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I don't know who to believe!
I have a male friend (we'll call him Bob), and a female friend (we'll call her Jane)They are not really friends with each other/ don't know each other well. But Janes best friend went out with Bob for a while. Thier relationship was on and off. Now Bob is the kind of guy who goes out with a lot of girls (never at the same time though)
Recently Bob broke up with a girl. She said it was because he showed her his you know what on web cam... but he said she showed him her you know whats too... then he broke up with her becasue she lied to everyone and made him out to be a perv... I believed him.
But now, I found out from Jane that he had told her friend that they could work it out, and that they should have sex so they could feel closer... then he slept with her and ignored her for 2 weeks before saying it wouldn't work out. If this is true, then I know she is nieave, and he is a pig.
The thing is I don't know what to believe. Is my friend a pig, who took advanage of the girl, or is she just stirring things up???
-She told a lot of people but 'didn't want to make it a big thing'(even set it as her status on a social networking site)
-She asked me not to tell him she told me
-He has always seemed a very nice guy to me, a really good friend who I can trust
-Could the whole webcam story be true, and I just ignored it?
Who do I believe? My friend, or my friends best friend?
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It's really hard to give a straight answer with questions like these because we don't know the people or see how they act, but you do so you should make your best judgement.
This thing right now going on is just a bunch of drama. You shouldn't get too involved. This thing going on between them is between the two of them.
If this did happen with her, it makes sense to talk about it but not to spread it on a social networking site. That just causes unnecessary drama.
So eventually you'll find out who's lying and who's not but for now, don't get involved. If they start talking about it with you or something, just stay out of it.
Any of it could be true, just be careful or you could lose some friends over something that had nothing to do with you.
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When someone is pretending to be someone they are not, the truth will eventually be glaringly clear, because it takes a tremendous amount of energy from the mind to keep up the false persona. Most all people finally drop the falseness and show their real self once they think they have you convinced.
So who ever is not being straight with you will eventually make mistakes so it will be easy for you to see.
Don't try to 2nd guess everything. Just spend time around both people and watch what they say and do.
Do they take themselves out of integrity? Do they lie to themselves, others, not able to keep their word/their promises, They don't stand for anything...no consistant morals or ethics. The person who shows themselves to be anything like that is someone you must
never believe what they are saying. People like that are best not allowed to be your close inner circle of friends...that includes boyfriends.
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