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Q: i know its stupid but all my friends and other guys in my grade keep giving me crap about the guy i'm going out with. i love him so much. and he means the world to me. i hate it when people give me this crap though. and one of my friends that i thought was my friend did something that she "claims" she didn't do. its a long story, but i didn't think she'd do it. i don't know how to handle it. please help me. i need to know what to say to people when they give me this crap. thanks in advance. i rate high.

If people ask you "Sally why would you go out with him.. ick.." or whatever be like hey i like him for him not him for his looks. Hes nice to me he treats me good and i like that. He makes me feel speacial and loved. And i like that. Nothing is wrong in that answer. its a safe answer-hope i helped you please rate me!!

Trixxy

Q: Is there anything i can do for a sore tailbone? Plz Help!

Just relax.. you cant reallly do anything for it.. just relax

Q: hey its me again lol. i need sum help....u kno how ive been telling u bout that "new" gurl that ive been talking to?... well me and her r meeting each other for the first time 2morrow and i got the shakes....weve got this thing planned so we walk around the mall for a little while them we go to the movies and i dont kno what to do... wat if she doesnt like the way i look or sumthin else like that??.... i need sum help bc im gettin real nervous and ive got to meet her 2morrow morning so idk what to do>>
ur friend ben

Alright ben! u've gotta just have confidence in urself and just go from there.. every time you feel uncomfortable comment on somethin you like about her without sounding creepy though.. I like it when i get complimented. I wouldnt really take there appearence into mind so much if they had a good attitude. Yeah its the first impression but the personality fills it all. Dont be all like uhhh.. uhh.. duh! lol if you know what i mean. Just keep it casual like you would be around me.. unless that makes you nervous ben. But anyways.. just act like you've known her forever.. just dont be a slob. dont burp or whatever. Make sure you wear nice clothes. Dont wear all black either lol. Maybe if you have kakki's or whatever and a nice shirt.. im not talking dressing up.. no stains :) tho.. just dress nice buddi! Dont worri if she doesnt like you for you.. she has issues :) your friend.. trixxy!!

Q: Ok. Well There's 3 Boys that i really like, the one i like the most, has a girlfriend, so i guess he doesn't count. But i still really like him, i also like 2 other guys, and the one asked me out, and i like him, but not as much as the one with the girlfriend, but he has a girlfriend, so i dont know if i'll ever get him, and the other dude, i just found out likes me. What should i do ? Sorry if this post is kindah confusing. ! *`' .

I wouldnt go for the one with the gf.. you took care of that yourself though. I've ran into this.. i got asked out 4 times in 1 day.. it was all crushes.. i told them hey listen i just got asked by 3 other guys.. i know i like you but i need to make sure i make the right decision. So i made a lil checklist about who cares about me more, who i would see more, who would talk to more, be honest w/me, trust me, love me, be sweet to me and ect. try that sort of stuff-good luck hun!! guys are sometimes tricky haha-trix-plz rate

Q: well im really good friends with this guy and i like him a lot because were so close and similar and i think we both like eachother and we talk about everything but he always asks out other girl who turn him down, doesnt he know that im righ tin front of him and were perfect for eachother how can i help him see that?

All i can say is... TaLk To HiM aBoUt It!!!!! but the best thing is you should just ask him urself, it's possible that he likes you so much.. he's too chicken to ask you and that he thinks you'd turn him down-trix plz rate muah!

Q: me and this guy "B" went out 4 a year. he then went 2 a different school, and now starting high school, we go to the same one. were talking again...were eachothers 1st loves...except we didnt lose it wit each other. when we broke up he got with someother girl and they ended up doing it a few times. but when this school year started we have been talking alot laytlee...and well do u think it'll b weird if i lost it with him?!

Well.. your kinda young but i wouldnt say no it wouldnt be bad.. not if you both love eachother and make sure you wont regret it-trix ((plz rate))

Q: i like my bf so much im 14 nd we've done everything except sex and anal i love him so much but lately i havent been hanging out with my friends as much and he gets mad wen i do i noe he dont trust me but idc but i wanna hang out with friends!! i miss them and like wen i do he gets mad and we hardly talk and my dad sed if i dnt start hanging out with my friends then hes guna end me nd my bf nd like i told my bf that nd we started crying nd stuff nd he sed he didnt wanna loose me but he cant get over the fact that were guna have to break up if i dont start hanging out with my friends ...either way he gets mad at me ..what should i do
x3 confused

Pfft.. let him go. My god.. he sounds controlling.. thats not right. You need someone that'll let you hang out with your friends and not him 24/7 you dont wanna be a lockup. He sounds controlling. I wouldnt want a boyfriend like that. That can be hard if you ask me so I would just let him know that you guys need to take a break or he needs to lighten up a bit and let you hang out with your friends more often. Its either you with your friends and him being nicer or not. Its his decision-trix (plz rate)

Q: okay im with this guy. i REALLY like him a lot and everything and im into being active with a guy like making out and everything. i've given head and been fingered and made-out with a guy before all in one night and it was my frist time for everything, but im not sure if my boyfriend right now is into all of that. He said he's eaten a girl out,fingered, and made-out, but i was talking to this other guy (that im kinda interested in) and he said that he probably wouldn't do anything with me. BUT my problem is..i really want to do stuff with this other guy and we've talked and everything..and decided that if we do mess around, neither one of us is going to tell anyone else. Im not sure what to do. I really like my boyfriend, but i REALLY wanna mess around with this other guy! Would it be bad for stuff to happen and noone find out? ahh.

Well.. i think you should maybe take a break from your boyfriend at least and not cheat on him. Would you want to be cheated on? I dont think so i would just take a break from your boyfriend and then mess around but word still might get out. doesnt rele matter on how you guys promise its amazing how word gets around-trix

Q: I really like this boy named demetri. He looks so good.......mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!~~~well i guess i dont really like him, but i wanna get to know him so bad and he dosn't wanna get to know me at all. He ignores me and he avoids me. Hes friends with these girls that are such b*tches!!She tried to pick a fight with me in the lunchroom. I know he was behind this!!!!!!I juss met him this year, but he acts like hes hated me forever. How can i make him my friend or at least talk to me??? Dont tell me hes not worth it----people always tell me that. But theres just something about him........I like it!! Amd my instincts are usually right........Help!!!!

talk to people that u know that maybe know him, and have them talk to him thats kind of a hard question. Well.. as much as you didn't want to hear it.. he really ISN'T worth it if he treats you like that! But, however, you don't beleive that..so... I'd say that you could talk to him if u have a class with him. Start up a conversation. Then he'd have a chance to get to know you more and then he'd realise what kind of person you really are. Then he can decide if he wants to be your friend. And if not, then I don't see how you could like a kind of person like that. I'd leave it up to you then!-trix

Q: i've had this cough for about a month long. at the beginning it was from a severe cold or something. but i've been around my sister a lot who smokes and i have asthma. could it be from second hand smoke getting into me? any ideas? i rate *HiGH*

it most likely is from the smoking.. second hand smoke is the worst thing for asmtha next to smoking itself (plz rate) trix

Q: I just got spacers about 4 hours ago. I felt just a pinch when I got them on but now they hurt so much I cannot bite down. On Jan. 12 I will be getting braces. I am wondering are they going to hurt more then the spacers, and how can I relieve the pain. Thanks in advance.

its just the teeth moving and the pain will eventually go away the braces will most likely hurt the same amount maybe a little more than the spacers.. but it goes away after a day or two.. you can take advil.tylonol, ibuprofh.. any pain releiver.

Q: hey guys it is funkyfresh.. i give advice but now i need some bad! well okay.. there is this guy matt k and a guy matt n (best friends scary i kno) they both like me (even scarier!) and i dont go to the same school as either of them! i have mixed feelings and have no ideas on what to do! any advice!
((x o ♥ Michelle))

i say see if you get really mad from jealousy if you went out with the other.. and if so don't go out with either one.. and if they wouldn't then don't tell anyone ur plan and go a week seeing which one you like more and which one treats you better.. then decide from what you figure in that week. See who cares more.. and talks more.. and ect-trix ((plz rate))

Q: is it normal for a 13/m to all of the sudden get a searing anger that he squeezes his fists and tightens his jaw so as not to do something drastic?

because thats been happening a couple times a day to me lately. is it normal? it happens for about 2 seconds then goes away. thank you.

Alrighty.. i asked a couple of my friends.. that were guys and they told me that yeah it's normal it's just a change in hormones -trix

Q: I dont mean to have a blonde moment here, what what the heck is a stick shift???

--Clueless

it's in cars where u have to shift gears urself instead of the car doing it for you like in race cars (plz rate) trix .. plus dont worri bout them blonde moments.. i get em all the time.. I actually one time asked what sunroof was.. eh.. ya im a blonde to! its all good tho! haha

Q: ok ya*ll i love to sing and i hate singing in front of people and when itell people this they laugh and say get over it and i think i am a good singer but no1 will belive me if i cant sing out loud help me and please dont say gEt OvA It signed *RaIsE Ur VoIcE*

Well when singing i'd look at someone you know. Someone thats makes you feel confident. Thats what i do when giving speeches. I am pretty confident myself when i look at someone i am good friends with. but you could just practice singing in front of people you know really well like ur family then a couple friends then more friends and then you'll gradually get more comfortable singing in front of anyone (trix) plz rate!

Q: ok, on dec 22 this guy whom i liked gave me a ring. after skool that day, we started going out. we go places after skool and talk on the phone all the time and we're going to the mall tomorrow (tuesday)...but i still feel kinda distant from him...like on the phone there's long silences.how can i make it so that i don't feel like that without telling him i feel like that?*kinda confuszing but plz help!*

Eh.. I wouldnt worry to much about it. I have silences with my bf on the phone alot but we are extremely close.. I mean thats normal for silences cuz u dont always have something to say. Thats okay. I feel distant when im not around him because i just miss him. Thats probably the same for you!-trix ((plz rate))

Q: i have been dating this guy for 5 months. when he's not around, i miss him to death.. but when he's around, he drives me nuts. it seems like he wants me to do stuff with him .. and i do. when we're done doing whatever, he just leaves! i don't know what to say to him! will someone please help me.

Sounds like a asshole.. if you ask me.. but i would just see if thats all he wants you for. Sounds to me like he may be using you. You deserve better and you know that. I understand your scared of talking.. but i'd say the best thing to do is to talk to him you aren't going to figure out the problem and a good solution if you don't talk to the guy talk to him first and go from there i mean dont let what he does.. bother you.. unless he does it to.. then i would seriously get help then he could be a bit abbusive-trix ((plz rate))

Q: Ok.. I just wanna know if its uh.. normal. or feel way to overwelmed about sex. I know it ment to be pleasurable and stuff. But that fact of something going inside of me. Is wayy disgusting its like my fear.. kinda. I cant help the feel. and it pisses me off.
Im Bisexual and it even goes for finger or tampons i just get so grossed out. Is this normal??
will i get over it.

You will probably get over. I mean you are probably young. So.. just wait.. -trix

Q: I have been having this problem for quite sometime. I am a cutter. And i can't really stop. I have been going to counseling and I had been taken off antidepressants. My mood hasnt gotten any better, it feels alittle worse. Parents are no help, my dad thinks that I am doing this for attention and he yelled and screamed at me saying that I am faking everything and its just a waste of money to keep the counseling going. So now, I am not in that anymore. I feel terrible, worse possibly. And my freind who I have known since the second grade is going through problems, she is cutting herself and trying to kill herself. I have been trying to give her advice but, how do I give advice to someone who is doing the same things as me? I need some major help and someone to talk to.

Alright if you dad cares about money maybe you have a Youth Works near you.. They dont make you pay unless you can. Or if you dont.. maybe you have a older cousin whom you can talk to. I actually do both. But you just need to know for whatever reason your cutting.. is worth cutting over.. cut something else.. a apple.. i know thats dumb.. but i know you'd rather not hurt yourself. Thats terrible. I really wish you the best of luck!! My friend was a fake cutter she cut sideways.. instead up n down.. but she went into a residential home.. she is a lil bit better... she came along way.. idk if thats something you would want to do.. but if u want to help yourself n your friend.. that sumin you should consider-trix ((plz rate))

Q: well my question is that ok i have a boyfriend and he asked me out on wednesday and he told me the first day that he loves me and i mean i beileve it and all but he doesnt says it that much because it makes me feel bad i really like him a lot and i know later on in my life that i will but how do you know you love somebody bc i feel like s0 happy with him and im like scared to love somebody else bc my last realtionship i got like really hurted and i told him hiw how i felt and he said he w0nt hurted me he hasnt really hurted me.. or anything.. but i really dont know what to do bc i d0 wanna love him but i wanna know h0w d0 you know when u love somebody? if you could help me that would s0 nice! he told me last night that he loves me a lot and that he wants to be with me forever i mean i beileve it all but still i was like all shock but i mean i just wish i could feel da same.. and he told me he doesnt know if he can wait u know because im like still a virgin.. so what should i do?

Try and move on you know... you are probably like 13-16 somewhere between those lines but anyways.. you have a life ahead of thats going to be filled with alot of guys and you need to open up to them and im not going to lie you are going to get hurt but thats apart of life and that part sucks but we move on. thats why we are here to help also same goes for your friends. You will always have somebody to turn to when you get hurt so dont feel scarred to open up to your boyfriend Good luck hun! **plz rate me** *trixxie*

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"