me links about them,, or puts funny things.
What do you think? What should I do to subtly tell him I like him as more than a friend, if I should?
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It does sound like he is interested in you as more than a friend. But you can't be totally sure because he could just end up being a really friendly friend. But honestly, it does sound like he likes you or is at least interested in you.
I think you should flirt with him a little bit and see how he reacts. If he takes it well then you know he's into you. You could also invite him to hang out and go somewhere and see how that goes when it's just the two of you.
But definitely flirt.
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15/f this guy 17/m we have been talking for like two months now he goes to my school. we talk all the time and its not awkward or anything we are really good friends and we talk about anything and everything. he'll usually always text me first and he'll say he thinks im a cool person and a cool person to talk to, im attractive, im really down to earth, nice and everything. and the other day we were talking about how when we both at a party I was drunk and that was the first we were talking really and he wasn't drinking and I wanted to hook up (make out) with him just because it was a spontaneous thing but he was like I cant im talking to this girl they had like a thing or whatever but now that's over I was telling him how that night I didn't like him and he was like was it because I didn't hook up with you and I said I think that had something to do with it and he said did you want to hook up and I said yeah I think so and then he asked if I still wanted to and I said yeah I would. and by this point he had been asking me to hangout for a while so I said oh this is why you wanna hangout and he said no if I just wanted to hook up with you I would've just asked and never talked to you again I actually really wanna hangout with you because I like talking to you. so I am so confused if hes just "beating around the bush" with I like this about and I like that about you, he wont come out and say I like you but I have no idea. I asked my friend whos in his grade if hes really talking to anyone and she said no hes not. his best friend that im friends with told me he was talking about me saying that he thinks im a cool girl and about the hook up thing and how hes not really looking for a relationship. but I don't even know if I am either I just want to know how he feels about me only because If I hook up with another guy I don't want him to think like he doesn't mean anything to me or whatever so im just confused (link)
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It does sound like he's into you, but not into having a relationship or being serious with you.
He doesn't sound like a bad guy who is using you, because he didn't hook up with you when you were drinking as he was talking to another girl.
Anyways, I think what you should do is talk to him about it. He isn't being straight up with you so it'd make me think he's just into a casual thing. So it's best to ask him about it. Just ask him if he likes you and see where it goes from there. If he says, "Yeah I do, but..." then you know he's not looking for anything more than a casual thing and then you'll know if he'll be upset if you get with another guy.
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I'm an 18 year old girl and I've been dating my boyfriend who's 19 for a year now. We've been best friends for years. He moved away a bit over a year ago and moved back to be with me. Everything's been going great until recently. He still tells me he loves me and we're getting engaged soon, but recently all he's been doing is playing video games almost non-stop. I try to talk to him saying I want to spend more time with him; he says he's sorry and promises we'll do more together but it doesn't change. Even when we go out with friends, it's typically to his friends' place to play more games. What should I do? Does he not love me as much anymore? Am I doing something wrong? I try to see even if he'll let me play games with him but he plays with his friends instead. I don't know if I'm over-reacting but it's bothering me and wish he'd put a little more effort into spending time with just us. Any advice would be great! (link)
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I don't think you're over reacting. It does seem like he needs to put a little bit more effort into you guys rather than video games.
He needs to have a balance when he's in a relationship. Because if he doesn't pay attention to you, he's not paying attention to the relationship and that can cause it to go downhill.
I know you've talked to him about it before, but try one more time.
Make sure you have enough time to let it all out. Don't start pointing fingers at him but make sure he knows this is actually upsetting you.
Tell him that this is actually becoming a problem and it's been really bothering you. You want to spend more time just the two of you.
He just really needs to understand he can't neglect the relationship.
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i'm 13 i've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and i kind of want to sex. idk though. help!? (link)
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You shouldn't have sex when you're not sure. Kind of is not sure. When you are having doubts, you don't have sex.
I'm sure you're aware of things that can happen if you do have sex.
If you do decide to have sex, make sure you're on birth control because you don't want to get pregnant. Also, use condoms.
One of the consequences of having sex is pregnancy. I'm sure being 13, you're not ready to be a mother. You definitely don't have the money to take care of a child.
Also STDs, so you need to be aware of these things.
Besides those two, your body just isn't ready. I'm sure you only started your period a couple years ago. So your body is still growing and it will hurt like crazy if you have sex right now. It'll be enjoyable to your partner but it won't be fun for you.
Also, sex is an intimate thing. A lot of girls just jump in because they think it will be fun and it won't effect them at all. But I've known lots of girls who have suffered emotionally because it ended up being a big deal.
I'd suggest you wait until you are older. You've only been with your boyfriend for 9 months. It's better to wait till you are 100% sure.
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Ok. I'm 13. And I have just discovered masturbation. I have Also discovered many different things like toys and dildos. Buy I can't get one of those. I'm not 18. So I have held back being afraid I was too young. But will I still be a virgin if I stick my finger in? And u haven't gotten my period yet so it scares me that I could bleed and have to explain to my mother that it isn't my period. I'm a little scared and some advice would help. (link)
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It's actually normal to masturbate.
You won't bleed unless you do it too roughly or something. So don't worry about that.
And you'll be a virgin until you have sex.
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