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just had major relapse
hi ive been trying not to purge but I just did 12 times...13f btw. how does one stop being bulimic?
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Bulimia is a very serious eating disorder that if not corrected can have a life threatening outcome. Forced vomiting causes the electrolytes in your body to become unbalanced. These electrolytes are what control how are body functions. Being out of balance can cause anything from kidney failure to a heart attack.
Am I trying to scare you, yes, by telling you the plain unvarnished truth about a very serious illness. One that takes professional counseling and supervision by a medical doctor to overcome.
Most likely you are hiding this from friends and family; most bulimics do. The first step to a cure is telling your parents what you have been doing. Will they be upset? Yes. Will they holler and scream? Maybe. Why? Because they will be terrified at what is happening. It is a normal reaction. Once they calm down and realize that screaming and yelling will not fix things they will contact your family doctor.
It is a normal reaction for a parent to scream at their child when they do something dangerous. Bulimia certainly falls into the category of dangerous. Try not to scream back at them as this only makes things worse. You know you are in serious health danger. Mom and dad are going to be scared, then they will settle down and do the right thing.
The fix for this illness does not happen over night. Depending just how bulimic you are and what if any physical damage you have done to yourself will determine how long you will need to be in treatment to recover. You will most likely need to see a medical doctor who specializes in eating disorders. You will also need to see a psychologist for talk therapy to find the root cause of why you turned to this and help you deal with the cause in a better manner. You will most likely need to see a nutritionist to help mom with meal planning if you are grossly under weight.
When you are under weight even by as few as 10 pounds you body starts to feed on itself which also upsets the electrolytes in your body. If you body does not get the nutrients it needs to sustain itself it starts to shut down things.
So what you need to do right now is talk to your parents and get the proper help. This is not something you can do yourself.
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These kinds of things are hard to overcome by yourself. Do you already go to counseling or therapy?
If you do, good. Keep going and make sure you work with them. If you don't, you need to start. It's hard to do this on your own and if you have people helping you, you'll be able to handle it much easier.
Just keep working at it and soon you'll overcome this. Lots of people go through it, so you're definitely not alone.
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Most anyone would say that you need to being getting some supportive counseling. I dont know if that is currently happening. If not, its a good thing to try.
As a person without psinner voice will tell you if he's being hychology training, just knowing what I know from life experience, sometimes it helps really well in addition to what the textbooks say, because your mind will be able to relate to it.
It is becoming widespread today, 10 yr olds and up who have a poor body image complex and so they diet and try all the fashions and makeup and hairstyles. Forever they are trying to look like the girls in the TV ads targeted at young girls to get their money. Marketers weren't getting enough sales on products from older women...maybe its due to the economy and something had to go off the budget. But the trends and polls show that many 10-14 yr olds have their own money to spend. The marketers then began to focus on convincing the young girls that they needed to look like celebrities and models do at their age.
It's all a big lie to make money off of you. Do you know that your body has another 12 years of growing before all of it will be as mature as it will get including your brain which matures at mid twenties. What your body looks like now is not what it will look like at 25. Go check on line and put a search for celebrities without makeup on. I think you will be shocked just at their faces, what they look like in real life before holly-wood makeup artists did their tricks and optical illusions with makeup. The fact is that there is no such thing as normal people looking anything like what movies and ads tell us they do. So you end up striving to be something that is not real. You have just about as much chance at striving and becoming a fire breathing dragon as you do of becoming this image of a beautiful woman that you have inside your head because neither one is REAL!
Here are two facts in life. Kids your age do not have good judgement yet since their brains aren't done becoming mature until mid twenties so they make bad decisions, one of which is picking on their peers for their weight, their clothing, their looks, their beliefs, their race..etc. Know that its all what they believe in their heads, you don't have to accept and believe what they say. It's not easy but spend the time hanging with those who have nothing to prove and are happy to be themselves and you will find acceptance.
The other fact is that when we finally grow into adults, all people develop their own personal tastes in what attracts them appearance wise to another. There are men who would not look at a thin petite woman like me twice because they are attracted to Big chubbier women. Some prefer woman younger than themselves and others prefer woman way older than themselves ranging from 10-20 yrs older, some like the mothering nurturing type while others are attracted to the businesswoman type. Some are actually turned off by women with the fake boobs and liposuctions and makeup etc. I know...I attract the ones who like the natural look and I am in my fifties. I am surprised at how many men will make comments to me, and i am married, that they find me very attractive. I have some very visible wrinkles but that doesnt matter. They know it comes with age. Honey don't change who you are to try to fit a mold that is fake to begin with. There are many guys who will find you to be special because they notice the sweet person inside, not just the looks on the outside. It's the average natural looking girls who have an easier time finding a man to marry someday because the guys who want them want the real thing, not some holly wood fake so this needs to addressed in your sub conscious. A professional can take you through this. But you can start talking to your sub conscious. I know you know this is not good or you would not be trying to consciously stop. Problem is your sub conscious where all your feeling and emotions come from may not be on the same page with you as your conscious mind, therefore when you try, you find yourself failing.
If you havent talked to yourself and answered yourself before, now is the time to learn how. You will find this very helpful throughout your life. Just start asking yourself questions and you will eventually begin to have the answers pop into your head. Its much like there are two of you inside of you. If its easier give your subconscious self another name. Eventually you can find out what name she prefers. My subconsious told me to call her Selena. So I do. Just start getting used to talking to yourself and you may discover what her fears or concerns are. Whenever you feel sad or upset, or fearful or angry, it's time to tune in to your inner self and start asking why. This is important if you wish your mind to become healthier so you can begin to make better decision. Go look up the celebrities without makeup as I mentioned earlier and start working on discovering whats wrong. Then give yourself pep talks about how great you really are and let yourself know you are sorry for putting yourself through all this impossible stuff and the pressure to try to look a certain way. Another thing you could do is look up on line what natural breasts look like with pics submitted by teens thru 20-s mostly but some older. And they have men that love how they look. I have a daughter with one boob larger than the other. Not noticeable in clothing but it is when she is nude. She has a great boyfriend who is attracted to her...no problem for him. Here is that site: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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