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distant
ok, on dec 22 this guy whom i liked gave me a ring. after skool that day, we started going out. we go places after skool and talk on the phone all the time and we're going to the mall tomorrow (tuesday)...but i still feel kinda distant from him...like on the phone there's long silences.how can i make it so that i don't feel like that without telling him i feel like that?*kinda confuszing but plz help!*
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Eh.. I wouldnt worry to much about it. I have silences with my bf on the phone alot but we are extremely close.. I mean thats normal for silences cuz u dont always have something to say. Thats okay. I feel distant when im not around him because i just miss him. Thats probably the same for you!-trix ((plz rate))
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your right.. this is confusing lol what i would do is to either try tellin him how you feel or just kind of invite him to bring up the subject of the conversation. i normall y ask him what he thinks about so n so, or ask him questions, or play games. see if that works
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maybe you could ask him how he feels about your relationship.if u don't get anywhere with it, i think it is best you break-up.
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you cant always have something to say as you need to breath.It is the beginning of the relationship so get to know him so you will have more to talk about and yes it was kinda confusing
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Ask if anything's wrong, not asking why he's distant. Don't come to any conclusions immediately, just seem concerned in his personal life. Try to get involved in his life too, don't stay as "just a gf" or anything, ask him to go do things. Hope I helped!
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hmm... im me on YourEvrydayLoser and we will talk about it more. -Steven
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i know how ya feel! that happens to me and my boyfriends all the time...but eventually ya'all will hang out more and have a LOT of stuff to talk about just give it some time. But for now if there iz a silence just start randomly talking or ask him questions...talk about what you did that day or when ya'all are goin to see each otha next and what ya'all will do..k hope i helped a liddle IM me on oopassionkissez if yah want k babe ttyl good luck!
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Awe. Well this boy obvisioly atleast seems caring =] Well what I would do is whenever the silence is happening just start up another convo because you wouldn't wanna loose someone this awesome lol <3 hope I helped lol
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well it hasnt been very long since ya'll started dating so the silences will stop eventually.
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Well when you have those awkward pauses, ask him some stuff about his life. That way there won't be any awkwardness and you get to know more about him!
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Heyy..well ok you shouldn't really feel distant since you guys did just start going out...and i definently know how you feel about the phone thing because there is usually silence between me n my boyfriend a lot on the phone until someone thinks of something to talk about..so maybe when you're not doing anything just write down on a sheet of paper all the things you guys could talk about and then mayb you'll just sort of bond lol..and if u still feel distant from him go out w/ him a lot and just get close n flirty w/ him lol ;) i hope that helped..if it didnt e-mail me @ spicyx0hott@netscape.net
spicyx0hott xOx
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I have been in that situation many times myself and I know that it can be frustrating. Since you do like this guy I would suggest asking him questions about himself and the things that he likes to do. That is not to say that you should make him feel as though he stepped into a 20 questions session. Just ask him about what he thinks about stuff that you know that you share in common or why he is interested in the things that you two do not have in common. Be open and receptive to him. Listen.
He could be shy around you because the relationship is still rather new or he could be nervous because he is a shy guy. It is my experience though that if you make a person feel comfortable enough to share with you who they really are, they will lighten up and enjoy your company much more. Good luck!
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When there is a long silence just say something stupid. Then when he says what was that for say I don't know. Then laugh
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i once had a relationship like that---it didnt work out good at all-----we talked alot on the phone, but we didnt talk about anything important. I'm only 13, but i think that love is like friendship, but better! So that means that you have to have friendship before love. Think---are you his friend?)))))then you can get physical and emotional with him like a real couple should without worring about a harsh heart broken breakup)))because he will always be your friend. the bottom line----work up to being his friend first.
Good luck girl i hope everythang gioes well wit ya boy
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Ok so next time there is a long silence just say "awkward silence" and then laugh. That always works fot me!
*Kate*
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